What would it take to make your self happy?

@RobinJ (2501)
Canada
May 20, 2007 1:01pm CST
Good morning As I was sitting here I was thinking what would it take to make me happy. In my case a bit more money per month, a few personal friend I might spend time with, coffee, lunch movies etc. That my medication be a bit better working, More time spent with family. I could say a lot more but I would love to hear what would it take for you to be happy. all answers welcome. What is working or not working for you?
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@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
20 May 07
There are a few, but major, things that I would like to change in order to make me happy. I want to be in less pain - or to have some medication that helps. I would like to become a mother. And i wish that all ill people get better. I would like some good news healthwise for a change. Other than that i am pretty happy. I have enough money to live comfortably - i do not have to worry about where to get the money to cover my bills. I have wonderful friends and family that i love and that love me. I live in a peaceful and rich and democratic part of the world
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• United States
20 May 07
Personally, I would love to have some more monthly income, I am scratching dirt here to make it by! lol I would love not to have to take any medications for my bipolar to be under control, and also my sons. :) I would love to be healthier and that my family could be healthier. The biggest one that would make me happy would be to have a house of my own, instead of renting. I am working on that one right now. :)
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• United States
21 May 07
Because my husband used to get frustrated with me and my moods, and didn't understand them (back then), he would say, "I wish I could make you happy." I really got tired of him saying this to me. It made me feel like he was trying to turn whatever was happening, the attention focus, onto him. I finally told him one day, "Look! If I'm not happy, there's nothing in this world you can do that's going to make me happy." The statement was more of a revelation to me than him. While I know it must have hurt his feelings for me to say that to him, (I had to apologize later), it made me realize some things about myself. The statement I made was more for myself than for him. It made me think about what made me happy. I realized I was unhappy with myself. It wasn't anything I did or didn't have. I couldn't change the circumstances I had flung myself into or even the circumstances I allowed out of my own insecurity. The circumstances were what they were. I could try to change them or I could learn to adjust. I did some deep soul searching and realized it was up to me to choose. Since changing the circumstances was much too difficult (for whatever reason), I decided it would much easier for me to learn to be satisfied with the way things were. It took a lot of doing, but I learned to be content with the situations at hand and make the most out of whatever bad situation I found myself in. It changed me and the way I looked at it all. I'm not making light of what you do or don't have Robin. Please don't think that. I'm just telling you how I handled what you are talking about. Sure, I wish I had a bigger, prettier home. I wish I had more money to spend. I wish I had a family. I wish I had true, honest friends that openly cared for me. I wish a lot of things. But - when it comes right down to it (in my situation), I DO have a lovely home. It might not be in the richest part of town and my furniture might not have come from the best store, (it's all from garage sales), but my home is mine, lot, stock and barrel. I might not have the best clothes or diamonds and gold, but I know one thing. I have ME. I know I'm a good person. I work hard to have the things I do and most of all, I like me. I like my lifestyle. It's not as complicated as it could be if I had all those other things. If it ever comes down to the point of me feeling unhappy about things, it's up to me to change the circumstances. Don't sit and think about what would make you happy. Realize that you ARE happy. You have shared a lot with me here and I feel like I understand a little. So what works for me? Being thankful for the things I have. Being content with the way things are. Finding happiness in how I choose to live. That's what works for me. It might not work for anyone else. I don't want to offend you or anyone Robin. Like I said. It's what works for me.
@johnyeew (63)
• Malaysia
21 May 07
Taste the new york cheese cake in Secret Recipe. It is really delicious.You will be happy after eating it.
• China
21 May 07
If the weather is not bad,i will be happy.so I always feel happy.
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@palonghorn (5490)
• United States
21 May 07
Sometimes I wonder if people (in general) give too much time and energy to what would make them happier. That being said, I read your question and for me, I couldn't think of a single thing. I have a wonderful man in my life (been together for 2 years), I have a loving family (even though we live 1600 miles apart) I have 2 wonderful daughters. I have all the material things I could possibly need. And I start my dream job (under my disscussions) a week from tomorrow. And the latest, I just spent the weekend with my sister, they came to visit us, and had a great time, I have only seen her once in the past 2 years because I now live 1600 miles away. Maybe instead of spending time thinking/wishing for what we don't have or what would make us happy, we should spend more time be thankful for what we do have.
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@subha12 (18462)
• India
21 May 07
For me, a much better and better paying job, an onsite trip for project,will make me happy. My parents should be ok all the times and my best friend should not behave in this way with me. If he talk with me everyday it will make me feel good.
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@lpetges (3037)
• United States
21 May 07
i don't know anymore! money, friends, vacations, all of those and more. work, work, work,. the more you have the more you want. i am calling the year of 2007 the year of my discontent.
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• China
21 May 07
i am a university students.i ofen lack of money .if one day i find some money in book or other place where i forget i money i put . i will be happy , just like that life is full of surprise , from myself ,my family , from strengers i do nt know .these sprise always cheer me up .
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@bigcage (108)
• China
21 May 07
to me ,in good body condition ,several dvd i liked, adding a rich delicious meal will be perfect.
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• United States
21 May 07
I have a friend that I have'nt had contact with for 20 years.It's great to be back in touch with him.
@nill_07 (1105)
• Bangladesh
21 May 07
Everybody wants to be happy & I am too. Ofcourse money is a factor for happyness as well as good friends. But I want to stay in touch of my Creator who has create me & processing me every time.. In other sense, never I will be happy if my parents don't become happy. Always I will remain happy if my family remain happy. Their happiness is my happiness.
@archer1811 (1099)
• Philippines
21 May 07
For me, i am just simple, have more quality time for my family, since my husband is always onboard that was his job, we just have a little time together only when he is on vacation, so not everyday we're together, a little money need to, im not wishing for having a more abundant life or be richer than others, having my family with me all the time makes me happy.. i dont actually go out with my friends since i've got married specially today that i am working, i have to go straight from office to house just to cope up those times that i missed for my son.. having more quality time for my son and for my husband makes me happy and feel better enough..
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@marababe (2513)
• Philippines
21 May 07
I only need a few things/persons to make myself happy. That is good health for my parents and brother, inner peace and happiness, a part time job so that I can help with a few expenses here at home or at least lessen the burden of my parents having to worry about my allowance, bonding moments with my dearest friends and enough rest.
@thekiwi (588)
• United States
21 May 07
All I really want right now is to have this baby in a safe environment, meaning my own place, and get a job and help pay the bills, then get married down the road and possibly buy a house in the future. Thats all I ask for! That and to see my kids through school :)
@winterose (39931)
• Canada
21 May 07
a bit more money, feeling healthier and getting more recognition and work as a writer, and a better relationship with my son, and that would be it for me.
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@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
20 May 07
Well a little bit of $$ would help but then again I am happy with my life right now and very content. I have a very loving husband and a growing 4 1/2 year old son who demands my attention all the time. I don't mind it but at times its nice to have some time for myself. Luckily my husband does give me that when I need it. There is one thing that would make me extra happy if I didn't have to have my period every month - I am always grumpy/moody, sore and in pain, tired and very lethargic 5 days of every month.
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@dlhnola (70)
• United States
20 May 07
I would like my daughter to be well, and able to care for herself andher son. Time alone is always a stress reliever for me, so more of that would make me happy.
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@abbey19 (3129)
• Gold Coast, Australia
20 May 07
Like you, a bit extra monthly income to make us a bit more comfortable would be very welcome, but on the whole, my life is very happy and contented. Having said that, there is one thing that would make me happier though - for my daughter and family to come and live in Australia (she lives in Florida and I miss her so much). My two boys are here but if she was here also, my life would be complete.
@webeishere (36377)
• United States
20 May 07
At this stage in my life the one thing that would make me happier would be more time to myself. Granted I'm on thre puter home alone in a way. Dad doesn't bother me nor ask for my help a lot. But I still need to be here in case. So some time away from home for me would be great. I've got a casino get away happening Wednsday. I'm going there in the early afternoon, spending the night, and coming home Thursday afternoon sometime. As perks from pervious visits the room is free, I get a free buffet for 2 but I guess I waste one as I'm going alone, a $25 cash for my Birthday from the caisno then another $25 in perks cash. So I am getting at least 24 hours to myself. Good luck in your endeavors also. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~