Would you become angry if you gave someone a gift and they...

United States
May 27, 2007 8:21am CST
Would you get upset if you gave someone a gift and they gave it away ..? Do you expect your friends to keep all the gifts you give them? I would not get upset if my friends gave away anything I gave them and I equally would expect them to understand that I can't keep every gift I get ..since that would not be practicle..What about you?
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@Darkwing (21588)
27 May 07
This doesn't often happen that I know of, but once you gift somebody with something, that becomes their property as far as I'm concerned, to do what they will with it. Ok, if it's something I've gone to a lot of trouble and expense to obtain because I know it's something they want, and perhaps there's even some sentimental value to it, I might feel a bit hurt, but in the end, once given, it's theirs. So... on the whole, I wouldn't be upset, no, although it would depend a lot on what sentimental value I placed on it, and how much trouble I'd gone to to ensure they had something they really wanted. Brightest Blessings.
• United States
28 May 07
I would say the amount of sentimental value on the item given would and should play a part in what the recipient does with it..Say it's a gift from family that has been handed down from one generation to the next and the next in line decides they will auction off for money..I think that would be rotten;)+
@Darkwing (21588)
29 May 07
For sure. Now, that WOULD make me angry!
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
27 May 07
Hello,littlefrancican,i will not care if someone have given away the gift i gave to them as the gifts belong to them and they can do whatever they want with it,and just like what you said,it is more practical to do this as sometimes we may buy the 'wrong 'presents to someone which they may not need at all,there is no way for them to keep the gifts,the only way is to give them away.
• United States
28 May 07
I feel the same way..I think that ..unless the person giving the gift says "please don't ever give this away" ..the recipient should be free to do with the gift whatever he or she says;)+
• Philippines
27 May 07
In some way, I would be depressed if the gift I gave would be passed to someone else. It's because it only shows that the one I gave the gift to never appreciate it or didn't like it. If we want to discard some of the gifts we have received the better way to do it is to give it someone whom you're sure that the person who gave it to you wouldn't see it. I mean, give it unnoticeable. Don't let it happen where the person would see that his gift was pass to somebody else. Show your appreciation even if you don't like the gift. Hey, it's really not the gift that's important. It is the thought that someone appreciates you.
• United States
28 May 07
If the gift can't be used though and really is not something the person likes..how long must the person hold on to it?:)+
@senthil2k (1501)
• India
27 May 07
Sincerely, YES. I will be definitely be angry when I see the gifts I have given, been given to others. Because gifts are to be valued not for their cost, but for their love with which it was given to them by their relatives and friends or anybody else. I always keep the gifts given to me with me always. I even keep them visible at my shelves as many as possible, so that when they visit me next time, they can see their gifts on the shelves. This will definitely make them happy and that will improve our relationship with them..This is my sincere opinion and I have seen people talking about my this character and I have been appreciated for this.
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@KatieS (504)
• United States
27 May 07
My SIL gets me gifts every x-mas that are unnecessary and NOT filled with any kind of thought or love. They are things that I don't need or have asked her not to get me anymore in the past. She doesn't take the time to think about what my interests are or the types of clothes I wear, she just likes to spend money. I give her stuff away all the time, in fact, her mom gave me pajama pants that she got from her daughter last x-mas because they were way too big for her. Your own daughter should know things like that. Sometimes it's not the thought. I have a lot of things on shelves that will always be there for one sentimental reason or another, I don't need more and she still keeps giving them to me. Regifting is the only way to get rid of them.
• United States
28 May 07
Wow..if I kept all the gifts I wouldn't have room in my apartment..I guess that people who gives me gifts should give me cash..then they would know I wouldn't give it away;)_+
@Harley009 (1420)
• India
28 May 07
Some cases it may feel... I had another experience, not with gift, In our home we baked some tasty cakes and gave it to some of our neighbors. One of them told me that "I don't like cakes and others in home were outside, when they came home I forgot about it, next day I thrown it to trash" I felt angry, but I didn't say any thing. But stopped giving anything to them.
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• United States
28 May 07
Well..sometimes I actually have thrown away food given me but the food was bad..I remember receiving some donuts that were out dated 2 weeks..and I did toss them out;)+_
• China
28 May 07
i am very angry if my friend gave the gift away.i think the gift is very beautiful or meaningful,but he/she give it away.it's a tremendous blow to me.what do you think of?
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• United States
28 May 07
IF the gift I receive is minute..then I don't worry about giving it away if I can't use it but if it's expensive..something people paid much for, then I don't give it away:)+
@lingli_78 (12844)
• Australia
28 May 07
i don't really care because i think that once i give a gift to somebody, it becomes theirs and i have no right to ask for it anymore... i also give some of the things that my friends give me away because i don't really need it or i don't know what to do with it... it doesn't happen very often though...
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• United States
28 May 07
It doesnt happen with me that often but when I do receive gifts I can't use I hold on to them for some time then look for an opportunity ..a person ..who I feel can use the gift I received;)+
@rojane (500)
• Philippines
28 May 07
I won't mind if they give away my presents but it doesn't mean that I won't get upset. Of course, it will somehow bother me. It just means that the person didn't like my present at all that they were able to give it away. Personally, I, myself, haven't given away a present that has been given to me. Something somehow stirs my conscience and I just couldn't do it. Maybe it's just that I care so much for the thoughts the present withholds.
• United States
28 May 07
I understand how you feel..but not keeping a gift ..does not mean you don't appreciate the gesture of the giver..I mean..wouldn't it be hyprocritical to hold on to something you really don't care for;)+
@banta78 (4335)
• India
28 May 07
I would be little upset if someone gave away the gift i gave them to someone but i would be understanding enough to not to dwell over it as though i would like others to treasure my gifts. It is upto them really what they what to do with it once gifted. Though if i gift precious gift to close dear ones i would be very happy if they chose to keep it or valued it highly.
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• United States
28 May 07
I think it would help though..if someone is sentimental about a gift ot say ..please if you don't want the gift don't give it away but return it you..+
@mykmari_08 (2466)
• Philippines
28 May 07
I agree with you 98% & I practice it nowadays. Whenever someone gives me a gift which I practically have no use of, I recycle it - meaning I give it as a gift to someone else. Just like last christmas, someone gave me a decorative plate. I appreciate the gesture but I really am not into these things. I also gave it to someone more interested in those.
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• United States
28 May 07
I know when I give away a gift I give ..I try to give it to someone I know wont run into the person who originally gave it to me;)+
@steney (1418)
• Philippines
28 May 07
I wouldn't be upset if a gift to a friend will be given away. Sometimes I also give away gifts that I receive not because I don't like them, but because I already have them or someone will have a better use for them. Giving away what's been given to me doesn't mean I didn't appreciate the thought. It's really the thought that counts. :)
• United States
28 May 07
I agree with you 100% in that ..I know I appreciate everything I am given ..and when I choose later on in life to share the gift with someone else ..there is no intention to hurt the one who originally gave me the gift;)+
@shinjiao (1464)
• China
28 May 07
Hi,littlefranciscan! To be honest,I hope my friends can keep all gifts I gave but actually,I know it's quite impossible.I think my friends can deal with the gifts I gave because the gifts belonged to my friends.They can use it,keep it or throw it away.
• United States
28 May 07
Think about it ..if you kept every gift you got in your life..how many gifts would that be? Do you have every gift that you have been given?:)+
@mypigbox (2245)
• China
28 May 07
No.if i give the gift ot others,the gift shall be their things.they can do everything with the gift.
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• United States
28 May 07
Wonderful way of giving; no strings attached..OF course ..some times if someone is offering me a gift that I know ahead of time what it is and I know I can't use it I may attempt to tell them;)+
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
27 May 07
I would feel angry if I know that the gift I give to my friend ended up them giving it away. I feel that my gift is not appreciated. I like to keep all the gift I received and I expect them to do the same too.
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• United States
28 May 07
I understand how you feel; but remember no two people are alike;)+
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
27 May 07
No, I don't think i'd be upset really, I have been given some wonderful gifts that I just CANNOT keep, ie they were too small, large, and/or I did not know what store they were from, so I have either given them away, or donated them. I would not really be upset if a gift I had given to someone was in turn "re-gifted" as I gave it to them to enjoy, if they for some reason do not enjoy it, they should feel free to bless someone else with it.
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• United States
28 May 07
I know how you feel..Sometimes I have gotten gifts that were not even of the taste I am accustomed to..I always graciously thank the giver and later on..maybe months down the line I give it to someone I know will use them;)+
@mean_queen (1713)
• Malaysia
27 May 07
Personally, I wouldn't get upset if my friend honestly told me she didn't like the gift, or that she wanted to give it away. I would appreciate it if she were honest.. I think I would get upset if I never knew about it and just found out myself. This is the reason why I never give gifts. I always let the person pick whatever she wants so that I'm sure she really like it and won't give it away.. =D
• United States
28 May 07
Well I know how I feel when I get gifts I can not use so I try to exercise the same understanding of those I give gifts too;)+
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
27 May 07
I think one part of me might be, because if I give a gift I would prefer it if it is not right for them to tell me that it is not suitable, and I can return it and get them something that is, That being said I give a gift with no strings attached and if they choose to give it away that is their choice. I simply gave them a gift and what they choose to do with it is not my business.
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• United States
28 May 07
I agree..part of you does feel hurt if you give a gift;) Then the other part does remember that there have been gifts you have received and given away ;)+
@estherlou (5017)
• United States
27 May 07
If it was a generic gift, like for an office party, I wouldn't mind at all. If it was someone I had put in a lot of time and thought and tried to really pick a gift they would love and appreciate, I probably would be a little hurt if they didn't like it as much as I thought they should. LOL. On the other hand, when I receive gifts, even when I don't know what in the world I'm going to do with it...I keep them for several years and then I might give it away or put it in with the donated stuff to charity.
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• United States
28 May 07
I think that I may keep a gift for awhile but after that while..if it's not necessary or useable..I may pass it on to someone who can use it;+
@manu619 (451)
• India
27 May 07
I wont get angry with them... But I felt sad... That will hurt me... I think for evryone...
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• United States
28 May 07
But, what if the gift is something the person absolutely doesn't need or cannot use?:)+
@Evhead (1)
• United States
4 Jun 07
It depends on if it were a personal gift or just a generic gift. If it were something from "the heart", YES, I would be offended. I had a hurtful experience last week due to gift giving. In a conversation, I had a good (?) friend rave on and on about this wonderful gift someone gave her many years ago for a wedding gift. I was dumbfounded. The gift she was describing was a gift I had given her as an 15th anniversary gift about 10 years ago! She insisted I didn't give it to her and her husband. We actually went and looked at the item hanging in her downstairs. It was the personalized gift that I created (not just bought)10 years ago! Even after describing what I went through to make it, she still acted like I was crazy. She never really acknowledged the gift at the time and now she's remembering it as someone elses gift! Unreal! I'm really rethinking this friendship.