What Do the younger generations think of arranged marriages?
By zandi458
@zandi458 (28102)
Malaysia
June 2, 2007 5:48am CST
Would you think arranged marriages still works among the younger generations? Mention the word 'matchmaking' to a young person and chances are you'll be shot a disguested look in return. Gone are the days when proud parents paraded their eligible sons or sheltered their virgin daughters until a perfect match was found. In this day and age, young people believe that the responsibility to look for a partner is theirs and theirs alone. But not all are against arranged marriages and it still happens today and many young couples have met through that very process.
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@mummymo (23706)
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3 Jun 07
Well Zandi I do not come from a culture where arranged marriages happen (or at least very rarely) and when I was younger I thought that they were a terrible thing. As I have grown up and matured I have realised that many arranged marriages work a lot better than so called love marriages do! I have heard that 95% of arranged marriages last and are very happy and all I say to this is , as long as no-one is forced into a marriage then it sounds like a good idea! xxx
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
3 Jun 07
Separation can happen in any type of marriage whether or not it was arranged. I guess, the good part of being in an arranged relationship is that when it fails, you can always blame it on your parents lol.Why arranged marriage last is because they wouldn't want to disappoint their parents and are forced to keep the marriage because of fear that they embarrass or disppoint their family. Besides parents knows best what is suitable for their children. Their choice is always perfectly correct.
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@mummymo (23706)
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3 Jun 07
I like the idea of blaming parents when a marriage goes wrong - unfortunately I couldn't do this when my first marriage failed as my family NEVER liked my ex-husband! lol I cannot tell for sure how you feel about arranged marriages - some work out very well for the couple do they not? I would hate to be responsible for choosing my childrens spouse, although I know them well I would rather know that they were happy with their own choice of partner, not that I am criticising other cultures, just my own opinion! xxx
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@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
4 Jun 07
Well we really do not think about it, we do not consider it. Most of us grow up in a different mentality and we can not think of anyone choosing our partner to us.
I know that in israel we have large group of a very religious Jewish people, and in the past their marriages were always arranged, but today even them give their children an option of choosing from a very large group of man.
But somtimes i think there are positive sides to this.
I mean if my parents would have choose my partner for me, that could be more easier. LOl.
As you know i am 34 and still single, after a few relationship, that lasted a few years each, yet i did not find the one that i want to spend my life with.
But we never know what we get into, do we?
We will always have to start learning each other each day, and that will last for the rest of our life's, isn't it?
But still, i know that i prefer choosing my partner then having someone choosing him for me.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
4 Jun 07
When I hear the word 'matchmaking', I can only think of the traditional customs that our parents and their ancestors had to abide by. My son who is 25 year old is not against matchmaking. He even have the courtesy to ask me to look for a bride for him.
His works take too much of his time that he could not find time to go for dates. Poor soul, I can only wonder with my mouth wide as to his preference of a bride has to come from his mother. I don't intend to interfer in this matter. It got to be from one's own heart, isn't The inability to look for partner should not be seen as a flaw on one's character. The right partner has not shown up yet. So you just have to be patient. With so many failed marriages, it is only right to be choosy and pick the suitable one.
@Superfluous (284)
• Philippines
3 Jun 07
I'd prefer choosing my own partner. :)
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