Why do parents worry more about daughters then sons?

@tonixxx (358)
May 31, 2007 6:34pm CST
My father was much more lax about my younger brother going out then he was with me?
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@w1z111 (985)
• United States
31 May 07
While I never had the privilege of raising any sons, I did have the interesting honor of raising three wonderful daughters. Being a male, I figured I knew all I needed to know about how to teach girls about men; what to watch out for, how to prevent 'unwanted advances', etc., etc. Well, I was wrong! I know about men alright (at least on some level)...but what I failed to understand clearly was what makes GIRLS tick! In fact, I STILL don't really know, though my daughters did teach me many things; like knowing when to keep my opinions to myself, and knowing how to accept anything or anyone they chose for themselves, and so on. Now, to YOUR question...(sorry, I rambled!): To be sure, I did worry plenty about my daughters, and I don't know if I would have worried quite as much if I had sons, because I think we (parents) tend to think boys are somewhat more physically capable of defending themselves if the need should arise to do so, whereas girls (in most cases, but clearly not all!) may not be as capable. That's really the only difference I can think of that might have bearing on how much more concern parents may have for girls. Also, facing facts, unfortunately we hear of all too many girls who have become victims of boys raping or otherwise causing harm to them...though we do not often hear of boys being the victims. I'm sure there's cause for concern in things like this, too. Anyway...I'd say your father loved you very much, and he showed it by perhaps 'overprotecting' you. That happens often, too...unfortunately. I'm sure you might be thinking he's being 'unfair', but I'd guess he's just confused a little, and doesn't understand the mind of girls...after all, Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus, don't forget! Hang in there! You'll thank your father one day, I'm sure of it! May God Bless!
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@tonixxx (358)
2 Jun 07
Thank you for your interesting comments. I would just like to say that i understand that my father was only this way because he loves me and i appreciate him and love him very much, thiss was a more general query regarding the ralationship between kids and their dads. I do also think that you are wrong on one point, we often hear of boys being maade to be victims, and more so over recent years. Girls who are at a tender and confused age falsly accuse boys all of the time, why do parents not think to protect their boys from this side of the coin? There is as much a danger that things will be spoilt for boys, girls may fall pregnant or be abused, but boys could lose the best part of their lives to false allegations.
@w1z111 (985)
• United States
2 Jun 07
You make some interesting points I hadn't considered regarding the boys. Of course, I'm older, so I guess I can't relate quite so accurately with today's challenges, which I do know are far different than those in my younger days! Good luck...and, I hope you work it out to everyone's satisfaction.
@Gorgeous24 (1092)
• United States
31 May 07
I think parenst are more strict with their daughters than their sons because boys can take care of themselves, their suppose to be manly. Girls are more likely to get hurt or taken advantage of, I guess thats what they think. I used to deal with that from my father he was very strict on me and my 2 sisters, we couldnt have any boyfriends, and we dam sure couldnt even go down the block without his "radar" going off. LOL
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• United States
1 Jun 07
i agree. i got 2 sisters and my moms alwayz harassed them bout where they goin and not me!!!!!! its true, men can take care of themselves!!!!!!! i have a daughter and i know once she gets older ima b more protective than i am now and thats cuz we live in a harsh world!!!!!!!!!!
@Coolgeth (1215)
• India
31 May 07
In our human society womans are getting more troubles when they move out. Boys can tackle the problems by themselves but girlz cannot. Its being from our old age that all parents give more importance and worries about their daughters tahn boys.
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@kodie420 (872)
• Canada
31 May 07
I think that all comes from way back in the way old days. I have often wonder myself why parents arent as proctective over their sons as they are with their daugthers. Maybe they see the daughters alittle more fragile or at risk then there sons might be but who knows.
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• Thailand
5 Jun 07
On contrary why don't you think this way that he's so worried and care about you that he shows his affection and concern for you by doing all this. If you do something to ensure him that you won't go on a wrong track then i am sure that he'll not get to worry too much in future.
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
1 Jun 07
I agree that most parents do worry about daughters going out or coming home late. Parents think that sons are more able to take of themselves than daughters.