It's all my fault??!!

@kharen (1488)
Philippines
May 22, 2007 11:56am CST
My mom always accuses my dad of things..like he's having another woman, (read my other discussin "Sooo paranoid...")and when i try to explain to her about some of what she calls proof that i can explain how she can be wrong about her accusatiobs make her mad with me and she thinks i'm favoring my dad... sometimes, she even accuses me of sending e-mails to my dad and that we have secrets aboiut what he really is doing there yet the truth is..i seldom send him emails but we just ask how we are... what shall i do???
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@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
23 May 07
Has she always been this way? If not, maybe you should let her Dr. know. Maybe she has some other issues going on. If so, there will be no reasoning with her. If she has always been this way, you probably won't change her. I would not stop emailing my dad.
@raydene (9874)
• United States
23 May 07
My advice is to stay out of it.This is their relationship and their business not yours.You have your own life Sweets.Live and be happy and let them do what they will . Some couples thrive one these things and I suspect that your parents may be .
@nana1944 (1367)
• United States
23 May 07
It sounds to me like your mom is very insecure. Maybe she is going through the change of life. Heck who knows. Maybe she get on the computer and see that it isn't all about secrets and affairs.
@KarenO52 (2951)
• United States
23 May 07
My mom was like that too, and I used to stick up for my dad, who was a good guy. I used to get in fights with her defending him to the point where I had to move out of the house when I was only 17. It was too hard to work all day and then come home to fight with my mom. I didn't want to, but she always instigated it, and I couldn't take it. After I moved out, she was sorry and we worked things out. I think at that time, she must have been going through menopause, and her hormones were all messed up so she took it out on my dad and me.
@sallyxu126 (1185)
• China
23 May 07
it is not your fault, I only want to say this. you can communicate with her when she seems quiet and not very mad. when a women think her husband have another women, she will not listen any advice and seems mad . at this time, don't alwasy abuse her, she love your father and I think your father might have to pay more attention to her. she is your mother, and your father have the responsibility to take a good care of her, and he should explain to her and let her know how he love her and he don't have anyother women. this is important, I think .
@emarie (5451)
• United States
22 May 07
honestly, the woman is acting like a child. she's a grown woman and trust i've seen people like this before. they are insecure but that doesn't mean they have the right to attack their own daughter. you're mother in paranoid and she doesn't have enough faith in her relationship with your father to trust him. has he done anything in the past which will cause her to think this way or is it just her?? If she's having issues in her relationship she shouldn't put it all on you just because you're there. Tell her the truth about emailing your father and if she doesn't accept it then there's nothing you can do. she's living in her own little soap opera where she wants people to feel sorry for her and sympathize with her. Its not you're fault and you didn't cause any of it so i don't want you to blame yourself. this is a problem your mother has to figure out and maybe some counseling might uncover the root issue of her paraniod behavior. if she gets too much to handle, the best thing to do is to just back off and give her her space. let her know that the attitude she's taking with you WILL drive her family away.