My determination to spend time with my daughter more
May 20, 2007 12:47pm CST
I have a wonderful daughter that is 6 years old and I have been a single mom for the whole 6 years. I seperated from my ex husband when she was 2 months old when I found out that he had been living a double life (sort of).I was one of those career women that spent her life at work before she was born. After she was born I decided that to survive being a single mom I would have to stay on the 60 hour work week because of the bills he so generously left behind. Before she was born we had decided that I was going to take the first year off to be with her becuase she had complications when she was born. After her first year I got tired of missing her first's she was having. I was so lucky that I had the support of my grandmother, who thinks I can do anything that I put my mind to. One day myt grandmother made a statement that struck a chord and made me start thinking. She said that it would be great if i could work from home. I had been so busy I never had time to think of a career change. I would think about it and if I ended up having an extra 5 minutes of so I would look at the internet and get disgusted because of all of the work at home scams out there. I was smart enough to know it was a scam before they could scam me. I kind of stopped thinking about it and thought that work at home was a dream that would never happen. I soon got offered a job with a smaller company and thought that it sounded like I would have more time with my daughter so I took it. That move was a big mistake. I ended up working even more hours some weeks. I was so fustrated and realized that 5 years had passed since my daughter was born and I had not had the time with her that I had wanted. I did something bold, one day at work my boss canceled my upcoming vacation that I had planned to be with my daughter for a week with no interuption before she started school. After pleading my case, he still wanted me to be there to work a what would possibly have been a 80 hour week. I gave him my keys to the building and told him that he was my wake up call and I realized that I had to make a change for my daughter and I walked out with a smile. I have since done more research on work at home and I am better for it. I clean houses during the week and still can pick up my daughter from school. I do some typing work for a friend and keep my neighbor's lawn manicured to perfection. I also do things on the internet to make money. My daughter is so happy that I have made changes. She gets to see me more and I get to help her with her studies every afternoon. It is a life that I would not trade for anything. Sure it is hard but well worth the pains.
23 May 07
wow! i really admire you of being a single mom and took care of your daugther as well. keep it up. me too have a daugther but good thing i only work 40 hours a week. so i have 2 days off and i really spend it with her, bonding together and play together. i can't exchange that for anything else here on earth. i really love my daugther even though at times she's so hyper active but i can cope it up just a little discipline. :)
• United States
23 May 07
Yeah where do they get all of that energy. I just went to my daughter's graduation from Kindergarten yesterday and it reaffirmed my choice to stay at home. I admit it has been a big adjustment financially but I am here for my daughter more now than ever.
20 May 07
You know what you want. While we slog at the office, we lose our identity, our home, our family and we do not realise what all we are losing until it is over. You know what you want and are working to achieve this. Unfortunate things have happened to you. But you know how to take care of things. I agree that earning on Internet is all exagerrated stuff. The reality is far from what we are told to believe. But you are from US and it is somewhat better for US residents. You can join few good programmes to earn money and it would help. Have you joined Marketing Pond? If you like to know about it, please send a PM to me. This is one single place where you can put all your earning sites for promotion as a bundle. I wish you and your daughter all the best. I wish you had put a few photographs of her on the myLot profile.