Would you give a baby up for adoption?

United States
October 22, 2006 7:53pm CST
I mean, if you were older...not like 15 or 16. Maybe in your 20s or something, if your husband didn't want kids, etc. I was browsing the internet last night, and it seems there are THOUSANDS of people who want kids. Most want newborns, though.
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@DeenaD (2688)
• United States
23 Oct 06
HOnestly, I can't imagine a married woman in a stable relationship deciding to give a baby up. Maybe it happens, but I can't imagine it...
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@Cindyh2k (308)
• United States
23 Oct 06
I am with you - I could not imagine a woman in a stable relationship even contemplating this. But, then again, if she is in a stable relationship, I doubt the husband would not want the baby.
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• United States
23 Oct 06
Just a converstation starter or are you faced with this?
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• United States
23 Oct 06
Just a conversation starter. You don't see many older parents giving their babies up and I was just curious. Do they face the same struggles that most teenagers do? Financial struggles, problems with spouses, etc.
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• United States
23 Oct 06
Well, I am a 26 year old single mother of 2-I am very glad I have my 2 but can't imagine having one more. I think I would give it up if I had another one.....the two I have I can hardly manage financially and it would be scary to face it out there with 3 who needed me.
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@Cindyh2k (308)
• United States
23 Oct 06
I can see how that would be scary - but, I think that if you already have 2 and you know the rewards that come with a baby, that you would be strong enough to overcome the financial problems that would be encountered. I think that once you experience the love that a child gives you, that would be a very difficult decision - but, it would be the ultimate gift for a couple who have not been able to experience that love.
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• United States
23 Oct 06
No. i dont think i could ever part with my son, or any of my future children. I think its great of parents to do that if they know they cant give their child the life they deserve.
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• United States
23 Oct 06
Amberbambers, your baby is just beautiful! I don't think I could part with a kid of mine, no matter what. Thanks for all the responses!
• United States
23 Oct 06
Thank you!! He was around 3 months in that picture he is almost 5 months now!! =)
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• United States
23 Oct 06
Awww...just adorable! Thats another reason to be pro-life :)
• United States
23 Oct 06
I am a mother of 5! As you can see, I'm very fertile and if I wasn't busy having my own children and raising them, I would certainly be a surrogate for a couple. I would much rather do it that way and carry their own blood child. I'm talking sperm and egg, than having to use my egg and carry the baby. I know there would be some sort of attachment from that. I also thought of donating my eggs,(another subject) but the thought of my "child" out there would maybe bother me.
@DeenaD (2688)
• United States
23 Oct 06
Wow! You certainly seem to take a lot of pleasure in having babies. Good for you! I have 4 myself, and I enjoyed pregnancy, and would gladly do it again.
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@Cindyh2k (308)
• United States
23 Oct 06
The only way I would give away a baby is if I has agreed to be a surrogate mother for a couple who could not have a baby. I can't do that anymore because of surgery - but, I would have gladly done that for someone who could not have kids. I would not give a baby away just because my husband did not want it - if I had to choose between my husband and my own baby, I would choose the baby.
@DeenaD (2688)
• United States
23 Oct 06
Me too. I'd choose the baby over my husband.
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@Aali311 (6127)
• United States
23 Oct 06
Weather I was young or not, I could not give my baby up for adoption, even if my husband didn't want it, I would leave him and raise the baby on my own, I love kids too much to give mine away.
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• United States
23 Oct 06
LOL, it gets harder as I get older. I must say I started early. But my goal was "get them out of the way". I do agree that there are alot of women who CRAVE babies and it is very sad that they have to go through so much pain and still not get pregnant. Mom says, all I have to do is "be there" :)
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@DRoddy77 (1780)
• United States
23 Oct 06
to be honest, I did THINK about it once, when I found I was pregnant with twins, and had a 4 month old baby already. We are low income and were struggling as it was and didnt know how we would make it. I couldnt actually do it though and my twins are now 2 years old, although we do struggle a lot financially, they are a part of me now. I have thought that i would like to be a surrogate mother to help a couple who cant have children, but after I had my twins i had a tubal ligation performed.