has standing up to relatives gotten you in trouble? have you lost popularity

Yes!. My daughter ripped me off for a total of $26,000.00 dollar when I was in the hospital. Now the total has risen to $39,000.00 she has not offered to repay one cent of this money...we are now estranged... I have no daughter, money was more important to her than her mother and she didn't care that she had to steal it from my life savings.!

Yes I had a disagreement with my "father in law" and even though it seems to have settled itself and we get along for the sake of getting along, I have overheard him tell his daughters what a nasty woman I am (to say it the nicest way LOL). I feel sorry for his daughters because they don't know the half of what goes on with their father (which I learnt while working for him and my family living with him too). I use to be quite close to my husbands sisters but I've noticed our relationship has somewhat changed after the disagreement. Oh well, such is life I suppose, as long as I have my family I am happy with that.

I have this problem with my mother and my aunt (her sister). They have never gotton along and they are very opposite from each other. They like to talk about the other one to me all the time and neither wants me to get along with the other. My mother and I use to have a lot of problems. We didn't really have much of a relationship until I was 21. She would argue over everything I did and finally I started to really fight back. She realized she was wrong and now we get along great but when i get along with my mom I can't with my aunt. It's like I'm yanked by both of them. Lately though my mom hasn't said anything because I ignore it.

I haven't ever really been in a situation in my family like some of our fellow mylotters have described. I've always stood up, and after i met my wife, if i failed to stand up over something, she did. And it's the same way in her family. Honestly, she's pretty much the complete opposite of just about everyone in her family. There was a rift when she told them all one day, we're together because of blood, but it's relationships that sustain us, and if you can't treat me like a decent human being, then don't talk to me at all. Needless to say, she doesn't speak to most of them outside of her immediate family which she's very close to. And in my family? Well. that's a long story. Anyway, the moral of the story for me is, she's right. We're stuck together because of blood. But it's our treatment of each other that decides whether or not we have actual relationships with one another, or just cards at christmas.

Yes, this has happened to me. I have stood up to my brother a few times. I hate it when he gets racist with his comments. Also once when he interfered in a family matter between my mother & myself. We ended up not talking to one another for quite some time.. We get along okay now.

I have had to stand up for myself on many occasions. I am a go against the grain kinda girl, just because I like to flex my brain. Indeed I have had to put people in their place when they were acting like idiots, and you don't make friends that way, but you do look wise. worth it to me.

I've told my mom or my dad off at times and gotten the cold shoulder because of it. Worse though is the whole guilt trip they have run on me because of it. Lately though when I blew up at my dad my mom was glad I did, she stated someone had to do it. Ever since my dad had his strokes he's gotten very mean at times and judgemental. It takes a lot for me to get that angry but once I do I really go off on it.