Trouble moticating my teenage daughter

United States
May 31, 2007 4:13pm CST
I'm having trouble motivating my teenage daughter to help with any household work. We can't afford to pay her much in allowance. Do any of you parents have any suggestions? I admit I don't like conflict so I have trouble dealing with this. How can I get her to help out without being yelled at.
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@RosieS57 (891)
• United States
31 May 07
I was a stepmom to two teenage daughters who are now grown. And money was tight, too. I invited girlfriends over for chips and soda and TV sleepover -- but everyone had to pitch in for room cleaning and doing the dishes first. Other girls LOVE digging into the possessions of their girlfriends and my daughters didn't much like the idea of their friends rooting thru their things! So my girls did a whole lot of cleaning first and then they enjoyed themselves on the sleepover. In other words, having been a teenage girl once myself, I figured out how to get peer pressure to work for me as a Mom. It worked beautifully!
• United States
31 May 07
That is great advice, Thanks very much, I will try it.
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@RosieS57 (891)
• United States
3 Jun 07
Thank you, in return, for best response. Hope it works as well for you as it did for me!
@winterose (39922)
• Canada
1 Jun 07
well you can stop doing her laundry, she will have to do it herself, or when things are dirty and lying around you can tell her you will throw them out, or ground her until she does what it is she has to do, like no watching tv or going out until you cleaned your room, or if she doesn't wash the dishes you don't make her any food?
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• United States
31 May 07
i sure she loves the life you made for her. and she should feel that helping the family out is not a work but something she should do ever now and then. you will be ok, good parents always find a way to make things right. so do not worry you will think of something, i sure of it.
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• United States
1 Jun 07
Ugghh..I tell ya what..I had a friend when i was a teen that was the same way with her cleaning..and her mom hated to fight and make any kind of deal..untill one day she snapped out..and had enough..she quit doing her laundry,cooking for her,,many other things..and she took away her favorite things like her tv..and music..today i guess it would be the computer,phones privba;edges,,video games..untill she started helping around the house..it didnt take her a day before she was a cleaning fool for her mom lol..so thats what i suggest..Hun..YOu gotta have tough love with your kids..they need to learn responsibility,,or they will become soo dependent on you..i know it wil hur you for a time being..but its for her own good..it really is..
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