A Bondage of Loneliness...

loneliness - feeling lonely
@add_im (2712)
Philippines
June 3, 2007 6:00am CST
Just to make it straight to you guys, I need to know some of your opinions about this matter...if one of us here do feel of some sort of loneliness and sadness in each life, how will you rebuke this sort of things in your life? What are the most common things one should do to avoid this feelings? For me personally, I keep on rebuking things like this because first of all I don't like the feeling of loneliness and sadness and I refused to be this way, being a loner in my whole life...but sometimes, I just can't help it. That is why friends, from your opinions and thoughts being shared here would truly be a great help for me, not just for me I guess but to all others who may be feel the same way I do. Thanks in advance everyone for sharing your thoughts and opinions. God bless!
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7 responses
• United States
5 Jun 07
Different things are responsible for making us lonely. Whatever it is that is making me lonely, I try to deal with that situation. I also pray. Another thing that helps is helping other people. It takes your mind off yourself. Keeping busy can help also.
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
That is so true, keeping oneself busy and just start occupying oneself to do other things would truly be a great help to get rid of any such negative thoughts and feelings. Most specially, praying is the best key of all in order for us to gain strength and would be easy for us to deal such a situation of loneliness. Thanks for sharing.
@dania13 (96)
• Canada
4 Jun 07
* My Best Way to escape sadness or to get little joy is: to go out specially in Nature! If, i can visit animals like dogs and cats at my friends or family places, then i visit more the animals than the person!! ZOOTHERAPY is working very well for me! LOL ..i dunno for you? * About Loneliness... why not to try a Match Making website or in nerwspaper Get a penfriend?? 9 years ago, i met my husband online! I went meet him in Holland, we fall in love and now we are granny & granpa very HAPPY!! at 42-43 yo, we decided to take ACTION, like one upper suggested you, and... we are not anymore alone!! Good Luck! friend Dania with bless of Angels!!
@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
Thank you dania13 for sharing your thoughts. That is a great thing for you, you don't let your loneliness drives you but instead you get to find ways out from it, most great thing about is you met the love of your life and now you both are happy as grandparents now. :-) I'm happy for both of you and your hubby. Goodluck!
@habiryn (51)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
Hi, I believe without feeling loneliness there could never be happiness. I just like to point out that you feel greater happiness right after the loneliness. I would have to say that yu don't need to rebuke it 'cause it is natural part of life. But if you feel that happiness is nowhere near in reaching your life yet, just divert your attention aside from you loneliness so you can ease the feeling of being alone.
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
Hello habiryn, thanks for sharing. Yes you are right, all I need is to divert the feelings of being lonely to any sort of things which can make me feel more at my best and just be glad to what life brings me now. :-)
@uiwwitch (892)
• United States
3 Jun 07
being lonely or sad is natural for us humans. If we deny it, it will just catch up on us and will be more devastating. Wallowing in pain and sadness is not bad as long as we rise above it and use it to rethink and redirect our lives. I always think about the calm after the storm and it's always a good feeling to survive and be able to move on.
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
3 Jun 07
Hi uiwwitch, thanks for sharing. That is a right way of thinking, that in the midst of the storm there's always calmness and fresh new day after all...same thing with life, we may feel lonely and sad by the moment but I do believe that in the midst of all this, happiness and rejoicing in one's life would truly come in it's time, then we can move into new phase of our lives with gladness, with no more loneliness, no more pains, no more heartaches and no more sadness...just purely happiness and gladness to come. :-)
@GardenGerty (102535)
• United States
3 Jun 07
It is easy to let our emotions, especially our negative or sad ones rule our lives. You say you rebuke these feelings, and I am guessing then, that is in the Lord's name you rebuke them. God likes us to be active in our own care, as well, and do things that will help us spiritually. One of the things I do when I have feelings of loneliness or self pity, is to consciously seek out people to help. This puts my feelings in perspective, helps someone else, does the Lord's work, and possibly makes a new friend for me. The same principles of helping others are effective as well for people without faith, because doing good feels good, it makes us have happy hearts and minds.
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
3 Jun 07
Thanks for sharing your thoughts GardenGerty. I truly believe it, that God only desires to make His children rejoice and be glad in every situations we may face in life, and I know God is a loving, merciful and a faithful God, true to His promises that in the midst of the storms in our lives, God says in His words that 'whomsoever call upon His name will be saved', and i'm holding to it and that truly what makes me fight for life's trials, negative thoughts and just in every situation that a one person would seems giving up. But, by God's grace and mercy I know I can conquer this feelings that I have and start a new fresh beginning with Christ in me.
@derek_a (10902)
3 Jun 07
If I was to feel lonely, or any other negative feeling, I would never fight it, but look deeply into it, for this is an automatic reaction (that is not of my choosing) and would mean that my subconscious mind is attempting to communicate something about the feelings. I do this because, when feelings like this are rejected, they don't actually go away, they just become subconscious and need resolving not denying. We all inhabit a physical body and through the body are separate from others, but our hearts and minds are not confined to the body - we can reach out to others and whilst we may be alone, we can know that there are loved ones in our minds, and in this way, we have no need to feel lonely. So I would always examine negative feelings like loneliness, just observing them and listing to what the mind is "saying", then without judgement of condemnation, the negative feelings are transcended, and not effecting my life :-)
@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
3 Jun 07
Thank you for sharing. Yes, I do agree with it that when it comes to things like this, such as loneliness and any negative feelings...like you said, we need to face them not rejecting or denying them because if we do, I believe that we're not going to solve any problems this way but instead it will getting more worser than we think it isn't. So, best is to examine everything that causes one's to feel such a feeling of loneliness and learn to deal with it in a right way that would help us out from it. :-)
@gberlin (3836)
3 Jun 07
In order to change your situation you need to take action. It is often said that by helping others we help ourselves. If we concentrate on helping others we will forget about our loneliness. Do not wait for someone to solve your loneliness. Take action and see how many people you can help today. You will find that you are not lonely any more.
@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
3 Jun 07
That is so true, and believe me I do tried my very best to get rid myself from this kind of situation. Truly, paying more attention first of all of my own self would be my very first step of helping myself to conquer loneliness out of my life. Thanks for sharing. :-)