Should people live together before marriage?

United States
October 23, 2006 3:51am CST
I did and I am glad.
19 responses
@ritchie1 (47)
• United States
13 Nov 06
If you are religions no I don't think it is right, like me I am. But the bad thing is that I lived with my husband for 6 1/2 months before we got married, but we got married, and just me that was not my only sin but hopefully I will make smarter choices.
@carabear (167)
• United States
13 Nov 06
Forget religion a second, (not trying to be rude here) but do you not think that you know your husband better since you lived with him before you got married? Do you think that the experience of living together first helped you create a stronger, happier relationship? Do you think that your experience of living together will help you to keep your relationship stronger, longer than someone who rushes into marriage? If you answer yes to those questions then who cares honestly if you commited a sin by living together first, because you are doing what was best for YOU, and doesn't most religions say that divorce is a sin as well? Well you were just helping reduce your chances of divorce by living together first. :-)
@Jshean20 (14374)
• Canada
13 Nov 06
I personally think that it's a good idea to live with your partner before marriage, that way you can see what living with them is really going to be like...not just the "date" stuff (movies, dinners, fun events) that you're used to. It's important to also see the realistic things : household chores, bills, etc.
@carabear (167)
• United States
13 Nov 06
Very very good points, date stuff could be awesome, while the household parts could be a nightmare, better to go into a marriage fully aware, divorce rates would be much lower then I think.
• United States
13 Nov 06
well i think they should.. so they know they can live together for sure.. But, if you think it's unacceptable in your community.. well make ur own choice.
• United States
13 Nov 06
i think its good becaouse tthat way when u atleast live with them for a short while u can get to know them cuz u may think u already know them well enought as it is but you truely dont ppl are different when u live wit them and sometimes that may make or brake a couple..so i think yes they should live together b4 marraige it would only be for the better unless they end up hating eachother then obviously its for the worse lol
@amv8499 (36)
• United States
13 Nov 06
I think they should, even though it is frowned upon in most religions or familys, everything could be great until you move in with someone, just like dating, living together is a way to see if you too mesh. Cuz after you get married and start living together, certain things will WILL annoy you and it might affect your relationship, so if you lived together prior marriage you already know what your getting into. Good luck !!
@carmat (2850)
• Canada
13 Nov 06
Without a doubt you really don't know someone until you have lived with them. It could be a disastor if you don't get that knowledge first hand.
@fuad721 (88)
• United States
13 Nov 06
yes..
@fiasco007 (819)
• United States
13 Nov 06
sometimes it helps to get to know each other.
• United States
13 Nov 06
Absolutely, thats like saying should I test drive a car before I buy it. You need to know if you and your mate are compatible and can tolerate each other in a home environment. My wife and I lived together for almost 2 years before getting married, and we're very happy!
• United States
13 Nov 06
honestly i know your not supposed to..but i think like in the views of my daughter..(when she talks about being in love and her only 18) i would rather she live with them first cause she sure changes her mind about love every other day so i wouldnt want her to do a quick decide marriage then reget it....at least living together you could just pack up and leave
@jray721 (1973)
• United States
13 Nov 06
yes, i believe you should see each others true colors before getting married
• India
13 Nov 06
god contrversy,depends on two individuals
• India
13 Nov 06
yes they can
• United States
13 Nov 06
yea they should
@jade17901 (597)
• United States
13 Nov 06
I did too! I think everyone should because you really dont know someone untill you live with them!
@Funloving (879)
• India
13 Nov 06
dont know  - dont know
i realy dont know abt it
@momto2 (472)
• United States
13 Nov 06
I guess this is a pretty controversial thing. My now husband and I lived together before marriage. But, we had been dating for 4 years before buying a house together. I am also glad that I did. :o)
• United States
13 Nov 06
Yes, you get a feel
@missybal (4492)
• United States
13 Nov 06
I think they should so that they get to know each others habits and know they can live with them. I lived with my husband for over a year before marrying him and we are very happy.