should i leave or stay

@megaplaza (1438)
Nigeria
June 4, 2007 5:09pm CST
i had a girl that i have dated for only 3 months and she told me some few days ago that her ex-boyfriend came back and asked her for acceptance and a continuation of their friendship. she told me that she cant say no to the guy and at the same time cant ask me to leave. she said she will date the two of us. i told her that voluntarily i will leave, she asked me not to leave and that i shouldnt date another girl. she said she wants the other guy becos she has some thiongs to settle with the guy. i asked her to leave and she started crying. should i leave or stay.
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4 responses
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
4 Jun 07
She sounds like she is undecided. I would say if she doesn't know in her heart that you are the one maybe leaving would give her the opportunity to make up her mind. And asking you to not date anyone else is self centered of her. She might want to keep you hanging in case things fall apart with the ex. Do you want to just hang around and be second place?
@megaplaza (1438)
• Nigeria
4 Jun 07
the point is that i dont want to, she cries when i say i will leave. she said the tuth of the matter is that she dont want me to leave.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
4 Jun 07
Then she should tell the other guy to get lost. If she has unfinished things with him a simple phone call should suffice. She should cut the ties with him if she really wants you to stay.
@megaplaza (1438)
• Nigeria
5 Jun 07
i just wish and hope she will, she might just want to have fun
• United States
4 Jun 07
This sounds like too much drama for you to be around.If I were you,I would leave.Especially if you are not in love with her. she has to really be over her ex to really be with you.If you think she is the one for you and you are willing to wait, tell her that you want to give her some time to figure out whom she wants to be with. But you can't be this close.Give her a time frame, like a month to make up her mind and if she wants you and not her ex, you will come back to her. Good Luck. Take care.
@megaplaza (1438)
• Nigeria
5 Jun 07
nice idea,i do it that way
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• United States
6 Jun 07
I hope it works out.
@Madona1 (2099)
• Gibraltar
5 Jun 07
This is a very difficult situation. But you still need to sort this things out. If I were you, I would suggest her that I would leave without dating another girl. Meanwhile, her ex should not move in with her either though she hasn't said NO to him. Then I would give her one cool-off week to decide whom she wants to stay with. How do you think?
@megaplaza (1438)
• Nigeria
8 Jun 07
thanks for your comment, she said she has asked the other guy toi go. but i still find it hard to believe that. she said that she wont talk anything or discuss anything about the guy with me again. that the guy's chapter is now closed in her life, but i know people can be funny and cunning atimes.
@thefuture (1750)
• Nigeria
5 Jun 07
Don't leave friend. Try to find out if she's fooling you or not. You see friend, if you leave, it will hurt her feelings. She loves you, that's what I think. That's why she doesn't want you to leave. Try to study her feelings for you. Thanks
@megaplaza (1438)
• Nigeria
8 Jun 07
nice idea, i understand, maybe something is making her to find it hard to let go of the other guy. And at the same time she dont want to lose me because of that guy. hey guys guess what she called me yesterday and said she has asked the other guy to go and leave her alone. should i believe that.