To forgive or not to forgive!

@tmlnmr (1850)
Canada
June 2, 2007 9:04pm CST
There are so many people who hold grudges these days! I forgive people quickly, I once was told that not forgiving is drinking poison everyday and hoping the other person dies from it. That really hit me. It was destroying me inside and it was doing nothing to the person I was angry with. I used to always hold a grudge but eventually I realized that it was toxic for me to do that and I stopped. I can argue with someone and the next time I see them it is like it never happened. There was someone that said we stole from him and it caused a huge battle between us but I have forgiven him for that, this doesn't mean I trust him and will not do business with him again but I don't hold a grudge and he is still allowed on our property. So what about you? Do you hold a grudge or can you forgive people?
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5 responses
• United States
3 Jun 07
No, I don't hold a grudge. That stuff will eat you alive. Like you, I forgive easily. But just because I fogive someone that doesn't mean that I trust that person. The trust will then have to be earned again. It also depends on what that person has done to me, too. I have family members that will hold a grudge probably until the day they die, and yes, you guessed it. They are very bitter, unhappy people.
@tmlnmr (1850)
• Canada
3 Jun 07
yes I have family members that are the same. It destroys me when they start in like "I'm not going here anymore or I won't go there anymore...." I mean get over it! LOL. I have a hard time dealing with someone angry with me as well it drives me batty! LOL Thanks for your comment.
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@crickethear (1420)
• United States
3 Jun 07
I think it comes down to how deep and close to your heart it is. Sometimes we do forgive and forget when people hurt us, depending on the person and the action. Yet sometimes we say we forgive and forget when really we never do. I do forgive but it it can be diffucult to forget.
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@tmlnmr (1850)
• Canada
3 Jun 07
I so agree with you. At least about the fact that people will say they forgive but haven't really. I was like that with my mother(long story) I am not so sure that people need to forget though, I mean if someone shoots you and you survive then you can forgive that person but you will never forget what they did. There is going to be reminders everyday, it just doesn't need to eat you up like it would if you held on to the anger etc... that comes with not forgiving. Thanks for the comment.
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• India
4 Jun 07
I too forgive people very soon. Holding grudge will only make me feel uneasyness and the whole day is upset. If I am at the wrong end I make sure that I ask for forgiveness coz if I don't, it makes me feel guilty all the time. One more thing I forgive people very soon is maybe because I don't pay much attention to such trivial matters. My memory is very short for such things, don't know why. But I think its a boon from GOD to me. I remember other things well enough. Like I do pretty well in my exams and do remember many details about the subject. MILLION CHEERS TO THE SWEEET GOD!!!!!!!!
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@tmlnmr (1850)
• Canada
4 Jun 07
That is very good practice. It is good practice to ask for forgiveness as well. Sometimes it isn't all that trivial but maybe. Yes a million cheers to our Lord God!!!
@rabanesd (284)
• United States
3 Jun 07
I can't hold a grudge. I have a hard time. I guess it's because like you said, it kills you and not the person you're hold the grudge to. Plus I've learned about forgiving being that I know God and read his lessons in his word. Jesus said if a man trespasses against you 70 times in one day, then you must forgive him 70 times in that one day. But let me tell you, it does get hard for some people I know.
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@tmlnmr (1850)
• Canada
3 Jun 07
It is very hard for some to not hold a grudge and to forgive. How much better the world would be if everyone learned the act of forgiveness! Thanks for your comment. God Bless!
@wachit14 (3601)
• United States
4 Jun 07
I totally agree with you. At some point you have to forgive the person who has hurt you on whatever level works for you. Sometimes, people are just so emotionally unstable that they cannot, but help to make you miserable and they need forgiveness more than anything. I love the poisen analogy so much I just took note of it and it is so very true!