When Was The Last Time You Said Thank You To Your Spouse?

United States
May 21, 2007 9:36am CST
If you are in a relationship, when is the last time you said thank you to your spouse or significant other? When was the last time you told your spouse you were proud of them? Do you realize the good things your spouse does for you or do you tend to take your spouse for granted? I tell my husband "thank you" for everything. I give him positive affirmation every chance I get. I try to notice the little things he does for me and recognize him for it. It lets him know I appreciate him.
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@4cuteboys (4103)
• United States
21 May 07
I try to thank him as much as possible! I love him and want him to know he is appreciated. Sometimes I mess up and take his help and usefulness for granted, but I really TRY to show him. He's a nice guy. I think I said thank you at dinner, for grilling the steaks we had.
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• United States
22 May 07
you do a fine job of letting me know! thanks baby! ;p
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• United States
22 May 07
See. It's easy. And the love seems to show. Thank both of you for sharing your love with me. I appreciate your responses.
@rosema (1145)
• Philippines
22 May 07
everyday i always thank him for being a good husband to me. i always thank him for doing little things to me. we wive's should always thanks our husband to let them know that we really appreciate them.
• United States
22 May 07
And the husbands should do the same if they are inclined rosema. Thank you for your response.
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@nilanym (184)
• Philippines
22 May 07
I said thank you to my husband last May 21, 2007 coz he bought me a new samsung e720. :) but i always say thank you to him whenever i request something either small ones or big ones. :)
• United States
22 May 07
Lucky you nilanym. Whether small of big, it's just nice to say thank you. Thank you for your response.
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
21 May 07
I try to thank my husband as often as possible. Especially now that he is going on deployment. I don't want to waste words right now. I always say thanks and I love you for all that you do. He does do a lot of things around here and I am going to miss him terribly when he is gone. I always believe that you attract more bees with honey than vinegar. It's true to. Being appreciative of a partners thoughtfulness and hard work is very important. There is nothing worse than feeling like your not wanted or appreciated.
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• United States
21 May 07
Deployment! Wow!. More bees with honey is a good thing mamasan. I know you will miss him. Tell him we said 'Thank You' too. Better yet, when he gets where he is going, send us his mailing address so we can say 'thank you' in person. Thanks for your response and let him know we appreciate his service.
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
23 May 07
Awww thanks! That is very nice of you! I did tell him that you said thanks and he was very flattered. I will post his mailing address when I get it and I am sure he will welcome all letters. It means a lot to the guys to know they are appreciated, it gets lonely and the morale goes down after awhile. I sure am going to miss him. Besides our daughter he is the light of my life.
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@sunrisekn (1468)
• United States
22 May 07
In the hussle and bussle of everyday life, I have a tendency to take my husband and his love for granted. I have in the past couple of days made a valiant effort to thank him and tell him how much I love and appreciate him. It goes a long way. The smile that comes across his face is priceless.
• United States
22 May 07
I know what you mean sunrisekn. Sometimes we just forget the important things. The rewards of making the effort all add up. Thanks for your response.
@meljessxena (2319)
• Australia
22 May 07
i do say thank you to him, sometimes i think i take him for granted, but i do try my best to appreciate everything he does for me, and even give him a kiss to show him.
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• United States
22 May 07
That's great meljessxena. I'm sure he appreciates it too. Thank you for your response.
@archer1811 (1099)
• Philippines
22 May 07
Hi! well i most often say thank you to my husband, everything he did to me even a small thing i always saying thank you to him.. but the very most often word i say to him is i love you.. likewise he say to me.. my husband is not always with us because his working outside the country, so everytime we talk i make sure that i always give him thank for the sacrifice he is doing for us, every big/little thing he do is very much appreciated..
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• United States
22 May 07
Thank you, I love you, and other phrases all mean the same. It's a small way of saying a thousand things when you say either one. thank you for your respose archer.
• Philippines
22 May 07
I always say "thank u" every time my husband did some favor i asked to him. In a very little thing he did for me and to our baby I never forget to say "thanks".
• United States
22 May 07
It means a lot doesn't it julialaurene. "Thank You" for your response.
• India
22 May 07
Saying 'thank you' to my spouse seems quite formal...n i think it brings artificiality into our relation...that doesn't mean i dont appreciate my spouse...i always encourage her for the good things,not the formal way but hugs n kisses are very good n sweet means of expressing them...i mean y wud u thank a person so close to ur heart like the general way u use for general people
• United States
22 May 07
I disagree with you shashank. My husband knows how hard I work on things around the house to keep it going and to keep it as he likes it. While he often makes comment about how nice things look, he does it as acknowledgment to me to let me know my efforts did not go unnoticed. The same holds true for me. When he helps me or does little things for me I tell him how much I love him by saying simple things like Thank you. Hugs and kisses are great too but acknowledgement of a little thing like saying thank you for helping me or thank you lets them know you appreciate their effort.
@taymouse (585)
• United States
22 May 07
I'm not in that kind of relationship so I can't really answer, but I want to say one thing and state one observation. People tend to be more polite and kinder to strangers than their own family, own relatives, friends, and flesh and blood. When you're walking into a store and a stranger holds open the door for you, you say "Thank you." But when your family member holds it open, or does something for you, usually you'll take it for granted. It's not exactly an answer to your question but it sort of ties in. Have you noticed this? These days, people, if AT ALL, are more polite with strangers than their own family.
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• United States
22 May 07
Not in my family taymouse. I understand what you are saying though. That's why we say thank yous every chance we get. Whether opening a door or adjusting my chair at a restaurant. I sometimes think I live in a fairytale by the way my husband treats me. I always say thank you for the little things. If we can't take care of the little things like saying thank you, how will we be able to handle the rest of it? Thanks for your response.
• United States
22 May 07
girl I have found that the way to make a man want to do more for you is complement him when he does do something. Then it becomes a cycle. I appreciate each and everything my man does. I love him.
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• United States
22 May 07
You are so right thedebbie. It's the law of reciprocity. The more we give, the more we get. It could be seen as a selfish move, but we know it's not. It's just a good way to keep them coming back for more. Thanks for your response.
@carolscash (9504)
• United States
22 May 07
My husband just left today for a new job that will keep him gone for four days and he really didn't want to take the job but he did as the money is too good to pass up! He done it for the kids and I and I thanked him for that. I also try to thank him whenever he does housework as he works very hard and puts in very long days and I think that anything extra that he does is something to be thankful for. I also thank him often for being a great dad to the kids as he always does things for them and he is just a good dad and a great husband!!
• United States
22 May 07
I'm happy for you carolcash. Sounds like you have a great man. Thanks for your response. Keep up the good thank yous.
• United States
22 May 07
About 10 minutes ago when he brought me a fresh cuppa joe just the way I like it. We don't take each other for granted. It could be worse, we could each still be with our ex, lol.
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• United States
22 May 07
Way to go visitorinvasion. It could always be worse. That's what makes me appreciate mine so much now. I could have done a lot worse. Thank you for you response.
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• Philippines
22 May 07
I agree with you terilee, we should always appreciate every little thing that our spouse does for us. I do thank my husband whenever he goes his way out just do to me a favor or an errand. Even if it's through text message only, I'd never forget to appreciate him.
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• United States
22 May 07
I know it means a lot to me - so it has to mean a lot to him too. Thanks for your response.
@sizzle3000 (3040)
• United States
21 May 07
I tell my husband thank you all the time too. I think that it help our relationship. He also thanks me. Saying the words keeps your relationship fresh. It is letting them know you appreciate them plus it is not leaving anything to chance. Yah they know we love them but it is good to hear the words just the same. My husband and I have been together for twenty years and we have good communication between us. That is what I think keeps us together. The fact that we can talk about anything and I mean anything.
• United States
22 May 07
Us too sizzle 3000. MOst everyone we know tells us they wish they had a relationship like we have. Twenty five years here. Give and take. Thanks for your response.
• United States
21 May 07
Wow, after reading your post, I had to re-evaluate the way my hubby and I interact. I say thank you a lot; however, we've been together so long that I normally do it automatically without really thinking about the sentiment behind the words. Thanks for the reality check.
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• United States
22 May 07
Thank you SerenDragon. Isn't it strange how sometimes little things by people we never met can spark something in us? After being together for so long, that's the best time to be thankful and let them know how we appreciate just putting up with us. lol
@arkaf61 (10891)
• Canada
21 May 07
I tell my husband and everyone eles thank you any time that it is required to say it. But I understand that you are talking specifically about relationships and the little things that make each one work better. Many people forget those small things with the pressures of every day life and then forget even how important they are after a while. But they are important at least for a big number of people. SOMe people have trouble with this, they feel it's hard to praise, thank, recognize. MY husband for example has trouble vocalizing some things that he feels. But because I do it all the time, he is able to do it sometimes. People should remember that a relationship is like everything in life. It needs work. Maintenance like a car if it's easier to understand it this way. ANd that the small things really bring a very positive contribution.
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• United States
22 May 07
You are so right arkaf61. You have to nurture it and baby it just like little children sometimes. To think it will simply take care of itself is the wrong idea. Thanks for your wonderful response.
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@brand4less (1061)
• Indonesia
21 May 07
shopping - planet hollywood in shopping gallery at caesar's palace
my mom has taught me to say thanks everytime someone do something for us.so i say thank you everyday to my husband whenever i ask him to do something or if he do something to me.
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• United States
22 May 07
Good for your mom brand4less. Sounds like she was a smart woman. Thanks for your response.
@wahmoftwo (1298)
• United States
21 May 07
I tell him thank you all the time. I should tell him how proud I am more often. Thanks for the reminder.
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• United States
22 May 07
Love the blue rose wahmoftwo and thanks for the response. It really does help when they know how proud we are of them.
• United States
21 May 07
I'm like you too. My boyfriend spoils me. He cooks for me and he helps out a lot around the house. that's why I make sure to always thank him; that way he knows I appreciate what he does for me.
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• United States
22 May 07
I think it somehow strengthens the relationship to let them know how much we appreciate them. I know mine does little things like that because it's one way he shows me he loves me. Thanks for your response.