Will you say no if...?

smoke - I don't smoke.
China
May 27, 2007 1:05am CST
Will you say no or persuade him when a smoker who is smoking sits beside you while you're a none-smoker?Such as in the bus. For me,i hate smoke.But i dare not ask the smoker not to smoke.I feel nasty about them if they somke at none-smoke places. What about you?Can you give me some advice on persuading them not smoking?
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@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
27 May 07
I smoke and let me tell you, if I tried to light up in a crowded bus I would probably get arrested, at the very least I would be heavily fined. If I'm in a no smoking area, then I won't smoke...unless it is outside, because that is just asanine especially if no one is around. Smokers in the U.S. are treated worse everyday, we're becoming second class citizens and may as well be the new "black" person of 30 years ago in the south. Anways, really just ask them to stop. Tell them it is bothering you and can't breathe. Most will be nice enough to put it out, if not contact someone in authority...assuming that it is in fact a non-smoking area.
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• United States
28 May 07
I agree with kelly. First, race is not a choice and smoking is, so to compare what is happening to smokers with what happened with "blacks" is unjustified. Second, smokers are not being stripped of their rights. You still have the right to smoke, but it ends at my right to breathe clean air.
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@mypigbox (2245)
• China
27 May 07
I am smoker.if one smoker in the room forbided smoking,i will say no to him.
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• China
27 May 07
Well,every smoker has his right to smoke.But i mean that they smoke in none-smoke places.I never forbid smoker smoke in the place where there is no ban for smoking.Take it easy,my friend,lol.
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@Phlamingho (7831)
• Denmark
27 May 07
I used to smoke but don't any more. However because I used to smoke, smoke dosen't really bother me, so I never say anything. I just enjoy the lovely smoke :-D
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@eiencafe (155)
• Italy
27 May 07
I don't need to ask, here it's proibitted to smoke on buses, in bars, pubs, restaurants and everywhere there's a closed space where can stay both smokers and non-smokers. Practically you can smoke only outside in the open, in smoking rooms or your house (but pay attention you can also be sued in your house by your wife or husband who doesn't smoke) and I'm happy with it because I'm a non-smoker. If that happens (for example if I go to a country where you can smoke everywhere) I try to avoid smokers but I don't know about my behaviour in that case because I'm not really used to ask. Smokers have the right to smoke but I have the right to breath, too. And some smokers don't understand that. I mean it's not that you die if you don't smoke! If someone smokes in non-smoking places I just say "can't you read?" but of course here it's different because you can get sued if you smoke in non-smoking places so people try to avoid to smoke in public (and when I say public I mean the places I wrote above, not the public street).
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• India
27 May 07
Its about the social responsibility. I will definitely counsel a smoker who is my friend advising about the ill-effect that smoking can have on his health,family,social status etc. First of all i will try and find out that the factor that triggers the habit of smoking in that person and then if counselled accordingly will be good. There are also communities/clubs that arrange campaigns against smoking too. I will get my friend to such a place and this will help the person understand the importance on quitting smoking.About a person who is smoking in a non-smoking area, first i will instruct him to stop smoking as it is restricted in that place (may be the smoker is not aware of the restricition), if he ignores the warning, he does not deserve to be spoken to.
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@ram_cv (16516)
• India
27 May 07
I don't smoke and hate the smell of smoke. I will ask the person to stop smoking if he does smoke in a non-smoking area as that is our right and regulations are in place for the same. While I also make it a conscious effort not to go into a smoking zone. I face this problem everytime I go to Frankfurt Airport. They have these open smoking areas right in the central locations in the airport and if you have to pass from one section to another you need to pass through these smoking zone. That is absolutely crazy, if you need to keep smoking zones separate then keep it out of the main passage else allow smoking everywhere as people have to pass through these smoking zones anyhow!! Also, I don't go to have discussions with people when they smoke. I recently told one of my project leads who wanted to have a discussion over a smoke, to go and take a smoke and return and then I would discuss. He felt offended the first time I told him, but since then he has got used to it. I guess you need to put your views forth on these issues, else you would end up doing what you don't want to. Cheers! Ram
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@KissThis (3006)
• United States
27 May 07
I am a non smoker. If someone asks me if its alright to smoke I explain that I have asthma and would prefer if they didn't smoke around me. I grew up in a household where the majority of the people smoked. I never really complained about it unless we were in a confined area where there wasn't much ventilazion. I learned that for my own health I had to explain to people how I felt about the smoke.
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• United States
27 May 07
I'm a non-smoker. Most of the smokers I've come across have been quite considerate. They will not smoke in non-smoking places and if they smoke outdoors, they usually will step away from the crowd. The smoke really bothers me too...makes it hard for me to breathe. But my biggest concern is when/if they smoke too close to my toddler...even in public places cos' the wind will blow the smoke close to us even if they are a few feet away. In those instances, I will ask if they can kindly smoke a little further away. They always oblige so it's not a big problem for me.
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@psyche49f (2511)
• Philippines
27 May 07
If it's really necessary, you have to tell the smoker to transfer to another place for smoking. I guess that we non-smokers have a right to clean air, as much as smokers have also the right to smoke as they please. Remember that their rights end where our rights begin. I have actually called the attention of smokers. One time in a boat, a lady below me was puffing smoke right through my nose; I asked her to transfer to another place. Of course she reacted negatively but she heeded my request. At another time still in an air-conditioned area of the boat, my husband and myself reported to a ship crew about a man who was smoking, and we are inhaling the smoke. The area had a "no smoking" sign, but still people insist on violating it. It's just a matter of discipline, really. So next time, ask politely the smoker to refrain from smoking in public places as not all people love to inhale the smoke.
• United States
27 May 07
i am a smoker. i dont smoke in non-smoking places cause here in the US it will get you a monetary fine. i was never one to smoke when ppl were eating either, even if it was allowed. i know when i eat i dont like the smoke, so im sure that non-smokers hate it when eating and someone is smoking. i always try to be polite and concientious about those around me. if i think that the smoke is bothering just one person in a group of ppl then i will put it out. or go outside. im not a rude person, i am very observant of how others are being affected. and i wouldnt want to make someone uncomfortable around me. though i suppose if they allow smoking on the buses in your country and ppl were being pushy about telling a smoker to put it out, i could see them getting mad. but i THINK most of the smokers, if asked politly without adding "its my life your hurting" type of comments, will put out the cig when asked.
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• United States
28 May 07
yea i wud definately tell tat guy not to smoke as i m alergic to smoking! i cant not bear it at all. n in public places or bus or train u can always ask not to smoke thr.
@youless (93655)
• Guangzhou, China
28 May 07
I don't like anyone who is smoking in front of me. I especially dislike people who smoke in the public place like the lift or bus. When I meet such kind of person, I will make some gestures to show to the smoker that I'm very annoyed by the smoking. If the smoker doesn't stopped, then usually I will angrily say:"Please do smoke here!"
@suman76 (648)
• India
28 May 07
I think this much manners should one have actually that if someone is sitting with you, you dont have to smoke or if that person don't have that much of manners then other person should leave that place immediately.
@ozangel82 (754)
• Australia
28 May 07
in australia it is illegal to smoke in an enclosed space in most states. So you would not find yourself sitting on a bus next to someone who is smoking as they would be kicked off the bus. If i were you i would definately ask them to stop, I am a smoker and if someone asked me to stop i would.
• United States
28 May 07
I'm a smoker and i dont smoke in non smoking areas or around anyone i know arent smokers..not even family (well the exception is my husband hes a non smoker but he has said it dont bother him so i stopped feeling guilty a couple cold snowy winters ago lol) But if the person is in a non smoking area and its bothering you tell them its making you uncomfortable and besides its a posted non smoking place ..
• Canada
28 May 07
In Canada and the USA people are not allowed to smoke on busses and in other public places. Recently a law was passed we couldn't smoke here in outdoor cafes either. People think they should be able to smoke outside, but the wind still blows it my way, and I don't want to eat where people are smoking. I always tell them what is on my mind. I am not interested in breathing in other people's nasty smoke. Smokers who smoke in public and disturb other people are selfish!!