I'm so Worried my Ex hasn't brought my Daughter home yet

@stacy624 (2777)
Canada
June 2, 2007 8:42pm CST
My ex came today to pick up the children as he usually does for his weekend, His pick up time is 11:00 and his drop off for 2 children is 6:00 its 9:39 pm and No phone call, No answer from me calling I'm stating to get really worried. I mean there could be 101 things why this is happening but my stomach is TURNING!!! I am not sure what to do at this point??? (please keep in mind his wife is due anytime to have a baby, should I call the hospital??) Thank you my friends Stacy
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@tmlnmr (1850)
• Canada
3 Jun 07
Hey Stacy I can understand you are very worried. I would first call the hospital to see if his wife is in having the baby, remember cell phones cannot be on in the hospital, then if she is not in there I would alert the police. If this is unusual for him to do this make sure they know and also make sure they know if he has made threats of this before. Actually if he has made these threats then call the police now and let them see if they are in the hospital. I pray this turns out good for you.
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@ESKARENA1 (18300)
3 Jun 07
good point, i think my instinct would also be to contact the police blessed be
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@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
3 Jun 07
Hey there I just wanted to let you know Reuben has Dropped the kids off (Whew) I have never had such a ugly feeling in my belly like this before. When I had asked him why he didn't call he replied with I assumed you knew I was keeping her, Just then his wife perked up and said I told you should call her. I hope that he never does this again.....Thank you so much for your thoughts and prayers it really helped =) Stacy
@superchook (1786)
• Australia
3 Jun 07
I think if his wife was having the baby he would have dropped the kids off before they went to the hospital, but it might be worth a try. Keep trying to ring him. Is there anyone on his side of the family that you can call. They might know what is going on. Try not to stress too much yet, it could be another one of his little games to just annoy you. I hope everything is ok. If you feel you need to, ring the police and they will hopefully go around and check for you. I am thinking of you!
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@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
4 Jun 07
Thank you so much for your response, The kids were finally dropped off today around 2ish.....I had let Reuben know how he made me feel and how worried I was about the kids, He didn't think that I was this upset and said he just assumed I knew he was keeping Jessica over night. I told him his communication needs to improve for it was not discussed and therefore I had no clue. A phone call wouldn't have hurt, but hopefully he wont do this again =) Thank you again for your thoughts =)
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• Australia
4 Jun 07
Of course you were going to be worried, he didn't contact you to let you know or organise it with beforehand. He should not have done what he did. Why didn't he answer his phone? I am glad that everything was ok now, but he should not have put you through that.
@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
4 Jun 07
He said he and the kids were out all night I was like WHAT so they didn't sleep at your house?? he said Yes I said well didn't you get the message I left asking just to call me to tell me everything is OK. He looked dumb founded so what he did is beyond me, but his wife looked over and said I told him to call you. He also told me there was no way I could be this hurt and nervous over this situation. As far as I'm concerned all he cares about his himself (selfish) I would have never done this and would have call to inform him of any changes. Grrrr thank goodness I am no longer married to this man.
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• Philippines
3 Jun 07
awwww i wish i clould ease the tension but relaxxx..think of things that might be a close reason why they went home late...yeap i agree you should check the hospital and also get ur daughter from there and also lend a help to ur ex and his wife during her labor at the hospital and wut not...ill pray for you and for your daughter and everyone else..take care and Godbless!!!!
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@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
3 Jun 07
Hey there and Thank you for response.....There could be lots of different reasons for this for sure, I will give him till his drop off time today which is for 2:00 and if still no call or sign I will for sure have this looked into... Thank you again and I will keep you posted Stacy
• United States
3 Jun 07
What! these would make me crazy as well. I hope he is someone you can trust and won't do something like that. Your in a bad spot and he wrong for putting you there.
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@sedel1027 (17855)
• United States
3 Jun 07
I would call, something may have hung them up or they are just at the hospital. I would be worried as well, but I don't trust my ex.
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@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
3 Jun 07
He has brought my kids home Sunday 1:50 pm.....He told me they were really busy and just assumed I knew he would be keeping Jessica over night. Thank you for your Response on this Stacy
@sedel1027 (17855)
• United States
3 Jun 07
Thanks for the update. I was thinking about you!
• Canada
3 Jun 07
Stacy, I would think that your ex being late to drop off your kids probably has something to do with his wife. In other words, perhaps she was having constant labour pains or something of the sort. Meanwhile, since it is now 2:45 a.m. here and you have not responded to this discussion to say that you have found your kids, you do have me extremely concerned. If you have phoned the hospital and relatives, then you do need to phone the police and perhaps have them check his house to see if his clothing is still there. Personally, I honestly can't see him kidnapping your kids when his wife is due...to me, that would just be dumb. Doesn't hurt to check though and cross it off your list. I still think you will find that your ex just got caught up in the excitement of his new wife probably dropping her baby right there and thus, your ex having to leave your kids with neighbours, and forgetting to phone you. I pray I am right. Please let us know. We are all concerned.
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• Australia
3 Jun 07
That's a good point, I didn't think of the kids may be with the neighbours if his wife had gone into labour. We are all definitely concerned. I just hope for the best.
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• Canada
3 Jun 07
I'm just praying that Stacy has forgotten to post that she has her daughters back and that they are safely in bed now. After all, Stacy would be exhausted from all that worry...so maybe she is sleeping right now, too. I'm praying...
@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
3 Jun 07
Thank you so much for your thoughts and concerns ......Jessica is not home, and I did make a call to the hospital no Stacey there yet. I called his mother and she said that he probably assumes it was OK to keep her over night and disagrees with the fact he hasn't call to tell me this. I don't know what would give the the go ahead to just keep her like this because yesterday, I had all 4 kids ready to go for their visits when he hit with some disgusting news that he was no longer going to accept Cierra my oldest (10) to his home. This really upset me as they left but No words on I'm keeping or may I keep Jessica was asked. I Notice I seem to over react I mean I cant see him steeling the kids either but nor has he done this sort of thing before. I was home yesterday at 4:00 to feed my other children dinner and to wait till I got word to see what going to happen so Mike, I and the kids could go finish the shopping. I stayed here till 7:50 when I made my 1st attempt to call him to see what was up? No answer, so Mike, I and the kids ran out to look around their apartment to see if the van was there No van. We came back home I then called again at 9:50 and still no answer, I called his mom at 11:00 and she tried No answer but also said she could be at her mothers, or friends ect. His drop off time is 1:00 today and usually he drop them off by 2:30 the latest if not home at that time I am going to put the call in to the police. There is just so much that is going through my head. Thank you again and I will be sure to keep you all posted. Thanks again for your thoughts and prayers Stacy
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@ESKARENA1 (18300)
3 Jun 07
you must be frantic, i do hope by now you have resolved this. I would certainly be getting in touch with the hospital, if you get no joy I would be getting in touch with the police i wish you peace blessed be
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@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
4 Jun 07
Thank you for your response I waited until Sunday 2:00 which was around the time frame he came strolling in. I confronted him about this and told him my feelings, He said at first he didn't believe I would be this worried, but if you seen what I looked like yesterday I'm sure you could tell....anyhow anything is fine my kids are home safe and sound ....Thanks again for your support in this it really helped.
• United States
3 Jun 07
I LOL'd. Well, you should really try to call him. If he doesn't pick up, try finding him yourself. Don't worry yourself, it's not good for you.
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@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
3 Jun 07
I will continue to call today and Hope to get an answer, His drop off time is for 2:00 and if still nothing I will be sure to have it looked into... Thank you for your response Stacy
• United States
3 Jun 07
Wow, I would be frantic. I would also check with the hospital, or maybe some other friend or relative that might know where they might be. I think I would also call the police and just let them know that he is late with the drop off and you can not reach him. I am not sure what they would be able to do, but it would be worth a try. I hope that things are all right and I hope that they are soon safely in your home in bed. Good luck to you, and let us know what happened.
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@Michele21 (3095)
• United States
3 Jun 07
You could call the hospital to see if that is what happened, I would think he would drop off the kids if she went into labor, but you can call to eliminate that or whatever. I would call the police and tell them what is going on, he can't just ekkp the kids if you have a court order, he can be thrown in jail (at least in the US) for not returning your kids. You need to keep track of these things and let the courts know, if he does it enough times his visitation can get cut back or taken away. Good luck and I hope your kids are ack by the time you read this!!!
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@4cuteboys (4103)
• United States
3 Jun 07
I have been in similar situations with my ex.He would say I'll bring the kids at 8pm, and here it was like 11pm and they still weren't home and he didnt answer his phone. I freaked out. I am very protective over the kids and felt really bad he did that. I hope your okay, and that they got home soon after you posted this. Update us when you can sweetie!
@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
3 Jun 07
They are back what a huge Relief.....When he pulled up I asked the kids to meet inside the house. I explained in a clam but sneaky voice that I was worried to no end. He couldn't understand why so I explained I thought maybe they were in a accident or Stacy went to have the baby or simply just didn't want to bring Jessica home. He said that he assumed I knew he was going to keep her but those words were not said yesterday morning when he left my house at 11:10.....All I can say is I'm so thankful my kids are home safe and sound and hope that Reuben will be a little more respectful with communication and times. Thank you so much for your Thoughts!!
@4cuteboys (4103)
• United States
4 Jun 07
OMG I am so glad! I am sorry that happened though, I would have been sick, seriously. I would have been throwing up. I am happy everything is okay, and yeah that was really disrespectful on his part. Sounds like something my ex would do.
@Nardz13 (5059)
• New Zealand
4 Jun 07
Hi Stacy, I know exactly how your feeling, Ive been in a similar state with my husband coming home late from work, in your case its your children, maybe his wife is having the baby, but then even if she is, a phone call from your ex isnt hard to do... I really dont know what to tell you, you couldnt call the cops could you? I dont know Im just guessing... Good luck with this one, I hope your children are safe anyway
@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
4 Jun 07
Thank you so much for your response, My kids were brought back to me yesterday around 2:00 I had a talking to with their father explaining me had me worried to no end. He just assumed I knew he was going to keep Jessica over night which I didn't know and was home well before my time to be here for her or for the call asking if she could stay.. I am so Thankful they are home I never want to get those feeling again .....=) Have a great day
• Canada
3 Jun 07
I'm glad things turned out good for you. Congrats!
@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
4 Jun 07
Thank you so much!!!!! Stacy
• Nigeria
3 Jun 07
i think you should relax, should he be in the hospital then i know for sure he might not be able to pick his call since phone calls aint allow in most hopitals. Well you could also call the hospital and try find out if he's been in with the kids. Good luck
@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
3 Jun 07
Thank you for your response...Just wanted to let you know he just finished dropping my kids home =) I would have to say he had me pretty worried. I had called the hospital, his sister's his mom's his home, I even left a message just asking him to call me to let me all was find last night 9:50 and that he could all at anytime of the night. My sleep was awful but was given him till 2:00 after that I would have called the police, but Thank goodness it didn't go that way. I just want to thank you for your response and hope you have a wonderful day =) Stacy
@hoghoney (3749)
• United States
3 Jun 07
I know how you feel, my ex one day just came to my house and up and took my kids right off the pourch and it was on a Friday and I called the cops because we had to go to court on that Monday for support hearing. And my mind started playing tricks with me and the cops were at his house and I had a restraining order on him and the dang cops let him keep them til the court date. So when that Monday got here and I was at the court house well my ex showed up but didnt have my kids with him. He told the judge that they were with his girlfriend and the judge said that he had to return them to me by Tuesday at 6:00pm. but I got one over on him because I fouond out that my kids were at the Boys and Girls club while he was in court and my oldest son told the lady there that their Dad hold kiddnapped them and that their mom didnt know where they were at and then the club called the cops and when I got home from court the cops were at my door with my kids. The only thing I could think of at the time was man I sure would like to be a fly on the wall when my ex goes back to pick them up and they are goen. Please let us know how it is going and if they are back and we will keep checking back on this ok. Many HUGS to you.
• Canada
3 Jun 07
My first instinct would be to call the hospital to see if his wife is in having her baby. If not, then I would call the police. It just seems strange that if his wife is in hospital having her baby, they must have known ahead of time that she was at least in the beginning stages of labor, and if so, why didn't he bring your daughter home then prior to going to the hospital? I hope he brings her home soon. I would be worried sick too!
@mari610 (360)
• United States
3 Jun 07
This is terrible. Stacy, please post here and update us about your children.I'm praying that everything is ok and they are finally home with you. Did you call the hospital? or the police? Especially that you say, he's never done anything like this before,has everyone truly concerned and worried as well. I will be saying a prayer for the safe return of your children. And please keep us updated.
@stacyv81 (5905)
• United States
3 Jun 07
yes, I would try the hospital. Or maybe a relative, like his mom or something. I can totally understand why you are worried. I hope everything will be fine. Keep us posted!
@KissThis (3008)
• United States
3 Jun 07
To be honest with you I freak out when anyone has my children and son't return with them on time. I would have done everything that you have done plus I might have also sent apolice officer over to his house to see if there might be something wrong. I hope everything is alright and that he is just being his ignortant self and forgot to call. Keep us posted.