Which would be easier for you to forgive ...

I might eventually forgive either situation, but that doesn't mean I would continue the relationship in either case. IMO, once trust is broken in such a way, there isn't much left. It is up to the individual person what he or she will put up with, but I respect myself enough to not keep going back to someone who wants to use and emotionally abuse me.

Its one thing to forgive - another to forget. Your asking what is the better of 2 evils here lol, if i had to answer honestly though id pick the 1 nite stands, affairs are relationships, one niters mean nothing. In both cases I would be leaving though.

I would forgive both circumstances but i definately would leave that person.For him to be having an affair for months means he probably felt something for the other person,so why would he still need me around?Having one night stands with my friends means he has no respect for me,and does not consider my feelings.As already mentioned by someone above, its easy to forgive but hard to forget.So the far away i stay from him the better/sooner i will be able to move on with MY life.If the first situation happened only ONCE and was never repeated,i would forgive him and stay in the relationship,but multiple times like the second relationship means they will still continue to happen. I wouldn't judge or have ill thoughts for a friend who forgave an unfaithful partner,love can be blind sometimes but it would not hurt going into a relationship with one eye open ....always leave room for uncommittment lol...

Maybe it's hard to forgive, but I will try it first, and with a promise from my partner that he will not doing it again. And if I have a friend who forgave over and over, I salute to that person, it's not easy, because no any commitment from the partner sounds not fair for my friend. If it happened to me, maybe I only could forgive three times, and after that I realise that my partner couldn't change his attitude. And three times are already too much, but sometimes people can stand with that, waiting for miracle, and maybe miracle could come to that kind of person :)

Point is one should not take things for granted in a relationship. You just cant keep forgiving if the person doesn't respond in a manner an amnesty requires. The very reason to forgive anybody is giving the person a chance to atone his mistakes. If that doesnt happen, forgiving is beyond question!

hell no!!! I definitely will not forgive that kind of guy. I have been in a relationship just like that. The worst thing your partner could ever do to you is cheat. I can forgive anything but that. Only a fool will be able to forgive someone who cheated on them. Because once trust is gone, respect will follow and eventually love. So whats the point in continuing a relationship that you know is doomed already? Nwei, its better to be free and happy than tied and be miserable :) Enjoy life to the fullest.

The only way that I would be able to forgive my partner for having an affair would be if it was a one time thing and never happened again after that. If she was having an affair for months or with a bunch of my friends, I would not be able to forgive her and would have to leave her. I would not be able to trust her since she did not come out and state those things happened. I would probably think less of a person who kept forgiving someone for cheating on them and continued to cheat on them.

well if this was me i would leave him. both are very bad and yes, love can be blind but if you choose to stay in something like this, he will never stop.

Such a friend should be given strong advice that she is doing wrong with her life. She is so much in love with that person that she cannot look at the bad side of him.Is he considering your friend as his other girl friendz? Make ur friend meet other people.help her socialise well and let her realise that all people are not like her boyfriend. I wish ur friend dumps him as early as possible.

i would be mad if someone did this to me . I would not want to be with them no more . I would tell my firend that she should leave and then she would be more happy then if she satyed . I would not stay and I would leave and would be sad but happy that I not with that person no more . It would only make me sad to stay . I don't like people who do this and hurt you and make you cry .

Well if that was to ever happen to me that would be the end of it I would kick his @$$ to the curb, I wouldnt think anything different of my friend if she was in this situation, Its her/his life and its there decision on how to live her/his own life.

The repeated one night stands with my friends would be the one that I'd find harder to forgive. Not only is it cheating but it is also disruptive to my friendships because my real friends wouldn't cheat on me. If they do cheat with my husband then they're lost to me as friends forever. Having a months long affair with someone I don't know means only he is trying to hurt me and the other woman is not necessarily trying to hurt me. This one I could work out and get past easier, if we got to the bottom of the whys of the cheating in counseling.

UMMmmm....Neither nope noway nohow. I would never forgive my husband for either one of those choices. It would be see ya bye. Cause I would never be able to trust him again if he did either on of these things to me.

i'd pick the first one. as they say "what you don't know won't hurt you." but i guess eventually, i'll know,and it wouldn't be easy to grant forgiveness because the trust i've given was broken. but if i really love the guy and for as long as he's shown he's still worthy of a second chance, then why not. but in cases where he's cheating on me over and over, that's beyond question, i have to call it quits gurl!

I dont think i could frogive either. Him having an one night stands with my friends means, they werent true friends to begin with. How could you count on them after they did this to you? i couldnt. My friends and i have never even dated the same guys, no matter what, out of respect to eachother. Our relationship would be over in either of these situations. As for what i would think of a friend who forgave her partner... well i personally had a friend, who forgave him over and over again for having one night stands with anybody who would have him. I told her that she deserved better, and quit letting him walk all over her. Needless to say to her i wasnt saying what she wanted me to say and it pretty much ended our friendship. I personally think that people who let this happen dont have any self respect, if they did they wouldnt put themselves in the situation, any longer then first finding out. Not with the threat of STDs everywhere.

Neither, they are both unforgiveable