Do you ever feel like an outcast in your family?

United States
June 2, 2007 12:44pm CST
I was adopted and it seems like I don't fit in anywhere,not with my "real" family,my adoptive family or anywhere. It seems like no one cares to even call and see how I'm doing. Do you ever feel this way? Is it just because I was adopted? Or is this common amoung other families?
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@cynddvs (2950)
• United States
2 Jun 07
It's funny that you bring this up today. I was actually just going to post a discussion similar to this one. I often feel like an outcast with my dad's side of the family. On my dad's side of the family they are all the type of people who never call. I always have to be the one to call them. For example, my Mammaw and Pappaw live less then 10 minutes away from me. You know how many times they have seen my daughter in 19 months? Twice!! They came over to see her once when she was just a couple of weeks old and never saw her again until just the other day. I always call them and email them to see when they would like to get together and they never get back to me. They are always too busy. I know we all have busy lives but this is just ridiculous. And my dad is in town visiting right now. Up until the other day I hadn't seen him in 5 years. And in the few days he's been here we've barely had 2 conversations. My stepsisters seem to be getting all the attention right now. I feel like I'm being a whiny brat but it really pisses me off. I mean I haven't seen my dad in 5 years and this is the first time he's met his grand daughter and my stepsisters are coming in hogging all of the attention. So no you are not alone. I'm not adopted and my stepsisters are and I feel more of the outcast then they are.
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• United States
2 Jun 07
So true,I feel like a whiner also but I just hate being pushed aside! And I feel for you,I have had the same thing done to me and my daughter alot,especially with my "real" mom she is always coming to Michigan to see her other kids and grand kids but I never hear about her being her until she calls me the morning she is leaving! I just want to scream sometimes! Thanks I'm glad I'm not alone but I am sorry you have to deal with this.
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@magikrose (5423)
• United States
4 Jun 07
Dont feel bad I am my mothers only child and my mother cant even call me and tell me that a family member who lives in another state is visiting for the weekend so I can go see them and say hi.
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• United States
4 Jun 07
that's too bad,in my family it always seems like I am the last to know anything no matter what the thing I don't know about is,I hope that made sense I just woke up sorry. Thanks
@tinamwhite (3255)
• United States
3 Jun 07
Babyangie, Unfortunately, I think that it is common among families in general.....of course, not all of them, but many of them... I am fortunate in that I have somehow appointed myself the "peacekeeper" of my family...LOL Sometimes there are some not so nice disagreements among; we, the parents and the kids; or sibling to sibling......It always works out eventually....after many strssful hours to me...I do tend to be a bit of a worrier...LOL I take great pride in the fact that my husband and I took two broken homes and combined them in to one functional family.... In my opinion, blood does not always make a family....the people who are there for you...the people that you can turn to when something is really bothering you...the people who genuinely care if you are eating and sleeping...the people that can tell you that they are suffering in some way and you feel like it is happening to you...THESE people are your family... I hate that your relatives are making you feel this way...fortunately, they are many of us here at myLot that care very deeply for you....so rest assured, my friend...someone cares.....me, for one!!!
• United States
3 Jun 07
Thank you even though we have not know each other long I consider you family because you care. I know alot of people in my family don't mean to be the way they are but when I try to talk to them about it they just blow me off. I myself am a huge worrier so I know what that's like. Thank you again.
@chiwasaki (4661)
• Philippines
25 Nov 12
I'm sorry but I never felt that. My aunt, uncles, cousins, specially my parents treat us fairly. We all love each other and we don't let anyone, specially children to feel alone and outcast. You should feel comfortable and secured with your family all of the time.
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@joliefille (3696)
• Philippines
25 Nov 12
I'm sorry to hear you feel that way. I feel a bit of an outcast too because my family often mention I look different compared to my sisters. Plus I was the only one who has an A- blood type. But don't think about that, just think that you are lucky you are sheltered by a family.
@Shavkat (65976)
• Philippines
25 Nov 12
In my opinion, we don't have the right to isolate any individuals. Whatever the social class belongs to, they are still a part in the society. Some people showed indifference to them, they lived in accordance with their standard. Same thing in the family relationships, it is not healthy.