Do you feel let down or kind of cheated when...

United States
May 23, 2007 1:45pm CST
Do you feel kind of cheated when you respond to discussions and to EACH discussion from the same user she always made the same comment "thanks for your reply" to every response. This came to my attention as I had accepted her as a friend and attempted to respond to most of her discussions and noticed her comment every time was "thanks...." never ever did she make any other comment. I checked out at least 10 discussions and one of them http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1096469.aspx I could see that she had many detailed responses which the responders had obviously taken time to type. I did questions her on this and her answer was verbatim "Yeah when there is a need for some other type of response. Most people are just answering questions I have asked. There is no need to say anything else." I don't think this is correct and she is also breaking myLot rules by only thanking each response. How do you feel about this?
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28 responses
@mari61960 (4895)
• United States
23 May 07
Well I don't like it when people do that and mylot has said not to thank everyone that replies. It strikes me as a waste of time. I don't know this person but it seems to me they may only be interested in making money not conversation. Unfortunately some people just don't care or something. I've seen many people that do that and some people don't respond at all. I just stick to my friends that I know care about what they write and what the responses are and do respond when they need to or have something to add or ask, etc. Jeez I'm starting to think this kind of thing bothers me more than I thought...lol
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• United States
24 May 07
That is funny because the first few time I received her comments it didn't bother me but then when I had spent time formulating a good response and got the usual "thanks for your reply" I realized it did bother me.
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• United States
24 May 07
That is funny because the first few time I received her comments it didn't bother me but then when I had spent time formulating a good response and got the usual "thanks for your reply" I realized it did bother me.
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• United States
24 May 07
oops! sorry!
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@bindishah (2062)
• India
23 May 07
Sometimes it happens that the responses are not even eprtaining to the discussion. In that context, it maybe better to be polite and thank the responders. But I cant think this would be possible for each and every response to each and every discussion. Maybe the person just got so many responses that she did not have the time to make a proper reply.
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• United States
24 May 07
I think she has only had 1 discussion with at the most 10 responses it is not to hard at least to commment by at least saying a couple of words to show she had read the response. If I have nothing to add to the response of answer a question then I dont comment at all I will just rate it.
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23 May 07
That really gets on my nerves when people do that! I think that it is really rude and unfair that we took the time to reply and they just repeat the same comment without some kind of reply
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@sunshine4 (8708)
• United States
23 May 07
I do think that she is breaking mylot rules by just saying thank you for the response. Why bother at all? I always try to answer my responses, and unless nothing else can be said, then I will say thanks....but not to every response.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
23 May 07
I've always thought that a "discussion" was more than a question and an answer. I try to comment to as many responses as I can on my discussions with something that shows that I took the time to read what they wrote and am interested in continuing the discussion with them when necessary. When I'm responding to other people's discussions, I try really hard to give a quality answer. Sometimes I'll even ask my own questions hoping to clarify the topic a little more. I like it when my responses are commented on. When I just get "thank you for your response" I wonder if they bothered to read what I wrote. Also it is in the guidelines not to leave thank you comments on all of your responses. It's fine if you say thank you for mentioning such and such, or thank you for uderstanding, or thank you for going out of you way to find the information I wanted...things like that and elaborating on what the person said. But simply stating "thank you for responding" is unacceptable and we're told not to do it. I even remember one mylotter being warned by administration not to do it anymore.
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• United States
24 May 07
Thank you foxyfire my thoughts exactly.
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
23 May 07
Yes she is breaking the rules and I think it needs to be brought to mylot Attention as it is not allowed and People are being suspended for that sort of think and it sounds like she is rude to Get rid of her Heather you don't need that
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
23 May 07
Wow am I glad I denied her the other Day lol as she has asked me a few times but her Profile and Discussions where no interest to me
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• United States
24 May 07
GUESS WHAT! I looked again at the link I gave you and she must have taken the complaint I posted on one of her discussions to heart because she is now actually giving a decent comment. She had been busy going into her discussions and giving comments to the new responses she had recently received. I guess all's weel that ends well. I removed her from my friends list and I dont want her back.
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
24 May 07
Well something good has come out of it then lol I refused her twice
@mummymo (23707)
23 May 07
you know that I usually adopt an 'each to their own' attitude but having seen some examples what you are talking about , where people have spent time and effort and actually given examples of their own experiences I think I would be offended to get a response like that - I would rather have no response!
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• United States
24 May 07
I too would rather have no response. I actually felt quite sorry for the members who had responded in the link I gave you. They had really spent time and thought writing about their own experiences.
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@mummymo (23707)
24 May 07
Thing is people will probably start wising up and she will stop getting responses - wish people would start thinking about those who were corteous enough to respond - espescially those who have responded thoughtfully as in this case - or am I just old fashioned? xxx
@GardenGerty (105257)
• United States
23 May 07
It is nice when people actually comment on responses. I do not expect them to comment on every response, but once in awhile, it is nice. I do feel like the Thank you responses are un needed. When there are comments, it makes a discussion into a real conversation. I do not think I have any friends who are just saying "thank you" at this time. Yes, it would be kind of a let down to get that e-mail notice that msabc responded to your discussion and then it is only thank you..
@gastly (296)
• India
23 May 07
Yeah well most of the time it is good that you reply the responder with a polite thanks. But its insane that you do it for all the responders. I try to respond to all my posts but usually I try to add some variety in my 'Thanks You' replies.
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23 May 07
I do try to make a follow up response to comments made even though I can't always leave a remark to each and every response. However, this just seems a bit lazy to me and not very personal.
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• United States
24 May 07
That isn't very encouraging and I certainly would not continue to answer any of her discussions, I wonder if she answers other peoples discussions at all. I would not want to keep her as a friend eithher, her discussions may end up getting deleted if she continues to violate mylot rules.
• United States
24 May 07
Yes and I dont want to respond to discussions that may get deleted.
• United States
25 May 07
How rude in my opinion. Some people on here actually do take the time to think out their responses. At least she can add a little more to her discussion or to the people who responded to her discussions. I know it's better than saying nothing at all, but I would rather at least try to come up with a response to a responder before just typing any old thing in reply to them.
@bam001 (941)
• United States
23 May 07
I don't feel cheated when this happens. I think that maybe she wanted to respond to every single answer/response someone gave her. Myself, I do not have nearly enough time to go back and respond like that...even though I have started very few discussions and haven't really had a lot of response.
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• Singapore
23 May 07
Well, I would just shrug it. I won't reply again to say thank you for your thank you. :P She is just trying to be polite... don't be so hard on her yea? :PP
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
24 May 07
Hi I am sorry I am not getting the point here, are you upset because she gives the same answer all the time when you reply to her discussions. Or are you upset that she does respond to your answer? It is my understanding and I may be wrong, but if you post a question, and some one answers, any thing you add doesn't count toward payment. As I said I am not sure how this works, but I am pretty sure that thanking some one for replying to your discussion is against the rules, But What I am not to sure about is if you add to the discussion by perhaps clarifying a point then it is OK to post that, I am not sure if any one gets paid for any thing they additional add to their own discussion. At one time All I did was say thank you but was told not to do this unless I was going to add more information. I would really like to know how it works. I do not answer enough discussions to make or worry about the money so it is not a concern for me Thanks Robin
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@Eskimo (2317)
24 May 07
Robin, If you respond (even if just to say thank you) then it puts you to the top of the recent discussion page and your friends discussion page, so that you may get more people reading your discussion - you only get paid if your points level increases. I don't think that thanking someone for responding is taking part in a discussion.
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
24 May 07
Now that is something I didn't know, I truly appreciate the information and a possible way to keep my discussion on the front page. (can I say thank you now lol)I have often had my discussions go off the front page very quickly and I have often seen and replied to discussions that are months old and wondered why they were on the page again Now I know cool, Regards Robin.
@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
25 May 07
I have a live and let live approach. What others do doesn't worry me mostly. There have been one or two times that a response has been callous and I've been silly enough to let it upset me but otherwise I just move on. I certainly wouldn't just say "thanks..." and leave it at that. If a response moves me to reply or asks a question, I leave a comment but this isn't always the case.
@Eskimo (2317)
24 May 07
Sometimes there is no other answer (I don't usually make any reply if this is the case), but by doing this it brings you to the top of the recent discussion page, and also to the top of the My Friends discussion page as well, which gives a better chance of getting more responses. To me a discussion is a discussion with responses stating the responders case (either agreeing or disagreeing with what is written), just saying thanks for responding is silly and probably does breaks MyLot's rules, this is one of the few reasons that I sometimes give a - rating.
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• Switzerland
24 May 07
I don't think that she will get paid for the additional replies she posts on her post. Also, it is for those who comment on her post to take it up with her, as you did. If you are convinced with her answer, then, continue posting, else, ignore her posts. We live in a free world, mostly, so she has the freedom to post as she wants:-)
@gardengrrl (1445)
• United States
26 May 07
lol and it was a copy and paste, at that! I worry about people being offended if I respond to someone else's comment, but not theirs. Can't be helped, because I generally only respond if I have something to say. Sometimes, I even forget to say thank you in my comments, which could be seen as being rude. I don't mean to be, though. I am disappointed with a stock answer, if I've given a bit of time to crafting my response. I always hope to get a bit of back and forth going. I also realized why it is so much harder for very prolific posters to regain their star rating after it takes a hit, the more individual postings(with ratings) you have, the less each individual one moves the score. OK, so sometimes I'm slow to catch on! I don't find your writing whiny, and believe me, if it were, I would! There's so many interesting things to talk about, why waste bandwidth b*i*tching? Rock on, Heather!
@eaforeman6 (8983)
• United States
25 May 07
I would be worn out saying thank you every time. I just saw in the rules that we are not suppose to do that. If everyone did it then we would all be spending all our time just on thank yous. Its nice and polite but it would be really hard to do that in here..