Can you forgive?
By cwboyd
@cwboyd (79)
United States
May 21, 2007 6:18am CST
In my life, I was married to a man that cheated on me a good many times. Every one always said that a good partner would always be able to forgive and forget and move on. That wasnt the case with me. I couldnt never get over the fact that he cheated and it was because he just wanted some thing different or new. I was wondering how many people out there have been able to stay with a prtner that has cheated on them more than once and make a go of it? To me life is too short to always be looking over your shoulder wondering and waiting for it to happen again. I needed some one that wanted me to be with me and me alone. And after years of searching I finally have one and I dont have that stress any more.
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3 responses
@thai11 (239)
• United States
21 May 07
Good for you!!! He didn't deserve you anyway!!! I haven't stayed with a cheater, I've only had one boyfriend cheat on me and he actually broke up with me but then a month later was crawling back...I had already started to pick my life back up, we had been engaged, and I decided that, like you, that life is too short to be with someone who would not appreciate me!! I know there are billions of people out there so I knew that he wasn't worth giving a 2nd chance. I have forgiven him but I will never forget!! I have found love again too:)
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
21 May 07
I was with a guy who cheated on me and just like u, I could not forgive him. The thought of him cheating was always on my mind and I could not move on from it. I ended the relation after trying to forgive, without success, the trust was just all gone.
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
21 May 07
Here are my thoughts!
It's ok to forgive & try to forget if your partner cheats once but there's something wrong with you if you keep doing it after he's cheated over & over again.
A good partner does forgive & forget the first time but if it happens again you get a divorce & try & find someone who is actually going to stick to his wedding vowels coz obviously your husband didn't take any notice of the vowels when he was saying them to you when you were being married.
Ok, so i might sound a bit harsh but it's like that saying goes - Fool me once, shame on you - fool me twice, shame on me - basically it's the same deal. If he cheats then he's an idiot, if he does it again then you're very silly for staying & thinking he'll change!
