How long will it take to forget an unpleasant experience?

China
May 22, 2007 4:39am CST
I used to have a nearly 20-year friendship with a schoolmate. but 2 years ago she wronged me because of a misunderstanding and we haven't contacted each other ever since. sometimes I would miss the time when we were good friends. I found I don't blame her any more but I don't know whether she is still unwilling to see me. How long does it take for a person to forget an unpleasant experience? Do you have similar experience in your life?
5 responses
@prieya (25)
• India
22 May 07
giving up ur friendship for a stupid reason lyk misunmrstndin is bad..not worth it..hw can u giv up on ur friendship lyk dat...u need to talk to her n clear the misundrstndin....
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• China
22 May 07
You're right. a 20 year friendship should not be forgotten for a misunderstanding. The problem is what she's thinking about our friendship. I cherish it, but does she cherish it too. I'm not sure about it.
@pttee333 (43)
• Singapore
27 May 07
I totally agree with some people here advising to call your friend. You have nothing to lose and so much to gain. Be the "bigger" person and reach out to your friend.
@AshleyHasan (1024)
• India
22 May 07
I am sorry to know that,hope your friendship will be reunited again, I have not come across any unpleasant experience yet but if I have to face one , I am sure it will take quite long time for me to forget or forgive some one ..Thank you!
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@wolves69 (755)
• United States
22 May 07
In Jr High School, my best friend at the time had a terrible misunderstanding over something neither one of us had any control of. About 15 years later, when I was back home, I ran into his Mom and we talked for a while. She gave me his phone number and said he was living out of state. So, when I went back home, I didn't think much of it, until a few weeks later, my wife found the note with his name and asked who the person was and then recommended I call him just to "close" the loop. I took her advice and we visited his family. It was very enjoyable, and although we are not the same persons, we now have no animosity or bad feelings. My advice, take the chance, you'd be surprised at the real reason why there was problems....
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@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
22 May 07
Well, i guess at that moment, u should have waited for her to cool down then explain things to her... That will make things easier... Like for now, i guess its over how many years and she might have already put things down, but things will never get back like how close u guys used to be.. Frankly, i used to had a close friend too... Same like u, we had some misunderstandings... But she told me some hurting words which from then on, i knew that we can never be friends like we used to be... Or rather, she treats me like a enemy.. See me, turn and run that kinda thing.. Yesh, it is that bad... How sad right...
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