How many childs one should have to ensure proper development and growth of them?

@skbadhan (881)
India
May 29, 2007 10:13pm CST
IF we look as rising expenses it will be hard to provide proper education,lifestyle even to one single child in coming days. Some of my friends say their should be two child in home so as for their proper mental development and growth. whats your openion in this regards...
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
30 May 07
I agree in some to some of this. I mean the costs of having kids can be expensive.
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• Philippines
30 May 07
yes, everyone of us must consider that there are lots of things to take into account about rearing these kids. life is so difficult these days. aside from the financial aspect, making sure that they grow up properly is even posing so much more challenge for the present day parents. the moral and spiritual values have been drained considerably and, if we want our kids to grow up with these values, so much effort is needed to be able to do this. at this time when most parents hardly have the time to spare, this is no easy job to do.
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• United States
30 May 07
I agree with you as well!
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@sukumar794 (5047)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
30 May 07
A single child option is not desirable. Whether male or female at least two children must be reared in the home . it is necessary to understand the true nature of mutual love and affection . A lone child would sit back all the time brooding over his deprivation of a brother or sister as companions.
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@rakhii (1302)
• India
30 May 07
I too believe d same.....We should hav two children....not less than that, not more than that......2 is perfect.
@skbadhan (881)
• India
30 May 07
hi sukumar and rakhii I agree to both of you. there are many instances in life where we want to do but can't many things should be this or that but sometimes we find helpless any how its life ....thanks for your suggestions
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• United States
30 May 07
Honestly I think it has nothing to do with proper mental development and growth as to how many children one family has. Every one is different and has different ways of raising their children, which is what I think matters most in a child's "proper" mental development and growth!
@skbadhan (881)
• India
30 May 07
I mean to say child to child learning. if we want to have only single child will it effect his growth nad learning instead if there are two childrens money is also the issue with us.
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• United States
30 May 07
I have two children and one on the way so I really do know that money is always an issue with children and more of them. However it does not seem to cause a learning problem to tell you the truth. My nephew is an only child and his parents are also divorced and I see no learning problems with him than I would with any other child his age and he's 6
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• Philippines
30 May 07
for me, two children to a family should be the most that a family will best consider. nowadays, when life is getting even so much more difficult, we just don't have a clear and surefire way of knowing what this world will be like in the next decade or two. i even respect all the more those who have opted having no more children. some people have realized that they do not have to have children of their own anymore. the risk is much too high already. as for me, i had already thought of having only two at a time when most couples had from 4 to 6. i happen to have three though, a plus one came to me after 8 years. it is just fine. my youngest is 19 years old now.
@skbadhan (881)
• India
30 May 07
I too feel same its better to say no to childrens if you aren't sure to ensure their good future by providing them each and everything they should have. I too fear that my childrens should ask question after they have grown up like as why you have given us birth if you can't raise us in a better way. i am leaving very much struggling life but i don't want my child to just spend their life as i am spending instead enjoying
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
30 May 07
Times are hard nowadays especially raising children. I come from a big family of 10 and my parents did a good job in giving everyone of us a sound education. I wouldn't have ask for more but after leaving the family nest each of us was given 10 acres of land to start our own family. I believe if you can manage. it is better to have many children because they are our only treasured assets in life. You give them life God give you the blessing in raising them. God have accorded them a special place on earth. Due to health problem I only manage to have 2 sons and I adopted 2 girls. Both my sons are working and earning good income. It is not so much of a difficulty to instill proper development in a child. It is only the first 10 years of a child life that you have to really mould them to instill good values and discipline. They will grow to be what you want them to be if they have these basic development from young.
@skbadhan (881)
• India
30 May 07
happy mylotting
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@Manoj_s (939)
• India
30 May 07
I vote for two children ,the expenses in the coming yrs is going to be higher and higher and for managing this expenses if we kept on decreasing the no.of children then one day we have to decide better to stay alone or after mariage better to be with out children .these expenses are going to increase and how to manage this expenses lies the solution still iconsider lot of families are wasting lot of their money and creative energy for unnecessary things if one is satisfied with the necessary things avoiding those luxury or making life simple as possible .we can manage our finances much better so the child is going to get benefit also.he is also going to learn from us .i think parents can easily manage two children.
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@skbadhan (881)
• India
30 May 07
Yes manoj you are very right.no doubt every one is surviving as such if its matter of just killing the days, pushing the life...but I personaly don't like to spend my whole life like that. life has become compromise....
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@Gemmygirl1 (2870)
• Australia
30 May 07
Usually with rising expenses comes a rise in pay - well, that's how it works here in Australia - when the cost of things rise, they usually allow a small rise to the wages. Education costs here are helped by the government, i guess it's just what they think works best. So you get a certain amount to help cover the costs of things like lifestyle, education & things like that. As for mental development - all you really need to do there is to make sure the child is always learning new things - which is what helps a mind to develop & grow. Toys, shapes, colours, then on to things like books etc & then with school & stuff the mind is always developing! I think you should just have as many children as you can afford to have, if 1 is fine then just have 1 but if you want more than 1, make sure you can provide for them all before you have them!
@skbadhan (881)
• India
30 May 07
australian concept seems to be nice as they ensure your income growth along with growing expenses. But soory to say about here in india there is nothing as such. a huge brigade of unemployeds is looking for government to hire them what i thinks thats not possible for goverment to provide employment to all. those are allready employed are not living satisfying life they salary is so just from hand to mouth.
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@rakhii (1302)
• India
30 May 07
I feel that we should have 2 children to ensure proper development and growth of them. Two children can be comfortable enough sharing their lives with each other. A single child many a times become dependant on parents, is not outgoing, may become frustrated or out of control. Also, I want to have one child of my own and one i want to adopt from an orphanage if my would be and family allows me to do so. That would be the best option for me.
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• Indonesia
30 May 07
hm for me two child is the best number for me to ensure the development for my child because with this number i think it'll make us easier to control them and give them better development and growth..
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• India
30 May 07
Doctors say it will be good if there are two children as it will boost their mental strength than being alone
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@vonne28th (1494)
• Philippines
30 May 07
We are all 6 children in the family but my parents still managed to give us all a good education and better lives despite of any hardships. I think it is by parents,if they want more than 1 or 2 children it's their decision as long as they are sure that they can support their children's needs and development.
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@rb200406 (1825)
• India
30 May 07
Well ideally it has to be 2 because it helps the children to become a good person.they learn to share & also don't fill lonely.But in todays time one has to look at the finacial aspect also.It is really difficult to raise a single child with so much expenses for health, educaton etc.
@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
30 May 07
I think every one should have two kids and i belive in saying that, of the two eyes one is not necessary for our sight and we need both of them.
@ygautam (135)
• India
30 May 07
Well two is the best option. One is lonely and three is a croud
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@bindishah (2062)
• India
30 May 07
I think 2 children are enough too. One should ahve only that many as they think they can raise efficiently and provide a good life for. Coz there is no point in having so many children that you ultimately cant take care of them financially or even emotionally.
• United States
30 May 07
Raising a child properly is more than just a money issue. Many parents are poor as church mouses but they raise commendable children while the rich and famous turn out like Paris Hilton and Lindsay Lohan. I sometimes think that the less children have the better it is for them.