Why do females only seem to want a guy after he gets into a relationship?

United States
June 4, 2007 1:17pm CST
I've noticed a lot more female attention of late, some simply friendly (seeming) others a lot more blatant ever since I started seeing my girl. Many times I was readily ignored before hand but now i'm suddenly mister popular. I'm aware of the 'he's such a good man syndrome' wherein they see a guy truly love his woman and they wish they had someone like that, and then decide to become 'friends' with the guy and ever so slowly try to drive a wedge between him and his lady love. They hope by doing so even subconsciously that the love he feels will transfer to them. what do you think?
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
5 Jun 07
Maybe you are right or maybe you have misinterprete the whole thing. I do think that there are girls who try to be the "other woman". But if the man is truly and madly in love with his girl, nothing can go in between them.
• United States
5 Jun 07
You are most definitely correct ellie. Maybe i'm reading too much into things. For all I know i get more female attention solely because they feel safe around me since i'm too in love to hit on them.
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• United States
6 Jun 07
It is the classic I'll have what she is having syndrome. Now that you are with a woman, other women think that you are worth having.And it can be the challenge to some.The "let me see if I can win him over" game.And once they get you , they will want someone else. So beware of the sharks out there. I hope things work out with your girlfriend.
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• United States
6 Jun 07
Very true sarahruthbeth22. Women do seem to want the challenge of getting a man from another female. That's why you jave to stick with your love muffin right?
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• United States
6 Jun 07
Exactly. But hold on too tightly.
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• United States
6 Jun 07
definitely there is an art to holding on tightly, without being too tight.
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• United States
6 Jun 07
we (women) like to do competition...like man...we want to fight for and get him...ha, ha no, we like to tease with man, but we want single man for sure.:-)
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• United States
6 Jun 07
For sure. :) Thanks for the response annasmith. You single critters do seem to enjoy teasing
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• United States
7 Jun 07
Well sweetie, you are such a good man. It's because they thrive on attention and when suddenly it's gone,it's a complete and total ego assault. then naturally it's a game to see if they can catch your interest again. Once they have your attention again you will no longer be of any interest, they have won. Hugs and kisses baby, i love you so much....
• United States
7 Jun 07
I love you aly bear. I'm so glad my diabolical plan worked muhuhauhhahahaha! Seriously. though. you are the snuggley sprinkles in the sundae of my love. ^.^ yay.
• United States
8 Jun 07
lol. perhaps. but only if my aly bear comes with me.
@elisa812 (3033)
• United States
10 Jun 07
Haha I guess maybe for some people it's that thing of knowing you can't have something, and it makes you want it even more. I can't really say I'm the same way, cause I actually seem to be the opposite. Of course now I'm married lol, but before I met my husband, if I was interested in a guy and then found out he was taken, it was sort of a let down and it kinda just turned me off to him then.
• United States
10 Jun 07
I know what you mean. I'm the same way. Back long ago before I found my aly bear, if I ran across a girl I was interested in and she had even dated someone a couple times recently I tended to back off unless she specifically made it clear she was interested. I don't like messing with other people's relationships.
@golfproo (1841)
• Canada
9 Jun 07
I think it always comes back down to the old adage "you always want what you cannot have." I am sort of the opposite however, I have found since I have become single again I have a lot of attention coming my way. It does not interest me right now however as I am concentrating on my daughters first and foremost. cheers,
• United States
9 Jun 07
Does all this female talent being attracted to you know about your single father status? If they do it explains all the interest. Babies are like anti-man repellent, but fro what i've seen females are the exact opposite, they see a man taking care of children on his own and being a good daddy, and they get all.. 'mommy I WANT him.'