young stay at home mom's...

United States
May 22, 2007 1:38pm CST
I am a 22 year old mom to my 3 month old daughter Leanne, now that im home all the time, a part of me feels like a 40 year old, all i do is laundry,dishes,i watch almost every single soap opera on tv now and i of course play with my daughter and i enjoy staying at home with her and i enjoy when my boyfriend comes home to a homecooked dinner and appreciates what hes got...but i was wondering if anyone else feels the way i do or does what i do as a stay at home mom? how do i keep from feeling old? lol
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26 responses
22 May 07
I am older than you at 34 but I am also a stay at home mum. I too feel like sometimes my life is just made up of washing, cooking, emptying the potty, walking to school and back, and cleaning. However one big move I did make was to get rid of my TV. This meant that I had to find more to do in the day and as a result I have started some websites and do take my daughter out more to toddler group, playplaces, friends houses etc.
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• United States
24 May 07
we only have one car, and there really is nothing around me to do with her, which sucks! but thanks for your advice, maybe not watching so much television is a wise choice! thanks!
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24 May 07
It is tought when you are stuck in the middle of nowhere with no car. Perhaps you should see if you can organise a coffee morning for other mums with toddlers (you could stick a notice in the local shop or leaflets in doors) and you could start your own toddler group.
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
22 May 07
i remember that feeling, though i was slightly older than that when i had my first (i was 32) but after working full time then staying home i was bored to tears! i read a lot, visited the library a lot, fortunately i have a ton of hobbies, but i started selling AVON...seriously...that was something i could do at home and when hubby came home, he watched our daughter so i could do some work...
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• United States
24 May 07
i did the mary kay thing already,but it just wasnt working out for me, i do have lots of hobbies, but we only have one vehicle, so im kinda stuck here at home, but i do take her out in the stroller around our complex alot! thanks for your advice!
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@emma412 (1156)
• United States
22 May 07
I am 24 (as of today!) and am too a stay at home mom for my 10 week old daughter. I feel more bored than I do old. What is there to do all day? I've been escaping to the internet a lot and I watch tv in the mornings but I feel like I need more. The nice thing is that I have plenty of time to exercise and have been walking with my daughter everyday so the baby weight is coming off quickly. I love staying home and taking care of her but I'm so bored I'm tempted to go back to working!
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• United States
22 May 07
happy birthday!!!
• United States
24 May 07
yeah i go online alot too, i am not tempted to go back to working though, just need to find more stuff to do, but once she gets older, im sure i will be so busy i will wish i was bored!lol
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• United States
24 May 07
btw happy belated birthday! :)
@nicolecab (923)
• United States
22 May 07
i am 23 and stay home full time with my 3 mo old son. I know exactly how you feel. I do the same thing almost everyday of the week and almost the same time every day. I can never tell you the date or even the day of the week it is anymore!!
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• United States
22 May 07
I have two calenders in every room a dry erase board and I have no clue what day it is. Or who has an appt. Too tired to care, that is why I love when they call me the day before to remind me.
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• United States
23 May 07
yes, Rylans docs office is very good about that 2. i dont know what I would do with out those nurses. God bless them!!
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• China
23 May 07
Aha,what a happy young mother! I am one year younger than you,and I just graduated from college last July,who is now waiting at home for the next semester of graduate student studing.My life is also humdrum,every day I spend most time surfing in the internet ?reading some interesting books?strolling down the street.Although it's just the life that I always look forward to,I have the same feeling like you---it seems that I was living a life 40 years old woman lives.The reason I have to be so lonely is my classmates are all working outside and I have no young company besides my parents. But I believe that ,at the moment,you may have more friends around you than me.So I suggest you may organise a party every weekend.When young guys are together,you will again see your energy.
@deebomb (15322)
• United States
24 May 07
I wish I was forty again. my kids were prety well raised. I was free to do some of the things I wanted to do. I could take up painting and photography. Maybe you need to worry a little bit less about some of the house work. Believe me it will always be there. Take the time to take nap if you are felling tired. Get rid of that Tv or at least limit what you are watching. You have the compute. It can open up a whole new world for you. Pick a subject and explore every avenue that you can find about it. Girl you have the whole at your finger tips. I really am sorry that you all have such a grime view of becoming 40.
• United States
22 May 07
Hi I'm 21 and have 2 wonderful girls they both stay at home wiht me. The way I don't start to feel old is by, playing going out and play games. There are times I feel bored, but never old. I just do a lot of things around the house to keep my self busy, with two kids there's always a lot to do :)
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• United States
24 May 07
i cant wait for that time to come, but right now she is only 3 months, cant play that much with her yet...but she is really starting to get her personality, thats exciting! :)
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
22 May 07
Well, when I left my full time job and moved to NC to be with my husband, after about 2 months of being a SAHM I was feeling pretty old now. I got a part time job and now I don't feel like that. But if you are staying at home, I would find something as a hobby to challenge the mind and change up your schedule a little bit. Maybe you even need a little alone time! A hot bath, some alone time away from the kids and hubby, just for yourself that will rejuvenate you too. There are so many things you can do. I know I had to get creative the times that I was a stay at home mom becuase I was very strapped for finances. So, try that and see if that helps.
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• United States
24 May 07
bubble bath sounds great, thanks for the advice mamasan :)
@jodi86 (1)
• United States
23 May 07
I am also in the same situation as you..I am a 21 year old mother to a 19 month old and a 4 month old. I stay pretty busy but doing the daily chores like you listed DO get boring and make me feel old...I just always make sure I take some time to myself to remind me that I AM still young and just because we choose to stay home with our children we should NOT feel old!!..Hope this helps you out a bit!
• United States
23 May 07
I do not have kids yet, we are working on that but I do stay at home (I have a panic issue that keeps me from holding a regular job). I have to do the dishes, laundry, cook, clean, pick up after the Mr., do our errands, take care of our cows (they are still babies so I have to go out there a lot to feed them), and make sure I keep up in class since I am a full time student (online) as well. It is hard not to feel old. I am closer to 30 though and am actually getting there. If you feel old now, just wait till you find your first white hairs! I can't get over finding these silver strands in my black hair! I feel like everyone sees it waving hi to them from the top of my head. Isn't it crazy to see yourself grow up?
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@Calais (10900)
• Australia
23 May 07
I am a 33 year old stay at home mum. I dont feel old at all. There is always something to do. I do my chores when bub is asleep. The TV is never on during the day (I couldnt stand it), Surely there is something else that you can do, it sounds like you are putting yourself into a corner. Go out and enjoy yourself. Is there a mothers group in your area , go have a coffee and meet up with friends. Or even just go window shopping. Having a child shouldnt make you feel this way, its a joy.
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@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
23 May 07
Hi there Mamabear, I fully understand how you feel, I'm a 28 year old stay at home mom to 7 soon to be 8 children. You feel 40 and I feel 90 LoL. This is so normal but just remind yourself its not going to be like this forever, you sound like a responsible mom putting her family needs 1st. Enjoy your little one as much as you can for they don't stay little forever. =) Best wishes to you and your family Stacy
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@toe_ster (771)
• United States
23 May 07
I agree with most people who commented on here. Find some hobbies, exercise, make time for yourself. keep in mind she is only 3 months. She will get older and things will get busier. Enjoy the freedom and time you have now. Make the most of it. I am a stay at home mother as well. (three boys, 6,4,1) I was working fulltime with my first one. When the second one came along I stayed at home. The first year I went nuts. Just the three of us 24/7. But we went out alot. Find new places in your area. New parks, museums, take a drive, visit friends or family. I am only 25 and I feel way older than my years. I thnk it comes with having kids maybe? Hang in there.
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@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
23 May 07
I am 26 and feel ancient. I have 4 kids at home and one on the way. It's hard to not feel like hired help sometimes. All I can suggest is getting out some! Going to a playgroup with other mom's and babe's or maybe like a mommy and baby yoga class. Or going for a daily walk even helps. I have noticed just getting out of the house some helps me. I do enjoy staying home as well, but sometimes you need a break from the house. good luck and congrats on your little girl!
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• United States
22 May 07
I am just recently become a stay at home mom and I am 21. I feel you there. I had to get another job, because staring at four walls was killing me. What have been doing is getting with other moms at there house or ours to have lunch whil ethe kids play, but I can feel like I am still young. Also, I do a lot of things that I love.
@slaveeva (213)
• United States
22 May 07
Get the stroller out and take that baby doll out of the house. Go for long walks, take a correspondence course, join a mommy group. Learn to do something you have always wanted to do. It has only been 3 month and it is hard until you get in the swing of things, but believe me, she won't stay this easy for long. Soon enough you will be running after her. The funk will go away.
• United States
22 May 07
I'm 21 and stay at home with my 2 year old and I enjoy spending time with her and everything.But sometimes I feel like all my life is spent cleaning,cooking and caring for my baby.So its important to take some "me" time every once in awhile.If not we'd just go crazy.
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• United States
23 May 07
Well, first of all - 40 isn't old and you will know it when you reach 40! Trust me on this! Now, looking at what to do with time - you need to ask yourself - what are my interests? Get active! Turn that TV off, off, off! Volunteer in your community, read, take an online course (almost all universities and community colleges offer online courses now), outside - walking, jogging, playing at the park, relaxing with a good book, take up a hobby, get involved with other moms and have a time where you can all do things together as a group - or get a stretch of time by doing baby sit exchange with other mothers. Most of all, enjoy the time you have with Leanne! :)
@deebomb (15322)
• United States
24 May 07
MIT OpenCourseWare ishas some free online classes. you might givee atry. It will challange you and you can get abit of education. You don't get a degree or even credit but still it might be worth it for you. http://sunrise-onlinedegrees.blogspot.com/ is another plavce to look for online courses. There are usually courses at your local jr college that you can take on line too. Computer class is one thhat is offered here.
• United States
22 May 07
I am just a few years older than you, 26 and I am also a STAHM and I do fell like I am much older than I am. I think it is natural for women our age to fell this way. dBut I just keep in mind that I will always be there for my childen and I am lucky enough not to have to miss out on all the mile stone.
• United States
24 May 07
oh yeah no doubt, i love being here for my daughter, cannot wait to watch her keep growing, its so adorable!
@Lifez2short (4969)
• United States
22 May 07
Let me first say congrats on the baby. No let me tell you I'm also a stay at home mom of four kids ages 8,7,5,2. And while the older two are in school my hubby is home so thats no biggies for me. But he works 2nd shift and does not get home until after 10 or 11 some nights. I love being here for my kids when they need me but yes I get that old feeling sometimes. I am older then you by a few years I'm 28 but that feeling of becoming old creeps up on me all the time. I have been thinking of going back to work now that I have potty trained my 2 year old. But I'm thinking I will wait until next school year. GOOD LUCK...
• United States
24 May 07
wow thats a lot of work, i do it all too and i dont mind it, i guess im just getting into the swing of things :)
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
26 May 07
i know the feeling. If your daughter gets a bit older why don't the two of you go out more often..like go to the mall or the park right? Staying home really makes you feel old especially at your age when instead you are going out and still partying. I just hope things will get better for you. :)