Why is it ok for men to cheat? And women not.

Cheaters - Women cheaters are often misjudge.
@argie713 (1809)
Philippines
May 20, 2007 10:19am CST
Why is it ok for men to cheat? Compared to women, people just say it's normal for men to cheat. But any woman that cheats would have a very bad reputation. It is not accepted by the community. Women that cheat instantly gets recognized.
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
20 May 07
who are these people who say it is ok for males to cheat? (note, i say male, not man. A male who cheats is not a man, they lack the maturity) I think anyone who cheats is not psychologically ready for the relationship they are in and is deserving of social condemnation, either male or female blessed be
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
20 May 07
I think you're right. They don't have the right to be called men.
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
21 May 07
many thanks for the best response, much appreciated
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@mexshyl (878)
• China
2 Jun 07
Hello, ESKAREBA1. Yeah, I agree with you. Whether male or female, if cheating, they'll deserving of social condemnation. (except white lie)^_^ Have a happy day! :)
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@sjohnson628 (3197)
• United States
20 May 07
I don't think it's okay for either to cheat. I believe if you are going to be in a relationship then you are making a committment to each other. I know what you are saying tho people look down more on women when they cheat. :(
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
21 May 07
Yup. And it's unfair.
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5 Jun 07
i agree. people need to learn the trajectory to become committed and accountable for what they are doing and all that jazz
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@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
20 May 07
I think this is changing as women and men are getting more equal rights and duties in other areas of life. where I live, in norway, i do not think people judge men and women who cheats differently anymore. At least not the people i spend time with.
@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
21 May 07
I hope it applies here in our place.
@jencai (3415)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
This is what I hated so much. My boyfriend always say those lines to me, that it's ok for a man to cheat because they would not lose anything unlike women. I extremely don't agree of what he say. It would be unfair for women if this is true. Men and women were created by God fairly. We should have the same right.
@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
The world is not fair.
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@jencai (3415)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
Yeah, it is somewhat like that.
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@addysmum (1225)
• Canada
4 Jun 07
It's not ok for a man to cheat. A cheating man hurts his spouse (girlfriend)and kids if there are any. Cheating is never ok.
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
Very true.
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
4 Jun 07
It isn't ok for either to cheat, argie. We just live in a male-dominated society that will turn a blind eye to men cheating moreso than women. I think that anyone who cheats is a lowlife-be it man or woman. I would get out of a relationship before I would stoop to cheating. Cheating undermines the self-esteem of the injured party once it is found out. Why would anyone want to do that to another person?
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
Other just do it for fun but they really love the person they are with.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
4 Jun 07
That is true I have noticed that myself. My ex husband acted all concited when I knew for sure he was cheating on me. I use to worry about my weight but he left me for someone a lot bigger then I am. It's alright now though he wasn't happy when I divorced him.
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
That's what you call a hypocrite.
• United States
2 Jun 07
It is NOT ok for a man to cheat. It is NOT ok for ANYONE to cheat. People expect it more out of men because they are more sexually driven than women in most cases. However, that does not give them a free pass to go screwing around.
@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
3 Jun 07
I think women are more sexually driven but don't have the luxury to let it out.
• Philippines
29 May 07
Maybe nature has got something to do with it. Women are always seen as gems and they are expected to act in grace all the time. so it's natural for people to think we are violating nature if we cheat. On the other hand, men sometimes intentionally get into extra affairs coz it boost their macho image and make them feel in control.
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
Quite unfair.
@vega83 (6346)
• Bahrain
29 May 07
It's okay for no one to cheat, man or woman.. Mainly it's excuses that people make. And funnily enough it's mostly women who say that it's in the nature of a man to cheat. I've never heard a man say that yet... It's mainly an individual issue.... People, both men and women cheat for lots of different reasons, sometimes it's to do with their own self-esteem issues, or emotional disconnection with their partners, or something else, but it has nothing to do with their gender. In any case, no reason is a good enough reason to cheat. It's a really cowardly and selfish act that can hurt many others, so it's ok for no one to cheat, and don't listen to people who tell you otherwise...
@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
3 Jun 07
True.
@Zerzis (558)
• India
27 May 07
Who says its ok for men to cheat ?? I think that both sides have self respect and moral bindings, and its not that one is forgivable for it. I think its also important for males to be honest and they dont cheat their wives let whatever happen. Thats all i think about. But yes you are right in pointing that there is natural tendency of finding the women accused to have cheating rather than male.
@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
3 Jun 07
Thanks for the response.
@easyzheng (666)
• China
26 May 07
It's no Ok for men to cheat!!! Nor for women. It's also kind of cheating, hurting and having bad reputation too if a man cheats on his wife. I don't think a man who cheats would escape people's criticism or avoid having a bad name for himself.
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
2 Jun 07
Yes. I agree.
@cassiezm (89)
• Philippines
26 May 07
They would say man is polygamous in nature. Yeah I believe on this..But men should not be this way. Both men and women should be equal.Equal in respect for their partners...Love and respect is not there if one is fooling around..
@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
Men should prove that saying wrong.
@diansinta (7551)
• Indonesia
26 May 07
Justleave when the man cheat, he doesn't deserve us. im sure we will find a perfect gentleman who doesn't cheat.
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
Yup. Just wait for the right one.
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@amgine (226)
• Philippines
22 May 07
one of society's double standard. =(
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
24 May 07
Sad :-(
@kslcash (198)
• United States
21 May 07
It's not OK for men to cheat. SOME of them just do. And most women EXPECT them to do so. As for the question regarding a bad rep women acquire after sleeping with multiple partners, I mean its quite self explanatory. First of all, WOMEN are RARE jewels. We should carry ourselves in a respectable way. What do you hope to accomplish by sleeping with multiple partners? Women are MOTHERS, GRANDMOTHERS, SISTERS.... we have others that look up to us. When my child, grandchild, niece or kids in the community see me I want them to see a RARE jewel and not the TOWN ****. As far as being accepted by the community, as long as I can live with myself, who care if the community accepts me or not. It's all about how you present yourself.
@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
3 Jun 07
Yes, you don't live for the people around you.
@emmanna (97)
• Egypt
21 May 07
well its a fact of our life all over the world men cheating so easily and we also some time forgive that women is so Sensitive cant do this so easy like other men
@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
3 Jun 07
Thanks for the response.
@jillhill (37384)
• United States
20 May 07
For as long as there has been a society there has been a double standard. I don't think it's right for either to cheat. But that's human nature. I think from the beginning of time until now it's assumed that men are judged by their masculinity. Women by there feminity and ablitiy to be mothers....and mother's are supposed to set examples.
@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
25 May 07
Nobody really has the right to cheat.
@jianhong (740)
• Singapore
20 May 07
Nonsense.!! I strongly disagree with people who say that it's okay for man to cheat and not women. To me it is not right in both gender. Both man and woman are equal. I don't see the different between this two gender.
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
21 May 07
Yes. Definitely true. But that the way our society here sees it.
@yasir2010 (284)
• Pakistan
8 Jun 07
u r right but why ,happen find out by urself but with care.ok
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