Friend vs boyfriend?

Malaysia
June 3, 2007 9:33pm CST
what do you do when your best friend tell you that he loved you but you take him as a best pal only??
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@183318 (264)
• Malaysia
5 Jun 07
for me...i will try to overcome this by the best way to tell her the truth which part we are not match but in positive way not to hurt her... if can ... i will tell her with lover i like... cause love and dating cant be start easy must be same thinking if not will heart broken easy in the future.. If just because she is my best friend i accept her will make her more sad in the future... beter tell the truth..that the best way.. really sorry to say that
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@miaolin (397)
• China
4 Jun 07
I have met such situation for times.At the beginning,I don't know how to deal with it.He just is my friend and I never consider him as my boyfriend.I never have such feel.My first solution is to explain my thought to him and reject him tactfully.But it seems not to be effective.He doesn't understand at all and insists on expressing his love to me.And then I have to carry out some rude ways,such as lie,abuse,insult myself and don't pay attention to him any more.Of course,it has hurt him,but I also won't.What I did also against my will.Because of this,I have lose a good friend. And the others same matters,I'm patient enough to explain my reasons to them and hope they can understand,because I don't want to lose more friends.
@steven318 (469)
• Malaysia
4 Jun 07
haha... realy to say that if got this case on me ... actualy realy happen on me now.. i feel hard to speak it out to her... coz best friend hard to get.. realy dont hope to hurt any best friend here
• Malaysia
5 Jun 07
den.. wuts ur response to ur best fren? act as nuthin ever happened n hang out as usual?
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@183318 (264)
• Malaysia
5 Jun 07
for me, actualy is finding a right time to overcome this case... becouse i still busy with the study.. i dont hope that dating all this thing disturb with me... well, i will try to descrease the way to reject it by the way be the best friend as usual.. if cant handle this problem seriusly ..then we will hard face each other in other days... But time prove everything... just run all this thing as original...
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• Malaysia
5 Jun 07
erm... i m not trying to skip this case.. just waiting the chances to overcome this... becouse what ever you say will hurt somone.. beter i find the right time to tell them.. becouse we are best friend ...even we cant be couple but still have to usual like before that is the best way so far... i also a bc guy here for study so datinf i put after i gradute ...
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
4 Jun 07
Be gentle with this person. he has just confessed his innermost feelings for you and even if you don't feel the same, you must consider his feelings and love for you. Be kind and explain that you love him as a friend and/or brother, you consider him to be like a family member, but not as a boyfriend or someone you want to date. Take care to make sure he isn't hurt too much.
• Malaysia
4 Jun 07
ya.. is true.. boy friend and family member realy a big different.. boy friend should give all the safety and protect you when you need them...
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
4 Jun 07
it is true what you say. Family is very important and should protect you, but a boyfriend should be protective as well, but in a different way I think.
• Malaysia
5 Jun 07
ya true... boy friend is the one can give you comfortable and safety and protect you from hurt... becouse not everything our family will understand... but they still very important to us..