Children that need glasses - Do you let them pick their own frames out?
By Foxxee
@Foxxee (3651)
United States
May 24, 2007 2:44am CST
My daughter just got her new glasses a week ago and I was worried that they looked kind of big for her face.
I didn't pick them out, her daddy actually was with her when she got her eyes checked out and he let her pick her own frames out.
I wasn't real happy with her choice, only for the reason because I thought the glasses just looked huge on her face.
Then again, I guess it's her face, so it should be her choice right?
So, my questions is, do you think kids should pick their own frames out? Remember, my daughter is only 4.
I did decided to go ahead and let her wear the ones she picked out, no matter what I think of them because after all, it's her face and I know I sure wouldn't want someone making me wear something I didn't want to wear.
Maybe I just need to get use to the fact that she wears glasses.
I did pick the second pair out myself though, I got smaller frames for her, that I thought might look better, she seems to like them, but she still likes the ones she picked out more, so she wears those to school.
I guess it's not a big deal, she is still young. It's not a contest on who wears the cutest glasses anyway… or is it?
She is still CUTE with her big ole glasses and if she is happy, then I'm happy!
I need to work on letting her be her own person and stop trying to make her be more like me...
Anyway, my question is, would you let your 4 year old pick their own frames out all on their own?
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3 responses
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
25 May 07
I really feel that her dad should have picked out several pair that he felt was right for her face and then let her choose from the ones he picked.I think your daughter is a little young to make choices from a huge selection.She is happy with her glasses and after her dad let her choose,then now you can't do much about it,but i think he was wrong to give her so many choices.....I always picked out several things i felt was right for my children in clothas and toys and then let them choose from the items i picked.Im sure she is cute as can be anyway but men knows nothing about style as far as i am concerned,when it comes to anything like that.My husabnd would have picked out the uglist glasses ever made if i let him loose to choose..Lol
@Foxxee (3651)
• United States
25 May 07
MEN!
And I even told him before he left "please get the smaller frames, I don't want big frames."
I also explained to him what kind and even showed him pictures.
But no... do they listen?
Sometimes it doesn't even matter, it's like we waste our breath trying to tell them about something because they already have a set mind.
LOL!
One time, my husband, he was suppose to go out and pick out a flower girl dress for my daughter for my mom's wedding, and you know what, the man came back with a pink ballet looking thing that could actually even be a bathing suit. And this was suppose to be for a wedding! My whole family was laughing. I had to get her a dress at the last minute.
I don't know. SOmetimes he just doesn't know what to do with his daughter. But it can be funny at times watching him trying to shop for her. Just wait for when she is a teenager... LOL!
@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
24 May 07
At that age with the help of the vision people they frames would be picked out by adults. Imput accepted from the child however they need to learn about the fit and style that will be unique in some fashion to them. We all learn it to some degree. I could have saved you some money with the discounts on the profile I have here. You could have ordered the pair from their selection for less than you paid at the vision place. Good luck with it. Sorry she had to get them so young. I began to wear glasses in the 5th grade.
@Foxxee (3651)
• United States
25 May 07
Yeah, they noticed she wasn't doing good with her school work so we had her tested. It's a good thing though because she does excellent with her school work now that she can see better.
And as far as the whole letting her pick her own glasses out, well they have a kids side with kid frames only, just for kids. All the kids frames are fit to fit kids for her age group. And I guess the vision people just pretty much told my husband that it be a good idea to let her pick her own because that way she would actually want to wear them.
I guess I understand what they are saying.
And our insurance covers all cost for her glasses unlimited.
Thanks for commenting and offering advice. I appriciate it.
@jessescottus (807)
• United States
25 May 07
I think that children should make their own choices,as long as they are resonable to the adult who is in charge of them.The choice gives the child self-confidence,which they will need in future life.And make sure that they are sturdy frames,she is only 4 years old
