Letting Go of heavy emotions

@juliefaye (1214)
Philippines
May 29, 2007 10:42pm CST
When we have been hurt, we show a feverish intensity to the situation, we hold a magnifying glass on the person or people who hurt us, and we are exquisitely aware of the effect the injury has had on us. Whether objective or subjective, we are faced with similar feelings of being upset and resentful of being treated wrongly. When the hurt and insult has created a bur in our psyche, we are faced with the heroic task of being responsible for the resulting psychic pain. Hatred, resentment, and a desire for revenge and getting even are heavy emotions that weigh us down. Heavy emotions, reliving the trauma or fight, and being tied to the past robs creativity, spontaneity, fun and any semblance of a free life. We become virtual prisoners caged inside our own moods and dark thoughts, whether we are painfully tied to the traumatic insults waged against our bodies and spirits or fueling the flames of everyday grudges and insults. We instinctively know holding hate and resentment is not good for us, but being willing to let it go, knowing we are so justified in feeling a sense of outrage and a desire for justice, is another kettle of fish altogether. (Just to share this to mylotters who have a heavy heart, i hope this will somehow ease the pain)
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3 responses
@huilee (1010)
• Singapore
30 May 07
i guess its hard... really hard.. n painful... but i believe time will cure all pains... actually i think it does not cure... but it lets us get used to the ignorant pain... things will seemed less significant over time... thus we will get used and lead a better life... to every one who cursed by heart aches... cheer up and lead a happy life... =)
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
30 May 07
you're right.. time will heal the pain and we should also have the will to move on and let go of the past..they say that the sun is still shining after the storm.
• United States
30 May 07
You are talking about the stages of hurt that we go though. There is not a time line to lay away such hurt. The only reason I am responding to this is that I was hurt this past weekend by someone I trusted. Yes these things you have described has gone through my mind. Getting even ? well that depends on when she wants or needs something of me again. I may or may not have forgiven her by then. I wish to be the bigger person and say yes I can. But it hurt. I am hurt still. Its not hate nor vengeance, that drives me. Sometimes how we feel is justified. Sometimes its okay to be hurt. Its not a sin to feel let down or human. Sometimes people hurt us. ITS okay to feel this way.
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
30 May 07
I've been there before and i happen to came across this message and somehow it makes me think that i should finally move on and keeping the pain inside me wont help me to be a better person. I should move on...
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
29 Jun 07
This is a powerful disscussion and you are right it is a lot better to let go then to hold on to something from your past to make your life worser. I have learned that myself.