How to get along with my mother-in-law?

Philippines
May 31, 2007 7:36pm CST
I love my husband, I love my family, I want to stay us intact. But how can I do this if my mother-in-law always interfere with us...he wants my husband back!whew!because as her only son (my husband), she thinks that it would be best if they stick with each other. He wants my husband and my kid to live with her....without me!!!He always bribe my husband giving all those things just to leave me alone! And my husband thinks also that he should list his mother as his first priority!!What will I do...to open up my husband that we, his family, should be his first priority and how can get along with my mother-in-law so that we can live normally..and happily of course.
1 response
@maehan (1439)
• United States
1 Jun 07
Is she ok? How can she wants your husband and kid to live with her WITHOUT you. That's nut. I only heard that in-law wanted to stay ALL together. Probably, she is lost and jealous and do not know what to do. I get along pretty well with my in-law to the extend that my in-law friends and relative tends to tease them that I more like their daughter than their son. What I do is pretty simple. I just accompany to anywhere they like to go, to the restaurant or food court for food. I share my problem with and seek for their advice. Treat them like your parent and same time like a friend. Elderly are like kid sometime that need extra caring. They want to be with their children, so let us be one of them too! It is not easy and it take time. Good Luck! You can DO it!:)
• Philippines
1 Jun 07
thanks...but how can she like me if she thinks that I am the one who took away her son from her?...she also thinks that I only marry her son because of their money!...my husband is disabled before we met and despite of this I still marry him, and love him as well as my family. And my husband grew up in a separated parents...and if we fight her mother would prefer to go us in separate ways because she thinks that it is the convenient way to settle our differences as husband and wife......
@maehan (1439)
• United States
1 Jun 07
She should be glad that her son found somebody really loves him regardless how he is or rather how he look. Take it slowly, let her know that you love her son. Otherwise, why do bear the children together. If you go for the money, then no children and just try to take all the money, right? Thus, in such case that anything to do with $$$, go one step at at time. It will not happen over night, probably takes years. You can do it, from the way you have supported your husband and children. You are awesome!
@maehan (1439)
• United States
1 Jun 07
Oh yes! Try all means and stay calm and happy with your relationship with your husband. If there is a will, they is a way. We must bear in mind we have children to take consideration into. They need a complete family. I may sound conservative, but if we give up easily, it is getting our effort off. Take care.