how can i prevent my kid, learning "bad words"

Philippines
June 2, 2007 1:18am CST
i have a baby boy named Kody, he is turning 2 years old this June, he is a very talkative child, and a good listener..I was suprised when i hear him talk "bad words" to his other playmates..and i blame my husband for letting him play my son with older kids, and letting my husband hear the neighbors exchange of nasty words..can you give me idea to prevent it..
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@sharadin (18)
• India
2 Jun 07
nina, how are you ? why you are telling me wrong that your husband is not with you. why you do so ?i was not angry if you told me that time that i am leaving with my husband. every women is doing so. but you are telling wrong to me and play with faith of both of your husband and with me too. why you did so?, i am not able to understand you, may be you did it for money only ? very shamful ! however, i am your good friend still now.
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• United States
2 Jun 07
Preventing a child from learning "bad words" is probably futile. You can however minimize the 'damage' by not using those words yourself and pointing out to him they are not good words to use in a way that gets his attention. One mother made her child give up a toy for a day when a bad word was uttered. Some parents use time outs for short periods for little tikes like yours, longer time outs for older children.
• Philippines
2 Jun 07
we are not using "bad words" in our house even if my husband and i fights...
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• United States
4 Jun 07
You have good restraint then.
@tcshek (9)
• Hong Kong
7 Jun 07
Actually, I think it's difficult to prevent it, but you can try to teach him some proper knowledge. You can tell him not to use "bad words" to attack someone. There's no sin for swearing, but it's important to let him know how to use them properly and when does he use these words.
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
thanks ^-^
@magnet (2087)
• United States
5 Jun 07
When you or your husband hear other people disrespect you and your children by saying bad words in front of them,it's your responsibility to tell them to stop,simply tell them that you would appreciate it if they will not talk like that in front of your child. They should respect your request. I know someone who use to curse their own children out in front of my young child. In a general conversation I told her that I would like it if she could restrain from talking like that around my children.You have to be careful how you tell grown folks how to talk. Make sure you don't tell her with an attitude and use the right tone of voice. She curse so much that she didn't even know that she was cursing.She said that it is a bad habit.I started avoiding her and every since I had that talk with her she really tries hard not to talk that way in front of the children.
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
in my case some i have a particular friend who came to our house and used to talk dirty words..and i tell them not to talk like that..but it seems like what i told her is just a joke..they will repeat and repeat it again nad again..it annoys me a lot..and she will tell "your son gonna learn that sooner or later, when your not around, so dont be paranoid"...is that being paranoid...or what
• United States
11 Jul 07
Well i know what you mean. I have a 2 yr old son who copies everything you say, the t.v., radio and someone thats in the store or where ever. It's really hard to keep them from hearing bad words. As parents we want the best for our kids so we try to keep them safe and not learn bad things but sometimes we just have no control of it. The only thing i can say is try to get him to say different words. For the f word say fudge. Make up words. This usually works. I hope it will work for you.
@speedy1279 (2667)
• United States
19 Jun 07
The best way to keep kids from learning bad words is to not expose them to bad words. In this day and age that is very hard to do. It seems like more and more people are using bad language. And it doesn't help that children are like sponges and soak up everything they hear. I know I really don't have room to talk here because I have caught myself by accident using bad language around my kids. So when I hear my kids using it, I just tell them that what they said is not appropriate and that just because they hear a grown up using such language doesn't make it right for them to use. Best of luck.
• United States
4 Jun 07
Just depends on what you mean by bad words. If you're talking about swear words then I would definitely be more selective about who your little boy can hang out with. Peers and older siblings are some of the strongest influences in a child's life. Your son will more likely to role model bad and good habits. When I was growing up, simple things, like saying, "Shut up" or "darn" were considered bad words. It all depends on your family's standards and preferences. Kids as young as yours, need constant reminders to do the right thing. They won't learn overnight. And, they'll forget easily. You might put up a rewards chart on the refrigerator and give your little one a sticker or point for every time he makes the right decision not to say mean or bad words. This game will keep him too busy to think about anything else. Best of luck.