What should I do with this SITUATION with my wife??
May 27, 2007 9:38am CST
Ok this really happened. My wife and I went to a water park with her sister's kids. On one of the water slides I joked to her about being careful and not get stuck. Well that's exactly what happened and 3-4 kids behind her had to bump into her before she could move down the slide. At first i couldn't stop laughing( Something I realize now i should not have done) and continued teasing her all the way home. Now she is so pissed at me, I just don't know what to do. I've tried all usual ways of saying sorry and asking for forgiveness but nothing has worked. Partly because I know I'm not sincere about it. I still giggle when I imagine that scene, so how can I tell my wife that's I'm sorry. besides i don't know why, it's such a big deal to her, We've had fights before and about more serious issues but this is different somehow. Any advice on what my next step should be??
27 May 07
I think you should really console her by asking a sorry with your whole heart not just on the lips. This can happen sometimes even with our friends where there are many incidents that we cannot help laughing but later on we feel that we should not have laughed at that stage. But in the case of a friend, its a different game altogether because friends can understand these kind of things a lot better. But in case of a spouse who doesn't look at the funny side of things, you need to handle them with a bit more care. (Many girls are like something made up of glass - Handle them with care). In your situation there is no other go other than ask a whole hearted sorry. But once the incident is over, you need to make her understand that these things are part and parcel of life and she should not take things this seriously.
27 May 07
aw bless i feel sorry for you cause im sitting here laughing at the imaginary scene. i too am like you, if my parnter hurts themselfs or silly things happen then i cant stop laughing, it can take me up to an hour just to say sorry. in fact i still laugh when i think about things that happened 5 years ago. i would say just to try your best NOT to laugh (u will eventually) just long enough to say your sorry, eventually she will come round, may not forgive you but will be calmer
28 May 07
from what i see, you have hurt her ego and pride... BIG time. Let time be the healer. Meantime, apologize to her each time the subject is brought up. Like some of the mylotters say, she will eventually laugh at it herself later. Let her anger, humiliation and embarrassment get out of her system first.
4 Jun 07
it gradually will. But be prepared that she will bring this up again the next time the both of you get into argument. Meanwhile, do what ever you can to get into her good books. Flowers... movies... shopping... cook her favorite dish... etc etc. It takes work to right a wrong... a little effort goes a long way!
27 May 07
Hey i would have pissed myself too, have you tried flowers choclates ? im not sur what you should do next if you have tired everythink she will come round in her own time you just hurt her pride i think if you dont mind me asking is your wife a big woman? not trying to be rude it would just help me understand why she is so pissed at you.
27 May 07
That's one of the things, If she was a large woman it would be understandable. She weighs somewhere between 55-60 Kg. She got stuck because of the fabric of her swimsuit and lack of water in the slide I think. It was the irony of it that made it more funny