How did you deal with losing your pets?

@TinaCL (429)
United States
May 23, 2007 10:32pm CST
I'm really interested to know this. My parents never wanted to have pets. It wasn't that we didn't like animals (we all LOVE them). It's just that having pets means having to say good bye every few years. We really get attached to our animal companions (whether they be dogs, cats, birds, even hamsters or girbils). They become members of the family. I know I couldn't deal with getting attached and then having to say goodbye. My best friend's wonderful black laborador had to be put to sleep (he had cancer). It really felt like losing a loved one. For those of you who grew up with pets, how did you deal with losing them?
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• New Zealand
24 May 07
Well their is really no easy way to answer that as even my mum thinks of the dog as a part of the family. The last dog we had a furnell for and it is burried in the back yard with the others we had since living here. I guess you just have to get used to it slowly like we did once they go. It really is not an easy thing to do as our pets last over a decade normally.
@TinaCL (429)
• United States
27 May 07
Yeah it's definitely not easy to lose a pet. But it sounds like you've had quitea few growing up, so you've gotten used to it. You were probably better able to prepare yourself for the inevitable.
@magikrose (5423)
• United States
24 May 07
The loss of a loved one is the hardest to deal with. For me it is just living day to day. The thing I did first was to completely remove anything that belonged to my pets so that I can heal faster. I found that if you keep somethin of theres in the house like a bowl or a toy when you look at it you are reminded of them tend to break down and cry all over again. Some people get another pet maybe diffrent color or diffrent species, either way everyone deals with loss diffrently.
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@TinaCL (429)
• United States
27 May 07
Wow a 10 star member--I'm in the presence of greatness! What you write reminds of how I used to deal with relationship break-ups. I like to get rid of things that belonged to guys I've dated in the past. It helps me move on and it helps me feel like I have a clean slate. Some people like to keep objects of sentimental value because it helps them remember the good times. But I guess everyone's different. I don't know if I'd deal with losing pets the same way I deal with break ups.
@shinjiao (1464)
• China
24 May 07
Hi,TinaCL! Well,losing pets is really bad.Because for the pet's master,the pet has already become a family member in home.If one of our family member lost one day,how do we think about it or deal with it? If my pet lost,I will be very sad.Maybe my first reaction is doing nothing but crying...
@TinaCL (429)
• United States
25 May 07
I am very fortunate never to have lost anyone in my family (except my great-grandma, but she was 96), so I have no way of imagining what it would be like to lose either a family member or a pet. I would probably be like you and just cry...
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@sallyxu126 (1185)
• China
24 May 07
it is really a sad thing when this happened on me .and it is really ever happened on me . I ever lose my loved dog and my love cat , when we could not find them at all, we feel so upset and try our best to look for them . but after our effort, we still could not get them back. we lose them and don't know where to find them . it is so bad luck and so bad feelings when this happened. all of my family feel we lose some important things in life. maybe your parents are right to don't have any pets.
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@TinaCL (429)
• United States
25 May 07
Yeah, I've always wondered if my parents were right. It was easier never having to mourn over a pet. I can't imagine what it would be like to lose a pet--not only does it become a part of the family, it's also a best friend and companion.
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• Canada
24 May 07
Dealing with the loss of anything is always hard but I believe it is harder when dealing with the loss of a pet because a pet becomes a part of one's family . You have them for so many years and spend all your time taking care of a pet that it becomes just as much a part of the family as anyone else . Over the years we have had the loss of many pets and it has always been hard on everyone in the family and have always found the best way to get over the loss is to move on and get a new pet to love and take care of . Not really to replace the loss of your old pet but to add another pet to the family that will have meaning to your household as well .
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@TinaCL (429)
• United States
25 May 07
I agree--taking care of a pet creates a special bond, a different type of bond than you'd have with a family member, but just as special. Yeah, I guess it does help to get a new pet not to replace the old one, but just to make new memories.
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@daryljane (3437)
• Philippines
25 May 07
i have a cat once...just an ordinary cat though but it has 3 colors..her name is tigress! i still feel bad since i wasnt there when she left and i dont know where she is right now.
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@rudyram (12)
• Philippines
24 May 07
You know what Tina? I really love pets that's why I really cried when I gave up my pit bull. I've prayed that if this dog is still for me it will come back to me and it did in one weeks time the other owner called me up and told me if they can return the dog to me. That was the most wonderful thing that I heard that day!
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@kitkat1 (1227)
• Canada
24 May 07
Losing pets for me and the kids is like losing a family member and it is rough times. I have came to the decisions as we have lost alot of pets over the years that if something happens to our four cats i will have no more and not because i dont love them because i do but i believe that is why i dont want no more. A friend of mine chooses not to have pets and it is not because he dont like them he had pets growing up and loves animals. But like he said he trys not to get and attachment to animals cause when you do they die or run away and i thought that was amusing till i really thought about it and it is so true.
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• United States
24 May 07
I had pets at home the whole time I was growing up. They became very special in our hearts. Mom and dad always sat us down and discussed with us that animals are not with us as long as our family members are. That when one passes away it is alright to grieve but not to keep it there for a long time. Whenever one of our pets would die within a week we had another one to love and cherish.
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• India
24 May 07
It's well said that ,,it feels bad to loose someone which is just close to our heart,,but we shouldn't forgive that every life has stat and end, it u will apply a practical fact in your daily life it will helps u lot.
@TinaCL (429)
• United States
26 May 07
Yeah that's true. There's a beginning and an end to everything. If you remember that it really helps to keep things in perspective--especially when you lose someone special. Also, if you believe in afterlife, there's still the possibility of meeting again.
@wonderful1 (2076)
• China
1 Jun 07
cat -  I have a black cat. I didn't know it is lovely until I lost it.
There is a black cat in my family. I don't like him, because I feel he is too magical. He is ok after falling down from 4 floors. I hate his eyes, they are too terrible. But my dad like him, he like my dad too. Oneday, he lost, I heard someone stolen him and eaten him, because he went to their house and ate fish. Frankly, I am sad to hear that although I don't like him. He is too small to protect him, human is too terrible for small pets.
• United States
1 Jun 07
It is very difficult to deal with. I feel like they are my family, and the pain is very deep. It hurts, to me, the same as loosing a person. Time helps the pain not to be 24/7. But, it is always there. I went 5 years without a pet, after loosing my last pet, a Siamese at 17 1/2 years. It has been 14 years, and it still hurts. I miss him, and now have 2 cats. But, no more after this.
@fatpatty (83)
• Philippines
27 May 07
i don't actuallylose them...because they are all in my HEART.. :)
@susieq223 (3742)
• United States
25 May 07
Pet Memory Stone - This is the memory stone I use in my little pet cemetary. I painted it on a round flagstone that I bought at Walmart. It stands in a small flower bed.
Losing a pet is like losing a child for me. Maybe not quite as bad, but it feels like it! However, I know that life is about losing and saying goodbye. No one goes through life without going through that. So, I deal with grief just one day at a time and remember the good things. The old line, "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." holds just as true for pets as it does for human relationships. I have buried the cats I have lost in a special flower bed and made my own little stone for them. That helps me. (See picture)
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
24 May 07
Hi TinaCL I know the feeling quite well. I had to have one of my favorite cats put to sleep a couple of years ago. She had gotten cancer too. I dont know how I survived it. But after she was gone the house was so loney. I couldnt take it. So I went to the animal shelter for kittens. And guess what? They didnt have any kittens yet. So I went to another shelter and no kittens. So long story short I had to wait about a month for kittens. Im so happy with what I have now I have 2 sweeties this time Molly and Maggie. I think thats the only way to ease the hurt is get right out there and get another one.