have you ever loved someone before but never had the courage to tell him/her?

@Zelmarq (11503)
Cebu City, Philippines
May 24, 2007 11:43pm CST
Hmmmmmm, I guess I was in this kind of situation before and it was not at all love but in love with the thought of being in love. In short I was deeply obsesed witht his person and he was a crduh of mine for 8 long years. I never had the courage tot el him for we were not even friends and he does not even know I ever existed. Well, I loved the feeling of seeing him around and just cant describe that feeling of excitement when I see him. I see him there, I watched from afar a feeling that I know was ever possible.
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9 responses
• Indonesia
26 May 07
:) hi, that must be hurt, I've the same feeling like you too before. I like one beautiful girl, but I think she's too perfect for me until one day he married another guy. After that I asked her, "you know what ? I've fall in love with you once" and she answered me" why don't you tell me before ? I like you too once, but I've never know, and now it's late ." I'm very regret when I heard that, and know I feel like I've missed one precious treasure. so don 't be like me. be brave, try to live like tomorrow is doomsday, say and express what do you feel to him. I wish you the best luck for love. :)
@Zelmarq (11503)
• Cebu City, Philippines
28 May 07
Thats what I said about not telling the other people how we feel would also have good and bad effects. If you told her about it you could have spared yourself from lonely nights.
• Canada
26 May 07
I have never loved anyone that did not know about it . I don't believe in not stating how I feel especially when I meet someone . I don't believe you can be in love with someone that you don't really know and although I have had guys tell me they loved me it always made me mad because I would tell them that you can't love someone you don't know that would be an infactuation . Love takes time and you have to know a person and devolpe feelings before you can call it love . I don't take love lightly and never have and right from when I first had a boyfriend made sure not to say how I felt until I was sure myself how I felt as I wouldn't want to hurt someone by not telling them how I felt .
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@Zelmarq (11503)
• Cebu City, Philippines
26 May 07
Yes it was all infatation that I have felt for a guy. I was infatuated for 8 long years and I feel good about it. Its the only something good that I can remember in my college days. The rest were bad things about losing a father and a lot more.
• China
26 May 07
Yes.When I was in middle school,I loved a boy in my class.He was so smart and lovely.Every time I caught across him,My heart bitten hardly.But I could not say anything.But now i have boyfriend.Last winter I saw him,He was not the boy i usually loved.
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@Zelmarq (11503)
• Cebu City, Philippines
26 May 07
well, we often interchange crush for love, then we realize in the end it was not love at all.
@falltime (65)
• China
26 May 07
I had love a girl for about eleven years but never told her.
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@Zelmarq (11503)
• Cebu City, Philippines
26 May 07
Wow, I guess its time that she will know about how you feel for her. But you must prepare yorself for the worst.
• India
26 May 07
This is the most common character of love..when we love someone ,we are very much afraid of losing her..thats why I think we are unable to exress our feeling for her..And it is also true that "the most painful love is unspoken".
@Zelmarq (11503)
• Cebu City, Philippines
26 May 07
yes, our fears kept us from telling what we truly feel. Its the fear of rejection and not telling is better than being rejected.
• Philippines
26 May 07
well, i experienced that also for 6 years.. incredible.. even i have my boyfriend he still the one i like.. i love and wish to be with but im not unfair to my bf becasue he knew it even before we had a relationship. im inlove with my bestfriend and dont have the courage to tell him that i relly love him but as time pass by i let go. because i know someday il found soemone that i can love freely and i can love without seeing afar..
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@Zelmarq (11503)
• Cebu City, Philippines
26 May 07
yikes, I wish I dont have to go through all that pain and rejection.
@Zerzis (558)
• India
26 May 07
I have loved a girl and i had courage to propose her! And she had courage to disrespect it! I dont think i am a coward when feeling come from bottom of my heart. And i am strong enough to handle the disrespect from her. Anyways you cant expect the one whom you love also loves you.
@Zelmarq (11503)
• Cebu City, Philippines
26 May 07
Yes, its a reality that we face in this cruel world. At least you have expressed the feelings you have for her. If she does not feel the same for you of course its not her fault. I guess she was just trying to be honest with you and it depends on how you take it. Hope you have a nice day!
@cdparazo (5768)
• Philippines
25 May 07
I did actually. But like you I wasn't really THAT in love but it's love just the same and might have grown into something really wonderful. We met through a common friend and eventually got close. I didn't know that he felt anything towards me until it was too late. He didn't tell me because I had a boyfriend at that time. I, on the other hand, was falling for him also but I didn't gave any hint or clue or any indication that I was interested or have any feelings towards him beyond friendship because I already had a boyfriend who is working in Manila. I still can't forget the feeling of regret and loss when I knew of his feelings for me but he already left for good. I guess it was just not meant to be.
@Zelmarq (11503)
• Cebu City, Philippines
26 May 07
well, yours was a different situation. Its hard when you have the right love at the wrong time. May be you were not really meant for each other. The one thing that was the problem was not being able to express how we really feel for the other. Well, this is life, there are things that we have no control over.
@crickethear (1420)
• United States
25 May 07
Yes, I have, but I never said anything, because it would not have worked out. The person is married, and I would never be a home wrecker, so I keep i to myself pretty good. I think it is pretty clear when you love someone. I don't think you always have to say something to the person. I think the emotion of love is so strong, that takes presidence.
@Zelmarq (11503)
• Cebu City, Philippines
25 May 07
thats great man, of course, love is not always telling the person how you feel about them. Theres no point in doing so if that someone is already with someone else. I suggest you wait for that person who is really meant for you. Hope you have a nice day.