Should a believer marry a non-believer?

@cook4t7 (202)
United States
June 4, 2007 3:36am CST
Do you think a believer should marry a non-believer? would you? and do you have scripture to back up what you think?
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11 responses
• Jamaica
4 Jun 07
A believer of a Christian faith should not marry a non-beleiver. This is so because there will be conflict of interest. For example, the non-believer may want to go to a night club (bar) when it is totally against the teaching of the believer. Another example is whereby a Christian beleiver marry someone from the Muslim faith or any other religion. This would be a big problem not only with the married persons but with there children if they have any. If you read the book of Corinthians it will help you to understand more. Can two things join together except they agree.
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@cook4t7 (202)
• United States
4 Jun 07
The experience with the Muslim faith I had a frontline seat watching what happened to my ex sister inlaw years ago. She wasn't a believer but when she went to Saudi she found out her right went out the door and she lost some of her kids and this type of differences should be weighed before such a heavy decision. As for the other differences I agree also. There too important to over look even pass upfront feelings. thanks for the response Shalom
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@wolves69 (756)
• United States
6 Jun 07
If you don't mind me butting in.... The points you make are interesting, and makes sense logically in the perspective of the believer. Tommyboyja is making an assumption that many activities may be considered inappropriate to the Christian believer. This may not always be true. To keep it short, I've known some non-believers who lived better moral lives then believers who went to services every week and can quote the bible. I'm not saying all non-believers would live a decent (through the eyes of a Christian) life, but some do. Also, the original topic really didn't characterize what a non-believer is, or what a believer stands for. So, I would be very interested in hearing other "non-Christian" points of view. Tommyboyja, you bring up a good point about the kids though. And that can be with any inter-faith marriages.
@Springlady (3986)
• United States
4 Jun 07
I am a Christian and I would not marry an unbeliever. The Bible does warn against doing this. I believe it is in one of the Books in the Bible by St Paul. You need someone who shares your faith and encourage each other in your walk with the Lord.
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@cook4t7 (202)
• United States
4 Jun 07
This sounds like sound advice.
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@kimfitts (66)
• United States
4 Jun 07
No...A Christian should not marry an non-believer. The Bible is clear to say that we should separate from those who do not believe. See the following scriptures: II Thess 3:6, Eph 5:11, II Cor 6:14-17, 1 Cor 5:9-11, Romans 16:17, I Tim 6:5, II Tim 3:5. I hope this was helpful.
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@cook4t7 (202)
• United States
4 Jun 07
Very helpful thank you for your response and scripture references Shalom
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@kimfitts (66)
• United States
4 Jun 07
No...A Christian should not marry an non-believer. The Bible is clear to say that we should separate from those who do not believe. See the following scriptures: II Thess 3:6, Eph 5:11, II Cor 6:14-17, 1 Cor 5:9-11, Romans 16:17, I Tim 6:5, II Tim 3:5. I hope this was helpful.
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@cook4t7 (202)
• United States
4 Jun 07
I believe this was answered with a good foundation to back it up thank you for your response.
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@magikrose (5424)
• United States
4 Jun 07
Honestly I dont hink you shold marry some just because they are the same religin as you. My husband and I are of 2 diffrent religins and we totally respect eachothers beliefs. We celebrate all holidays associated with both religins. Our children are learning both religins so that when they get older they can make an educated decision on which path is right for them.
@cook4t7 (202)
• United States
4 Jun 07
I understand and appreciate your response but the question was for a believer and a non believer which would bring up a different type of situation. I would like to hear your scenario to this.
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@cook4t7 (202)
• United States
5 Jun 07
And still the question is not about different religions it's about a believer and a non believer.
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@cook4t7 (202)
• United States
6 Jun 07
But if they both have religions and neither one is a nonbeliever the question is avoided, and it's a lot different to live with a person that already believes which don't nearly bring up the problems as some one that don't believe at all, and this is the situation I was addressing, do you see the picture for the different answers I was aiming to achieve. Thank you
@Savvynlady (3686)
• United States
5 Jun 07
I was taught that No you shouldn't. If you are a believer and you marry a non believer, then they will try to influence you into doing things their way or vice versa; I feel marriages should be little heavens on earth if you will and if you can't get that at your house with this one doing this or that, you won't have it.So no, darkness and light so to speak shouldn't join together. I was married to a man of another religion; I started deciding to pay tithes and this man argued me down as to why I should give the Lord 10% when my kids needed this or that? I tried to explain but it really hurt me. Needless to say, he is gone and I still tithe.
@cook4t7 (202)
• United States
5 Jun 07
I agree and it seems like the toll of heart aches just in this discussion proves out the facts. I believe if we stand with our truth in love when we have to move on the balm is there for our healing till are strength is back up, and stronger with a better understanding. thanks for your response and Shalom
@jen_jen (77)
• United States
5 Jun 07
The Bible speaks strongly against this, the one that particularly comes to mind is that 'a believer should not be unequally yoked'. Sorry I don't have the b/ch/v memorized. From my own experience, it did not end well. I was married when I was 19 to a person who was not a believer and at the time i thought it didn't matter. I was okay with him not going to church, etc but I wasn't being very faithful in my walk at the time. I thought, I'll change him. What happened was that his influence was a lot stronger on me. Then, I came to a point where I decided that I had abandoned God which sent me on a quest to regain the closeness I had in my youth. It did not bode well with my husband who started accusing me of spending more time at church than I did with him. I read a book called "Surviving a Spiritual Mismatch" which focuses somewhat on this subject. I tried some of the suggestions but nothing helped. He eventually started seeing another woman that he worked with and I filed for divorce. Now, God has blessed me with a wonderful Christian husband who is more than I could have ever asked for. I strongly believe however that all the trouble I had in my first marriage was for a reason, it makes me appreciate my second one so much more than I would have when I was younger. Even though it's hard, I still pray for my ex, that someday he will see that God loves him and wants to spend eternity with him. There are also verses in the Bible that pertain to someone who is already in a marriage when they become a believer. I think it states that a 'believing spouse sanctifies the non-believing spouse' and that they should stay with their spouse as long as the non-believing spouse wants to stay with them (paraphrased). I would direct you to 1 Corinthians as there are several sections about marriage there.
@cook4t7 (202)
• United States
5 Jun 07
I believe your not alone in the way this judgement comes back on us as I can attest to also. I expect they are some that workout not so bad, but its according to the heart of the unbelieving spouse, your right about the scripture speaking of our spouse being sanctified through us if he is agreeable or our children would be unclean. How easy it would be for us to have the insight to do the latter first maybe someone will hear, beware, and be spared a few heart aches Huh! thank you for your response and Shalom
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• United States
4 Jun 07
for the christian this is definatly forbiden for it is written 2 Corinthians 6:14. Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 15. What harmony is there between Christ and Belial ? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? 16. What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: "I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people." 17. "Therefore come out from them and be separate, says the Lord.
@cook4t7 (202)
• United States
5 Jun 07
You sure aren't going to get an argument of me, your scriptural foundation on the subject is just too firm LOL thanks for your response Shalom
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@archer1811 (1099)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
Sometimes God makes way to meet different people with different faith in order for them to teach and learn from one another. so if a believer marrys a non believer that believer will do all her/his effort to help the non believer bring in God into her/his heart.
@cook4t7 (202)
• United States
4 Jun 07
I'm sorry to have to disagree with you but it would be hard for me to think that our Heavenly father would think less than our earthly father and tie us into a tempting situation.
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• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
4 Jun 07
Of course i would. When you get married you marry a person, not a certain creed. Obviously though, you have to be compatible with that person religiouswise, meaning that even if she belongs to a different religion, or professes none at all, her or his beliefs have to be compatible with yours. As long as there is mutual respect i don't see why you wouldn't marry someone who doesn't have the same religious principles than you.
@cook4t7 (202)
• United States
4 Jun 07
Since this was solely based on a non believer with a believer some of your answer I don't quite understand.
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@anvivi (42)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
Yes that's a good way to lead them to Christ and tell them the good news.
@cook4t7 (202)
• United States
4 Jun 07
What if they are so strong in their unbelief they lead you away from him?