I can't beleive what my daughter just did

Canada
May 31, 2007 7:49am CST
every time she asks me for a snack i give it to her and she wastes it. it sits out all day. she asked for one this morning. i told her she has to eat it or that's it. no more snacks. i'm tired of wasting everything and throuing it out. anyway when i wasn't looking she went and put her bowl in the sink and through out her snack and came and asked for chocolate milk. i won't give her anymore until she eats something cause all she does is drinks. she told me she ate her snack. i'm glad i asked where her bowl was and went to check before i gave her chocolate milk. i can't beleive she through out her snack. i don't get why she keeps asking me for snacks just to through it out.
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@dopey22girl (3324)
• United States
31 May 07
Kids can do the strangest things. Maybe the reason she keeps throwing it out is because, like you said, all she does is drink, and so she knows she won't get more to drink unless she has finished her snack. First, keep in mind she is a child and children don't always obey. But you also need to keep in mind that she cannot get away with lieing, and teach her that lieing is bad. Explain to her why we do not waste food. I hope this helps, and good luck!
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@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
31 May 07
I understand where you are coming from my son will ask for something, and I'll say you wont eat it, but he asks so I give it to him, like a popsicle he'll take 2 or 3 licks off of it and throw it away. I'll ask where it is and he'll say in the trash. I do not know why kids do this, but I have said the same thing to him, no more until you eat what you ask for.
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@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
31 May 07
My kids do this too and it drives me insane! What my kids usually do is ask for a snack, take two bites and then say "im full". Um hello? You cant just waste like that! Usually its my 5 and 2 year olds that do this, luckily my 7 year old eats all of his but it drives me nuts. Also they ask for more milk, and take like one sip and throw the rest down the sink. Ugh!
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• United States
31 May 07
My 4 year old boy does the same thing. He does take a couple of bites but then he's done. 15-20 minutes later he's asking for something else. I think some of it's from boredom. I try to only give him a little of something when possible. Of course he complains, but I tell him he can have more or he can have something else if he finishes what he was given. Personally I don't think they really know what they want. I've been in that position plenty of times though. I'll have a craving and what I end up having just doesn't take it away.
• United States
31 May 07
You did not say how old she is. However, first off, I would be concerned that she thought it was ok to lie to you. That is not good at any age. I would have confronted her about that for sure. I would ask her why she wastes her snacks. She may or may not have an answer. Either way, I would no longer give her snacks. She obviously does not need them. If she ask for milk or water or juice, and she does not waste that, give it to her. Otherwise, I would not give her any snacks. Depending on her age, you might want to tell her about the starving child of the world and cut out a pictures from a magazine to show her. She really does need to understand that what she does is wrong.
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• Canada
31 May 07
my daughter is 3. and i did have a talk to her about the lie she told. that really bothered me. her father is a compulsive lier and i don't want her to be like that. i can't stand liars, and i hate being lied to. that was the first thing we talked about when she did that this morning.
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• United States
31 May 07
I wish you all the best because I know this is difficult for you.
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
31 May 07
LOL. I have to laugh at this one but believe me I know exactly what you are saying. Maybe she thinks she wants a snack and then when she gets it, she throws it away because she is used to waisting. I bet she won't waist no more if you stop the drinks every so often to her also. This sounds like a typical kid though. My daughter used to do the same thing to me. I stopped giving her what she liked the most when she kept waisting. She stopped asking for things she didn't want after that. I told her the next thing she asked for, she had to sit and eat it until it is gone, no matter how long it took. That changed her real quick, LOL.
• Canada
31 May 07
thanks for the advice. i can't beleive how many other parents are going through this. i really thought i was the only one going through this. i guess it's more common than i thought.
@smints8985 (1595)
• United States
31 May 07
I would have to guess that this behavior of hers has got something to do with kids/classmates she sees in school. I have taught in a learning center for a short 2 months, but then I noticed that the children do waste a lot of food. One reason is that they probably aren't aware that the food they are eating came from their parent's hard earned money. Another reason is that they might have seen someone do this, maybe for fun, and they start doing the same thinking that the act of throwing away food is funny. You might want to talk to her and ask her why she throws out her snack when in fact she asked for them. Children learn quickly and pick up on things that they see other people/kids do, and it would be nice if you could let her know the importance of conserving food. She's still young, and I know she'll understand if you explain it to her.
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• Canada
31 May 07
this is the first time she actually threw it out. usually i end up througing it out at the end of the day after it sits on the table all day. but the reason she threw it out is because i told her when i gave it to her she better it it today or she won't get anything else.
@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
1 Jun 07
It is really hard when kids do this. Have you tried keeping her snack that she doesnt eat? Put it in the fridge and when she wants another one tell her she has to have that one before she gets anything else. If she isnt eating and just drinking, maybe there is an underlying problem. My youngest was like that, cause he couldnt swallow things due to his tonsils being very enlarged. He was also filling up on milk products, so he wasnt hungry. I had to stop giving him so much milk, and give more water so he would get hungry. It was a very trying time and he is still a fussy eater and he is 8. Best wishes to you and i hope things improve on this matter
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@ozangel82 (754)
• Australia
31 May 07
lol, my little brother and sister used to ask for a snack and mum would give them some fruit. it seemed like they always ate it but when we went to move the tv unit one day and we found bits of fruit and old apples and pears lol. it was pretty yucky as they had been there for a few weeks! you are lucky she threw it in the bin and not somewhere you couldnt see!
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@evelynlyp (788)
• Japan
31 May 07
You should make smaller portions. Kids eat less and they get hungry often because their stomach can't store as much food as adults to digest. Check how much she eats and make something roughly similar. You can organise snack time. Usually about 4 hours after lunch. Tell her to wait till snack time if she complains that she is hungry soon after lunch. Its more likely she just have a craving for the food instead of being truly hungry. Time to start training your child to eat properly and to differentiate between hunger and having a craving. Half the time people are over weight is because they just eat for the sake of the taste instead of being hungry.
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• Philippines
31 May 07
kids are really like that!
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• United States
31 May 07
Sounds just like my youngest son. Hes always saying hes hungry just to take one bite and leave it sit. Then 5 min later hes Hungry again. Well I dont know what makes them do this but its alittle agrivating. We waste so much. I finally told him he can have one snack after breakfast and only if he eats most of it. He can have one after lunch, and dinner, but he has to eat most of his food first. It seems to work well most of the time. He cried about it the first day or two but he got over it.
31 May 07
Maybe she gets reassurance that she has been good when you let her have a snack and it is her way of finding out. She may not even realise. WHy don't you switch to give her a 5c if she has been good and ate all her dinner. Of co urse I could be entirely wrong cos kids can be so confusing sometimes but it would make sense
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• United States
31 May 07
My 2 year old does the same thing! I've tried being stern and telling him no more but then his dad just ends up giving in to him and giving him whatever he wants! They both drive me nuts! I hope that you figure out a good way to break her of this, let us know what works for you!
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@PunkyMcPunk (1477)
• Canada
31 May 07
Honestly I though my 4 year old boy was the only one that did this but after reading through the posts here I guess it is a very comon occurance in this age group. What Gabe will do is ask for something, I'll give it to him he'll take 2 or 3 bites and then say he's full. Then 5 minutes later he wants something else. Of course I agree with everyone here it is extremely frustrating because that food was bought with all of our hard earned pay BUT those are our babies, how can we say "no" when they ask for something as basic as food?? I do what someone else has already posted. I will only give my son small snakcs. That way within 2-3 bites its done and nothing is wasted. I also try to keep a bit of structure that they ahve in his Junior Kindergarten class. Meaning we have a sit down snack time twice a day for example, we'll get up, make our bed etc... then we have breakfast, brush our teeth, he plays, then we have snack, then he plays, then we have lunch bursh our teeth and clean up, he plays we have snack, then supper, brush teeth, then a small snack like a half a piece of toast about an hour before bed. This seems to work out well for my boy because he has that routine of snack lunch snack at school.
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@cipher2004 (1183)
• United States
31 May 07
I don't know how old she is but it sounds like when she is asking for a snack she might just want a drink.You said that she doesn't get anymore to drink if she doesn't eat her snack.You are doing right by not wasting food.I do the same for the kids I watch.If they ask for a snack later I give them the same one they did not finish.But if she is just a thirsty kid try snacks with juices,like oranges or fruit cocktail.This might work.
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
31 May 07
i think your daughter has to know the value of her snacks first. and then i think after showing her the value of the food she throws, that's the time you give her full responsibility of the snacks she is supposed to eat. she should know how hard it is to earn and buy to be thrown away.
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@rtydata (80)
• Philippines
31 May 07
My daughter is almost 5 months old so she's not into snacks yet. My youngest brother however is already 11. He stopped doing the same practice when he was 9. My mom would buy snacks that he liked and a few that he didn't like. Whenever he threw or wasted snacks, she would give him the one he didn't like and if he did waste that one, she would not give him snacks anymore. He learned to finish them eventually because he knew that he will be getting something he did;t like or none at all. Kids nowadays can be really picky.
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@sizzle3000 (3039)
• United States
1 Jun 07
Kids do the darnedest things. My cousin and I used to take our cereal and put it behind the radiators int he kitchen so that mom thought we ate our breakfast. We would have gotten aways with it too if that darn dog did not pull it out from under there and eat it. We don't know why we did it but we did. Maybe your daughter is in the habit of the snack but really no longer wants it and as a child doesn't realize it. I know a lot of phyco bable.
• United States
1 Jun 07
My son has always been a big eater, so he has never done this. But, I used to watch a little girl that would do this constantly, she just set her snack down wherever she was and then come ask for another snack. When I asked if she finished her first snack she would always reply that she lost it or didn't like it. So, I had to do the same thing and tell her that she did not need another snack unless she could finish eating the first snack I gave her. It is funny how children do this, and it does not seem to phase them that there are children out there who do not have the luxury of 3 meals a day, let alone snacks. I finally ended up giving her pennies, if she ate the whole snack she did not have to give me any of her pennies. But, if she did not eat the snack then I would make her give me 5 pennies for each snack she ruined. This seemed to work, it only took about 3 days of having to give me those pennies back and she started eating her whole snack. I think it is some sort of game they play, like trying to hold out for the best snack or something. I really don't know, but it is very annoying.