Being Single: How's life being single?

United States
June 3, 2007 7:58pm CST
This is for all my singles in mylot. Do you think nowadays its hard being single in the world we live in today? Are you having trouble finding "the one"? I just got out of a long term relationship. My ex moved on and so did I. However, he seemed to hook up with someone real quick. As for myself, I haven't found anyone that was worth my while. Typically, Ive been running into dudes that had player written all over their forehead lol. So I ask my fellow mylot users that are single, do you find it easy finding someone or is it harder nowadays? Tell me your story of how life is like being single.
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21 responses
• United States
4 Jun 07
I'm not single anymore, having found myself in a brand new long term relationship that started a few days ago. (hey every long term, forever and always sort of thing starts someday right? I just recognize it for what it is, after a few days. :) I was single until then, and I both loved and hated it. Being single means you're free to do what you want, but being in a committed relationship means you have someone to do stuff WITH. I'm sorry you meet so many players, if people stopped 'playing' they would find far more meaning in their relationships.
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• United States
4 Jun 07
True, I liked how you put it in having someone to do stuff with is what I missed.
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• United States
4 Jun 07
Well, you seem intelligent and very sweet so i'm certain you won't have to be all friendless and alone too much longer. Just don't let the players convince you they're for real and you might just find that special snuggly fellow to go play scrabble with ^.^
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• United States
4 Jun 07
Thanks for the advice eventhough scrabble was not the thing in my mind. lol
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• United States
4 Jun 07
I also got out of long term relationship not that long ago. We were together for 6 years and separated a few months ago. I think it IS harder to find someone nowadays. Most guys my age are still pretty immature and not ready to be faithful to one girl. I haven't been single for a long time so i'm enjoying the single life for now but i'm hoping to eventually find a good guy that I could settle down with.
• United States
4 Jun 07
Its been four months since I ended my relationship with my ex. You mentioned that you seperated from your ex. Are you taking a break from him or do you mean that its over between the two of you when you mention the word seperated? But, I must say there are alot of guys that are immature out there. But the right one will come along, eventually.
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• United States
4 Jun 07
My Ex and I broke up FOR GOOD 6 months ago. We were on and off for awhile and we ended things for good this time around. I'm not in a rush to find someone new. I've been with the same person since I was 15 years old so I want to enjoy the single life before I jump into another relationship. Also, when you're looking for someone you don't find them but when you're not looking then Mr. Right just shows up at your front door. LOL.
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• United States
4 Jun 07
That is so true. Im sure the right one will show up for you. Being in a long term relationship for 6 years, you need some time to be single before jumping into a new one. As for my experience, my ex wasn't that single for long as soon as we broke up. That just showed me that he wasn't the right catch for me in the first place.
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• Singapore
4 Jun 07
For female, probably it's hard being single as there will be suitors around if you are attractive. I've been single for quite some time and looking back, I preferred being single. There are times I missed those days with my ex-girlfriend. But being single, I can have all my time for myself.
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• United States
4 Jun 07
Its good to have time for yourself and just because your in a relationship doesn't mean all ur time is devoted to the other partner. Unless you allow them to do that
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• Singapore
4 Jun 07
Unfortunately for my case, I devoted most of my time to my love one. Thus after when I'm back to single again, I suddenly feel that I have alot of time
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• United States
4 Jun 07
Alot of times people spend so much time with their partner that they end up loosing friends out of a relationship. Was that the case for you?
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• United States
4 Jun 07
No, I rather enjoy being single. I am not looking, right now my only concern it me. I am repositioning myself and when the time comes when I feel I need a relationship in my life I will make a list of what I want in a partner and see what I find but I won't settle for less than what I want. For right now I am enjoying being with me.
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• United States
4 Jun 07
Thats good you enjoy being single. But girl, Ive been single for too long. I miss the moments being with a guy and being in a relationship. But I refuse to settle to something thats not worth it.
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• United States
4 Jun 07
I don't know how long it has been for you but it is going on five years for me and it was a little difficult in the beginning because I have never been single but when I looked over the long term relationships I was in they were all the same. I had to get to know myself, I had a bad habit of picking passive men to abuse. So I decided to get to know myself better and I realized how wonderful it was to be alone, not have to share my time, bed or space with anyone. It started out hard I use to go sleep at my ex house just to sleep but after awhile it go tiresome of him trying to touch me. Once I got over the need to have someone to sleep with it became a breeze, I love having my bed, and house to myself and if I want to have a conversation I have male friends that I have know for years and I am celibate, I have some much I want to do and a relationship doesn't fit in right now.
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• United States
4 Jun 07
You seem happy with being single. You doing whats best for you.
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@forisuru (217)
• Sri Lanka
4 Jun 07
Dear Friend, Been a single is the most independent time in our life. we have no bonds, we have no problems to think about. we are free and life seems so easy .... Thanks
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• United States
5 Jun 07
Thats a good aspect of being single.
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@forisuru (217)
• Sri Lanka
5 Jun 07
Dear Friend, That's most important aspect...of being single... Thanks
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@sharadin (18)
• India
4 Jun 07
It is really hard to be a single in the world. You need both love and support from one you can be with you at each and every stage of life. but it is true that it is difficult to find get the faith from them. I also have a girl friend, we love too much to each other, but after that also I am single, because she moves away to some one else. what can i do, i have nothing to do? your life is again at the same stage when it start enjoying everything. we have a need of someone for physical and mental relax, but what is the way for single?
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• United States
4 Jun 07
I think is to keep searching till you find the one unless you choose to be alone.
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• India
5 Jun 07
Yes, I am still searching for best one. Hi, Lusciousrican I hope to be your good net friends
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
life being single is enjoyable in many ways... hehehe... im not single though but soon i will as the flow is always like that for me... the longest time i have in a relationship is only 3 month... hahahaha.... well that was'nt good to hear to everyone here and you might say that im not good in a relationship.. but hey!!! i believe im the good one, its just that i did'nt find someone whose good enough for me... u will have to consider first your compatibility with each other i guess that's a must in a relationship... the more compatible you are with your partner you'll have more chances to become happy with him/her in your relationship... understanding and being caring is an important thing in a relationship... but sometimes you find your self like your loosing your way because of having your partner... well in a relationship, its a give and take anyway and that is always true... hahaha just for me.. its what i've experienced and learned...
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• United States
4 Jun 07
If the person is not good enough for youthen their is no pouint in being in that relationship.
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• Philippines
6 Jul 07
yeah... i agree with that.. :)
@jianhong (740)
• Singapore
5 Jun 07
Yea, it is so hard to find one that i really fall for. When i finally found her, things just don't turn well. Because i am just suck at BGR. hai...I am a little sick of being single..haha..but what more can i do. Just let the nature take place.
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• United States
7 Jun 07
Timing is everything and Im sure nature will take place.
@jackli (203)
• China
5 Jun 07
Hi, actually i'm not single now. I think single sometimes is good. huh. when i was single ago, i always stayed with my friends. because staying at home lonely is bad for one. you shouldn't be isolated from others. then we maybe find our Miss./Mr. Right around us. huh.
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• United States
7 Jun 07
You definitally have to put yourself out there to find Mr. Right. It be cool if he showed up at yoru front door. lol. But unfortunally, life works in mysterious ways and in this realisic world you have to put yourself out there to get anywhere in life.
@chenee08 (591)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
well, im single for quite long time.... and im happy about it coz i can do everthing i wanted to to do... im not waiting nor looking coz i know it'll come..heheh and beside im still 17.
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• United States
5 Jun 07
Thats good. Your young and my advice to you is don't rush into things.
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• United States
4 Jun 07
Well I'm not single but I have had some really great times being single in the past. lol. There are so many things you can do when you're single that you cannot do when you're in a relationship. And yes, it's really hard to find someone decent out there in the single world. So my advice to you is: Enjoy being single as much as you can, becuase you won't be forever.
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• United States
5 Jun 07
Thanks for the advice and as I enjoy the summer, Ill take advantage of enjoyign being single.
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4 Jun 07
Hi there, hope you dont mind me repling to you descussion im not single,but when i was single i did find it hard to find that special person sure i had offers but it like you said they had players written all over there foreheads,im sure you will find mr right soon.
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• United States
5 Jun 07
How dare you write something to this discussion when your not single? lol Just kidding. But its good to hear a point of view from someone who is not single. Thanks for replying.
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@shambuca (2560)
• United States
4 Jun 07
I am so glad i am not single nowadays- it is way to hard- I met my husband when i was 5 we started dating at 18 and 17 years later got married, that was 8 years ago, so we have been together total of 25 years. If I were single though I think I would try eharmony.com, I know i would never find what I'm looking for at a bar or club. Best wishes to those who are single in this day and age- I hope you find tht special someone to share your hopes and dreams with, but always remember happily ever after does not come easy...any commitment is a lot of work, trust and compromise... if you can handle that then you should find your happily ever after.
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• United States
4 Jun 07
It is alot of work. What are some places besides online in finding a guy nowadays. Most guys main intention in a bar or club is to get laid.
• Sri Lanka
4 Jun 07
been alone some times is good bt mostly it SUCKS !!
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• United States
4 Jun 07
I agree. It sucks being lonely at times.
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@adam918 (85)
4 Jun 07
Having recently found my future wife after being single for nearly two years i agree that its becoming increasivly difficult to find 'the one' If you are actively looking the way i did it was to go on a dating website, i know it sounds sad and corny but you can generally weed out all the psychos and bunny boilers without having to meet them and deal with them in person. Then after a while of getting to know someone and you decide to meet its not like having a first date because you know quite a bit about them already. I guess its not for everyone but it worked for me and im now very happy :)
• United States
4 Jun 07
Its interesting to know that a dating website worked out that you found your future wife.
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@cutiedhes (509)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
To tell you honestly, it is really hard for me though i have seen the guy whom should i say someone i will love and trust and same goes with him but sad to say it is not the right time because that time he was able to go to other country study and live with there for good. It really breaks my heart to know that news but what can i do its for his own good so what i did was just support him and be happy for him. But ever since he left i haven't seen anyone that would be like him someone caring, thoughtful, gentleman, sweet and respectful not only to me but also to my family. I don't know if i am being that desperate but now that i am 25 and still haven't found the right one i am afraid of what will happen in the future, i am afraid of being alone and be left that no one would love and would take care of you someday... What do you think???
• United States
4 Jun 07
Dont compare individuals to your ex. Your only 25, and guys around that age still don't know what they want. Don't be so anxius about finding soemone because it will never come. Its like waiting for the pot to boil and it never does.
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@steerforth (1802)
• Italy
4 Jun 07
Now I'm single after two years of relationship. But I would like to have a new girlfriend: I don't dislike the life of a single, but I would like to know a girl. P.S.: You're very beautiful!
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• United States
4 Jun 07
Thanks for the compliment. You jsut have to put yourself out there to find a girl.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
4 Jun 07
Hello,lusciousrican20 ,I am als single now,in fact,I have been single for long time since i broke up with my ex boyfriend,may be i am still insecure to have relationship with guys as i was cheated by my exboyfriend:(. I am quite happy to be single now as i do not have anyone to respond to,i have total freedom and i can do whatever i want without other's control. I am waiting for my MR right though,but he has not appeared yet,or may be never appeared in my life,who knows.I think it is harder to find a guy really loves me nowadays,it seems that guys only want my body and not really love my personality and inner beauty.:(
• United States
4 Jun 07
Theres alot of guys out there that their main motive is to get some and most of them are immature. But eventually most people find their Mr. Right.
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@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
I am two years single now after a 3 long-term relationship. I guess my ex found quickly too but not me. It also depends on how women choose. There are certain characteristics I am looking from a man like: responsible, hard working, God-fearing person.
• United States
4 Jun 07
There are certain characteristics that everyone looks for. Seems like your taking your time. Have you dated in the 2 years? If so, how was it like?
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@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
Yes I am taking my time, in two years I have dated. But i guess there is a perfect time for EVERYTHIHG. God blss!
@wilynn (753)
• Singapore
7 Jul 07
There are a few things you can do to boost your single self esteem: 1. Find a box and fill it up with magazines, movies, beauty products, etc. Take it out and use it when you feel lonely. 2. Go on a solo holiday. 3. Make some guy friends and get a dose of male company without the complications of being in a relationship. 4. Take on some big challenges to make you feel complete and proud. 5. Start a blog.