The marrying kind of person

@ellie26 (4128)
Malaysia
May 27, 2007 8:37am CST
Married, divorced and remarried, what do you think about a person who has married, divorced and remarried for so many times? Do you think they are a person who get bored easily with their spouses or do they have some kind of addiction to change spouses easily as changing clothes? Do you categories them as not responsible for their action? share your thoughts:
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
29 May 07
i feel they are simply a person who has not fully understood what marriage means. For me, for better or for worse marriage is for life. Maybe some people assume it is just another part of the disposable society rather than a life-long commitment blessed be
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
29 May 07
Hello ESKARENA1, I have noted your response and rated accordingly. Thank you.
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
30 May 07
thank you for best response, much appreciated blessed be
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
30 May 07
Ok.
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
29 May 07
I believe that a person who marries frequently has a perception of marriage that is unattainable, and when their partner doesn't meet their expectations then they just file for a divorce. I think that this type of person looks for some one that is close to their idea, and believes that they will change after being married to them just because they want the change. This almost never happens, If you are asking a person to change for you then they are forced to live a lie. and you can not live a lie for very long.
@ESKARENA1 (18299)
29 May 07
this is true, sooner or later the truth in our hearts will out blessed be
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@bluishrose (2291)
• Philippines
29 May 07
Having one mistake is okay in marriage, but remaried several times?! gosh there must be an attitude problem. Or maybe the person is having a hard time commiting in a relationship. Maybe the person also is hard to deal or live with having bad habits i guess. Yes not responsible, sometimes they use marriage to win a womans heart.
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
29 May 07
Hello bluishrose, I have noted your response and rated accordingly. Thank you.
@golfproo (1841)
• Canada
27 May 07
Well...I have recently become divorced so I am somewhat qualified to answer this question. I was married to my wife for 13 years and we have two great daughters. As I am coming to grips with all of this I am realizing that we never really were compatible. We hld on just for the sake of the kids. I do not think we knew this at the time we married. The fact that we stayed married like this for so long makes me think that this is a very complicated question. I do not think many people go through spouses like changing clothes. However, everyone's situation is quite different. cheers,
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
28 May 07
ok, Thanks for your response.
@anonymili (3138)
27 May 07
I am not really sure I know anyone who has been married and divorced lots of time. I am divorced myself but it was no fault of mine that my ex-in-laws never accepted me because they did not choose me for their son even though I wasted 15 years on him. Anyway I am much happier in my 2nd marriage and have no intention of getting married again. I know of various film stars who have been married several times. Look at Tom Cruise, he's on his 3rd marriage. Now I wouldn't think twice about getting together with someone who was divorced but someone who's divorced twice? Wouldn't you worry that you are number three and may end up being divorced again when he wants to move onto wife number four? I would feel rather insecure. I would also tell people to be cautious about marrying someone who left their wife or husband for you. Imagine if they can leave the one they supposedly love for you, how do you know they won't do the same to you in a couple of years?
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
28 May 07
Exactly. Thanks for your response.
• Philippines
27 May 07
I don't categorize them as such. I cannot know for sure their real reasons behind every falling out of marriage, or every break up because each has a story to tell. I guess they just haven't found their perfect match yet. I myself do not want to prolong a relationship if it is not working, or if me and my partner are not happy with it anymore. Life should go on. One should not suffer for the rest of his or her life because of one mistake.
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
27 May 07
Hi inday312saylon, I think this kind of person tend to fall in love easily and get bored easily. They want some excitement and when they cant find it, they tend to look for it elsewhere. Thanks for your response.
• Philippines
27 May 07
There must be some vacuum in their hearts that they could never fill in, that's why they have become restless in their relationships. If that's the case, it is pathetic. You know why? Because people are not toys you could get pleasure and satisfaction from. That is so sick.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
27 May 07
Ok. Thanks for your response.
• Philippines
28 May 07
For me people who have been married, divorced and remarried for utmost three times maybe considered logical and reasonable. But having been to that cycle more than three times is eccentric. I would want to be married only once, if I could help it.
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
29 May 07
Hello honcho1020, I have noted your response and rated accordingly. Thank you.
@vampoet (825)
• Singapore
28 May 07
feelings, like people, get tired too. sometimes its just better to let it go and start anew. then again, some guys are fickle minded. ladies are no better these days
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
29 May 07
Hello vampoet, I have noted your response and rated accordingly. Thanks you.
@gretats (63)
• Philippines
28 May 07
Uhm... If you want my opinion, I would reckon... it is not entirely them who is at fault here. Ahehehe... We still have to consider a lot of factors and should not easily judge people whose marriages doesnt work out exactly as they planned it. :) Maybe, it was false love or something... hehehe, something that was mistaken for a deeper feeling... the reason for the person to marry I mean. So, when it came to the actual stuff of being husband and wife they become incompatble.hehe And I think for a marriage to work.. both parties would have to put in their own efforts for that relationship to last.As they say "It takes two to tango"... but I dont know if that would be the best qoute for that haha.. but yeah.. the point that I want to get you at is that both the husband and wife should work on their marriages in order for it to be fruitful... :) Blessed be.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
29 May 07
Hello gretats, I have noted your response and rated accordingly. Thank you.
@bindishah (2062)
• India
27 May 07
I wouldnt categorize them as irresponsible. Probably confused a little though. They probably dont know what they want out of a person/marriage and that makes them get into it and out of it.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
27 May 07
Thats true. Probably they were so in love that they rushed into marrying each other only to find that marriage needs hardwork from both party.
@Norstar (695)
• India
27 May 07
People are likely to make mistakes in selection of their spouse. So, it is OK if they want to change a spouse. It can happen once, twice, or may be three times. But if someone changes his/ her spouse several times, there seems to be something wrong .
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
27 May 07
I think they are too choosy. Ok. Thanks for your response.
@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
27 May 07
Deeply in themselves theese people are unhappy and have a serious problem. They aware it or not, but they need to reorganize their life deeply. For them to change the partner is just the easiest way, but this is not necassary the right way.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
27 May 07
Ok. Thanks for your response.
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
27 May 07
I don't know. I think that there are different situations for different people. I know in my case I have been married 3 times. My first husband and I did not make it for several reasons. Mostly because we were immature and didn't know how to handle lifes problems. My second marriage I married a man who was very needy and wanted a mother rather than a wife.He ended up being with someone who was more suitable to his needs so we divorced. I remarried my first husband, which now we are very compatible and very much in love. I feel very confident in this marriage and the love we share. I can't see myself with anyone else. Sometimes people get married because they are lonely and need someone in their life regardless of love. There are many reasons why people marry and divorce. I can't just narrow the answer down to be generalized. My aunt is a person who has married and divorced several times. She doesn't think her actions through before she does this, now she is divorcing again and seeing someone else, whom she might possibly marry. We have told her that she doesn't need to marry again. She has married several times and it just doesn't suit her.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
27 May 07
Yes, there are so many reasons for this to happen. Thanks for your response.
@a_ce_e (1427)
• Philippines
27 May 07
Well i don't know how to call them, as we don't know the reason why he/she divorce for many times. But if we are going to look at it without knowing the background i might say that this person is not thinking carefully regarding the person he/she is marrying to. Maybe the valuability of marriage is not something sacred to him/her, that is why he/she often marry. Marriage has to be worked out, but reality comes that sometimes we really have to leave out of marriage due to unacceptable changes which resulted to abuse of one partner.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
27 May 07
It really not a good idea to judge people from their failing marriages. I agree that in order for a marriage to work, we need to put some effort. I think if a person have a good religion background, they will be able to maintain their marriage even if it is failing.