When someone has done you wrong....do you get even or leave everything to karma?

@daryljane (3439)
Philippines
June 4, 2007 10:12am CST
we thought shes a friend,but me and my mom found out that she is back biting us, to the point of making up stories to ruin us from our other friend who's based in the US. If you are in our position, will you get even and make some confrontations with her for doing what she's doing or will you leave everything to karma... what happened actually, our friend in california arrived last thursday and the way she treats us is a little different. but since she is grieving right now for the death of a sister, me and my mom tend to make a distance and let the grieving past for a while before we make a discussions..but then i thought, i guess its best to let it pass and maybe someday truth will come out... will you let it pass? do you think what were doing for making a distance about it now is the right thing to do? or you make confrontation and talk it out? or believe that "what goes around, really comes around?" please share your thoughts...enlighten me what i need to do?
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@tredale (1313)
• Australia
4 Jun 07
I believe strongly in karma but in saying that there has been times when I have confronted the person involved. They both can work and both backfire. I think if it will make her stop then say something, if it would continue regardless then I would let karma do her thing. You friends will soon find out whats going on, be careful not to put her down to much to these friends because you could find yourself on the back foot. Good luck
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
yeah! thats what im thinking, ive done some confrontation before too and it did back fire and i dont want the friendship to end that way..i mean, its not that the friendship still matters, i just want to keep the frienship that me and my mom had with our other friend from california. well, i know someday the truth will come out.
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@tredale (1313)
• Australia
22 Jun 07
Thankyou for best response, I hope this all works out for you as Im sure it will.:)
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@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
yeah..me too...unfortunately, we stopped emailing and i dont know when we will be seeing each other again..considering the space we have between us..
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@fly_shay (333)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
In that situation, if i were in your place, i'll observe first as to what caused her being indifferent.after some time, i think it is best to discuss it out with the concern person.If that's not possible, then it will be okay also if you will just leave it and continue your life.anyway, time will come that she'll realize what she's doing.
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
i agree too! i know the real reason why she's indiferrent...and i just dont understand her being one sided....
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
4 Jun 07
I am a believer in Karma. What goes around comes around. I would let it go and just be a friend. People get what is coming to them in the end and miserable people will always be sad.
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@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
4 Jun 07
yeah! thats what i keep telling myself...someday, it will really come around...im also telling my mom about it too..i guess ill have to let it go! thanks for that!
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@diannebcrs (1549)
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
hi. i happened to have a friend who did some back biting thing to me.. she had problems on her own at that time so i just let it pass for a while.. until she's settled, i confronted her about it. i didn't contradict her right away - i just asked her why she did all that to me.. then i asked her whether i had done something bad to her to make her back bite me.. then i found out that i did, unintentionally.. and she got hurt.. perhaps, you should ask your friend why she did all that.. there must be a possible reason.. although if there's a reason, back biting shouldn't be done.. confrontations are always the key to honest and healthy relationships.. i guess.. :)
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
15 Jul 07
yeah..but i dont think this is the right time to talk to her...time will tell...
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• Philippines
16 Jul 07
well, you do not have to be in a hurry. it takes time. good luck, my friend! :) don't lose hope.
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
20 Jul 07
yeah...im still clinging to that hope right now..
@rangics (1335)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
Leave everything to KARMA. Though it hurts and I really wanted to get even right then and there, Gosh I just have to control myself with this. I do believe in karma honestly. It may take time but i know, the karma a person will experience will for sure be a big thing to them! ;) It sure will the bulls eye! ;)
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
22 Jun 07
yeah..but its not that i wanted something bad to really happen to them..its just that, i know one day the truth will come out and everything will be all right...thank rangics! :)