Have you ever played down your capabilities to make someone else feel superior?

United States
May 27, 2007 12:45am CST
As a woman I have been around and learned a lot of things and can be intimidating to some especially men. When a man thinks you have too much going on he shys away for some reason atleast the good ones do. Then you have the leeches that don't want to try to make it on their own and want to try to live off you. I have found myself not letting on to what I am capable of because you have alot of people with great ideas that want you to work for free so they can get rich. Imagine that, have you ever had anything like that happen to you? Male or female? What did you stand to lose or they stand to gain?
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@Phlamingho (7834)
• Denmark
27 May 07
No I would never do that. I always tell and act the truth, that might be hard on someone but that's just the way I do business
• United States
28 May 07
I don't blame you I just wish others would do the same I don't mind if I have something you need to help you get to the next level but don't try to trick me out of it or downplay it so you can run away with it.
@sigma77 (5385)
• United States
27 May 07
Excellent topic. I would welcome a person who has great ideas and knows how to turn them into something good. I could learn from that person. I do have some great ideas myself and if I had someone to help me make those ideas become something great, I would reward that person for their assistance. I think that to be really successful, we all need help from others at some point. I know there are people who want to have everything delivered to them on a silver platter. But there are some who might appear that they want to live off of you when maybe they only need a helping hand for a while to turn things around or to make their ideas work. I would not want to play down my capabilities. In my estimation, that would be disrespecting my talents as a gift from the Creator. I would want to find ways to help others see their talents and use them for good purposes. I can see your point of not wanting to be taken advantage of, but in the end, you always have the decision to place your attentions elsewhere. Or, to help someone who wants to learn and not just ride on your coattails.
• United States
28 May 07
This is true but the sad part is when you get someone who thinks you don't realize what they are doing and that makes you be a little more careful whe you meet other people who are interested in what you can do. If a person were upfront and just needed a little help I would welcome that but it's the sneaky thing that gets me.
• China
27 May 07
yes ,i have this experience . when i was a teacher in a training school,those skilled colleagues always added their work to me ,because i was a newer and the youngest. and after i had finished those ,they would take it away as theirs. but now ,i have quitted that job.
• United States
28 May 07
I can't blame you it's a shame that people are always trying to capitalize on the skills of others and give nothing back in return.