does the number of mylot friends someone has influence you?

@pilbara (1436)
Australia
May 20, 2007 6:26pm CST
For example if you get a friend request from someone with over 1000 my lot friends already would that make you more or less likely to accept or doesn't it make a difference?
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
22 May 07
The number of a person has in a friend request has no bearing at all...First I usually try to check if they had responded to one of my discussions or vice versa..then I like to look at their profile page to see if there are common interests...I've gotten a few requests though and try to figure out like what the heck?? They hadn't responded to my discussions nor I them, and the subjects of their discussions are really...well..uh...weird??--So will pass them up
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@pilbara (1436)
• Australia
22 May 07
Thanks for your reply. I like the cat picture :). That sounds like a fair criteria to use
@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
22 May 07
I like your avatar too--LOL
• Grand Junction, Colorado
21 May 07
How many friends a member has really doesn't influence me as much as what they have in their interests and what type of discussions they start and whether they have responded to any of my discussions. I'm much more cautious of approving a request from a new member than I was in the beginning due to the spamming that I seem to get on new members. I used to just approve everyone, not anymore. First thing I check is if they have ever responded to one of my discussions, if not they sit in pending. It doesn't matter to me if they don't respond to one of my discussions after becoming my friend, but to gain acceptance now they must respond to at least one of my discussions with a quality response to be approved. People that have lots of friends to me says they like a variety to choose from. That's what I get from my friends list, a variety of topics, some I find interesting, others bore me to tears, some make me angry or sad, but I enjoy reading all of the discussions and reply when I can. :)
@pilbara (1436)
• Australia
22 May 07
Thank you for your response. I never had that problem with spamming and am sorry to hear that some people have. As most people have said I think common interests or decent responses are a fair enough criteria.
@Grandmaof2 (7603)
• Canada
21 May 07
The amount of friends that a member has doesn't make a difference to me at all. I'm more careful now to try to pick the people that tend to have some interests the same as my own. If I see that a member wants on my friends list I look for the content of the discussions. Popularity really isn't my forte.
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@pilbara (1436)
• Australia
21 May 07
Thanks for your response. I agree this is a good way to select friends.
• United States
21 May 07
Not really, I didn't even think to check how many friends they have! I've pretty much accepted everyone that has added me so it hasn't made a difference either way. Lol. I guess the only thing that would influence me is how the person writes (that horrid netspeak for example!) because I just can't stand that. Ha.
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@pilbara (1436)
• Australia
21 May 07
Thanks for your response. That sounds fair
• Philippines
20 May 07
it doesn't matter to me if the request came from someone with so many or with so few mylot friends. i've never turned down a request since i started in mylot. i definitely check out the profile first before accepting the request, but i accept anyway whatever i've found in the profile. but it still helps to check out the profile because this way i can remember if i responded to his/her discussions before or vice versa. :)
@pilbara (1436)
• Australia
20 May 07
Thanks for your response. Like you I check out the profile to see what kinds of posts they made and so on, but I have never rejected anyone.
• United States
20 May 07
No--the more the merrier but everyone starts out with no friends and they need friends too! J
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@pilbara (1436)
• Australia
20 May 07
Thanks for your response. That's true. However, at what point would you stop adding more friends if at all?
@jmcafam (2891)
• United States
20 May 07
The number of friends does not influence me at all. I go by their discussions that they have made or have responded to of mine.
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@pilbara (1436)
• Australia
20 May 07
Thank you for your response. I do the same thing. What prompted me to write this was this morning I got a friend request from someone with 1524 friends.
@mememama (3077)
• United States
20 May 07
Yeah, I usually will give them a chance and see if they respond to any of my posts, if not, I delete them. I don't know how someone could keep up with that many people!
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@pilbara (1436)
• Australia
20 May 07
Thank you, I do the same as you. I also don't now how someone could keep up with all those friends. That is the crux of my question, if you have so many friends that would make it difficult if not impossible to keep up with, why would you then want more?
@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
21 May 07
Aww, you changed your avatar. I like it, it's cute. I don't look at how many friends they have. I only look to see if they are an active member of Mylot and what types of discussions they post. I had a bunch of spammers in the beginning, only spamming my comment section and others that posted a bunch of 1 liner discussions. I pretty much approve anyone as long as I see they are active and decent members. How many friends they have doesn't really bother me.