May 20, 2007 11:06am CST
A mother has all the responsibilities of looking after her kids and moulding them. Does this mean,she has all the right to make all her child's decisions or should she understand that her child is maturing to take decisions ?
20 May 07
Yes, I agree that the mother has all the responsibilites of looking after her kids and moulding them. It is also her responsibility to guide them and teach them to make their own decisions as they grow up. Allowing them to make small and easy decisions while they are young and making them see that they can make the right decisions even if they are just easy ones gives increases their self esteem, self confidence and self respect as well. They learn to think for themselves and are able to decide on minor things while parents are away from home. Whenever I ask my 11 year old son to purchase something for me, I give him concrete details, more particularly details about the cost of the item i am asking him to purchase. I tell him the budget or cost of the item I want him to buy. I tell him if it goes more than the budget, then don't purchase. If it is less, he may purchase. That empowers him to decide which item to purchase. There may be times when I may not exactly like the brand he bought, but then, I still make it a point to show appreciation and gratitude for his decision making and remember to add another detail for the next time I ask him to purchase an item for me. These little things make them remember points that we the parents give value to. As they grow up, they remember the important points we teach them and they learn to apply them in their own decision making. Eventually, at the right age, we can let them go and trust them to make the major decisions for themselves.