Do your kids talk your ears off?

@muscare (3069)
Australia
May 23, 2007 6:22am CST
I absolutely love my 4yr old son to bits, but there are days when he never seems to shut up. I think he has such a fantastic imagination, and he lets it out all the time. I listen to him as much as I can, and know that if I tell him I need a bit of peace and quiet, he'll probably get upset, as he is also quite a sensetive kid. Would I be a mean dad to ask for a little quiet sometimes. It really does seem like his mouth is often on overdrive. Are your kids like this, and if so, how do you handle it?
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@TriciaW (2442)
• United States
23 May 07
Oh yes I have a daughter like that and I hate to tell you it doesn't get batter with age. She is 12 and a nonstop talker. I sometimes think she holds it in all day at school and has to let it out when she gets home. It can drive you nuts I know!! I try to listen to her and sometimes I interject like ok please just tell me the highlights of the story. I can do that cause she is old enough now to know what I mean. I also have learned to tell her gosh I would love to hear more but I just need a bit of mom quiet time can you tell me that story later? That usually works now but you can bet I will hear it later*L* I wish you luck and wish I could tell you it will stop*L*
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
23 May 07
Well, thanks so much, TriciaW, you've really given me something to look forward to,lol!! I've got 8 yrs to catch up to you, maybe at 13 they quieten down a little. I will say that first thing after kindy he is quiet for a bit, but once he warms up, it's non stop 'til bed time!
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@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
24 May 07
I have a son who is 13 year old and a daughter who is almost 17. It does not quiet down.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
24 May 07
Well, thanks, now I know I've really got so much to look forward to,lol!
@foxyfire33 (10017)
• United States
23 May 07
My 4 year old chatter box is eating lunch right now so it's actully quiet for a few minutes here! What I've found is that kids talk because they want you to pay attention to them. The less time you spend focused on them, the harder they're going to try. The best remedy is to give him your undivided attention and REALLY show him that what he's sying matters to you. Get right into his stories, ask questions, give him prompts to make the stories even bigger...basically be a kid again with him and let your imagination carry you into what he's saying. Sure you need a little peace and quiet once in awhile, all parents do. But you have to fit it in around HIS schedule. Just think before you know it he'll be grown up and on his own with his own family miles and miles away. You'll have lots of peace and quiet then, whether you like it or not.
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@muscare (3069)
• Australia
24 May 07
Well, I think that is part of the reason that I need a little peace, I do become a kid, and play imaginary 4yr old games. Boy that is hard work. Yes, it is good at meal times, too. I do give him my undivided attention most of the time, but my mind will wander to other stuff after a long period. At least then my wife will take over.
@emeraldisle (13158)
• United States
24 May 07
My neice on any given day can be quite talkative but with today being the last day of school it was even worse. Non-stop chatter from the moment she got up till the time she went to bed. I love her dearly and I try to be understanding but there are times I wish I could tape her mouth shut (not that I would). I usually ask her to give me a few minutes of peace and quite. Most times its not a problem.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
24 May 07
Hmmm, well I have to say there are days when I can't wait for my son to go from kindy to school. I'm not sure whether the school is ready for him yet, though,lol! Tape might be a good idea... no, just kidding,lol!
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@emeraldisle (13158)
• United States
24 May 07
Heheh believe me I understand how tempting the tape can be. She's 12 and of course entering the lovely teenage years. It helps now that she's more on the phone with her friends but I think we still have to hear the chattering at us for another year or so before the phone dominates her life. There are times I can't wait for her to go out or go to school as well.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
25 May 07
How true, it's pretty rare (apparently) to see a teenager not obsessed with the phone! Then at that age we got more to worry about than their constant yabbering. Good luck!!
@Michele21 (3095)
• United States
23 May 07
That is so funny!! I think most parents have days where they need some silence so they don't go crazy!! I just tell my daughter to stop talking for a few minutes because Mommy can't think when she talks non-stop! Sometimes I make a joke of it and talk to her really fast and say if she doesn't stop talking for awhile Mom's head might explode because I can't think straight.
• United States
24 May 07
OK, that is too funny, about the fast talking. Cause I did that the other day to my little kid, and it worked. She started the fast talking, cause I guess she thought I wasn't listening, and then I started talking fast too. I was asking a bunch of questions and getting her to elaborate on stuff, and it worked. I kind of shocked myself with my own success. But your story is funny. I'm glad to see there are other normal moms out there like me.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
24 May 07
Well, if the fast talking works, maybe I should give it a try, I willing to try anything. I also know what you mean about the head exploding, and often wonder whether this is really just a way to get them to stop talking. I really think it might happen,lol!
@Woodpigeon (3710)
• Ireland
24 May 07
I am afraid I fall into the category of having kids who could talk the ears off a fence post. The oldest is the worst of the bunch, so if he goes quiet I know he is either coming down with soemthing or he is up to something. He isn't quiet when he is upset, that is more likely to get him venting, ranting and raving.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
24 May 07
Hi,Woodpigeon. Funny you should say that, because that is what my wife and I think when our son is unusually quiet.'What's he up to?' Thanks for your reply.
@aprilsong (1886)
• China
24 May 07
How similar your son is to my kid.My son is a little older than urs.When he was very young,he was very shy and had few words.So i encourage him to speak more.Then after half yrs,i noticed he became so talkative that he never shut up.The only time he keeps silent is when he is sleeping,eating.He talks so much and also directly.I took him to my sis'.My nephew is very fat and cuz he wears sports shoes all days.His feet smell really bad.Guess what my son's greeting to his cousin?He said"oh,my god,your feet smell so bad".
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
24 May 07
Yes, the more they talk, the more likely they are to come out with little gems like that. My son hasn't been too bad, but he does seem to have some tact for a 4yr old. I often see his little mind ticking over when he sees some people, but thankfully, he doesn't say anything.
@arsena (293)
• Germany
24 May 07
I do not have a child yet but I hope that I will be patient with my child:) and the noise he will make will be like music to my ears:). I agree that sometimes little children can be very noisy but I think with the time maybe you get "trained".
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
24 May 07
Don't get me wrong, arsena, I do have a lot of patience with my son. In fact, my wife says I am very good with him, which is a little surpising in the fact I was never the most patient person around. I guess he brings out the best in me!
@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
24 May 07
You would not be a mean dad. How about saying to him that Dad needs a few moments of quit so could you go and do something and when I'm done here I promise you can have my full attention.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
24 May 07
I could try that, but then I would have to come up with a reason as to why he won't be able to help me with what I will be doing!
• China
24 May 07
good topic for me. my baby is 5-month old. so i only listen his crying if he is unhappy. lol
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
24 May 07
I remember the crying too, and I think that the only difference, which is probably music to your ears is that at least when they can talk, you know what they want, or what they are upset about!!
@Qaeyious (2362)
• United States
24 May 07
I remember the language skill was facinating to me, both oral and written, and even wanted to learn cursive writing before kindergarten. And every idea I had just had to be communicated. Yes, looking for attention most likely, come to think of it. On an off-shoot, I remember reading a question to a science magazine, "Don't dogs ever get tired of barking?" Allegedly their anatomy is such that their barking is no more stressful than talking. So they can bark all night if they want to.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
24 May 07
So, what you are saying is that it is in a 4yr olds anatomy to talk non-stop. Thanks,lol! I know my son is not short on attention from myself or my wife, so, I guess I'll just be prepared for a long haul of neverending stories!
• United States
24 May 07
That's funny. I'm 19 and I still talk nonstop sometimes. For some reason, I only talk that way with my dad. I don't do it all the time anymore, but I used to. My dad would always just ask me how my day went right when we saw each other. I would (and still) talk a mile a minute about everything under the sun, but then I would just wind down and he would get his quiet time. You should try that. It would make your son feel like you still care about what he says, but it would also give you the space you need. Hopefully it works the way it did with me.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
24 May 07
The idea is good, but I find that my son has a never ending source of things he wants to say!I don't know how his mind keeps ticking over so much without tiring him out. You are lucky to be able to talk to your dad like that, my dad and I just have some idle chatter, but that's the way we've always been.
• Philippines
24 May 07
I have the same kid as you have. My daughter is same age as your son and the same behavior too. I couldn't make her shut up everytime she keep on asking me everything she hears and see. But sometimes when it's enough I encourage her to sit down and explain that I can't answer everything she asks. You know kid wouldn't understand specially if they are in that age and wanted to learn almost everything. Just be patience. What I did was just listen and pretend I'm listening then keep on nodding or another way around. If she will not shut up I give her toys and place where she can play. Or I just let her watch cartoons or her favorite movie in VCD/DVD while I'm doing household chores. Well just try it and if it will not work ask your pedia or counselor. Good luck! :)
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
24 May 07
Thanks for your thoughts. I guess there are days where it would be very easy to put him in front of the T.V., but sometimes, even his favourite movie isn't enough to keep him occupied. My wife and I will keep trying different things, and see if we can find something that works.
@compumom (738)
• United States
24 May 07
EGADS! I thought I was the only one. When my son was 4, he didn't speak very clearly, but that didn't stop him. He yammered on and on. He's 15 and he still yaps endlessly. His voice is deeper and louder, but he still talks endlessley at times. My daughter talks alot too. I keep telling them that I have two ears, but I cannot follow two different conversations. Be thankful that your son talks to you. There are some kids who can't stand to be in the same room with their parents.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
24 May 07
Yes, thanks for that. I'm sure there may be a time when he doesn't want to talk because I've made him cross about something, but hopefully not until his teenage years!! But going by what you are saying, they still go good and strong at 15, so I guess the peace will come when he finally moves out,lol!!
@ljcapps (1927)
• United States
24 May 07
LOL thank god. i have a four year old boy that NEVER stops talking. He talks in his SLEEP. LOL he's a good boy, and he's smart and has a great imagination, but he never stops. We've been teaching him to not interrupt, but that doesn't always work. And he repeats himself, until somebody responds. We just listen as much as we can, and sometimes we have to ask him to be quiet for a bit, but that doesn't always work. So we have lots of things for him to do around here, such as coloring, or a train set in his room. We even set up a TV and DVD player in his room so sometimes he can watch movies in there, so we can have a little bit of quiet. It works, as long as you don't let your kid live in front of the TV. Another good investment for us? A bubble machine for the backyard. It's amazing.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
24 May 07
Thanks for the idea, I may have to invest in a bubble machine! My son does like the odd dvd, but usually when I least need him to. When his mouth is in overdrive, it seems nothing else will interest him. My son is good in the respect he won't talk over us, but he will keep saying 'excuse me, I've got my hand up'! Something he got from kindy!