Is it rite to trust the person who ditched us once .

@sajila (50)
India
June 5, 2007 7:52am CST
After 3 years of relationship n long lasting love , last nite i read a sms in my B/f cellphone in which he was proposing a girl... v had a huge fight and after that he cried for the whole day... he said that he was guilty of wat he did and will never do it again... he also started kissing me in front of that girl in order to prove that he really loves me n will never ever think of doing that again ..... so shalli trust him again... n rember i can nvr think of marrying any one else accept him so tel me shall i live alone or start trusting him.
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16 responses
• Pakistan
5 Jun 07
As far as i am concerned i will not meet my cheating girl friend and the reason is that in relationship the most effective thing and everlasting this is trust and if any on parties broke other parties trust its mean he/she not loyal to you so the best thing is to say bye to his/her and not to look back because without trust you can't continue your relations and thats all trust always make relation more durable and everlasting.
@maryannemax (12173)
• Sweden
5 Jun 07
you have a point there billabadmash. once trust is broken, it's difficult to put it back in a relationship. it's hard to trust a person again if once he had already proven that he isn't worth of the trust you are giving him.
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@Thelaw (49)
• United States
6 Jun 07
No I don't think I would trust him. You know the old saying First Time Same on You Second time Shame on me. I think that is what applies here. But then that is just me. You are the only one that really knows this person.
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• United States
5 Jun 07
Okay, wait. So he asked another girl to marry him, is that what happened? How did this happen without you having any knowledge of it? He must be pretty sneaky I guess. I think that this situation is really screwed up. I don't think him kissing me in front of this girl he proposed to could make me feel better about what he did. It all depends on how much you love him. The question isn't should you start trusting him, the question is, is he trustworthy? Because if he isn't, which he has proven, then he doesn't deserve your trust. Maybe he does mean what he says, but remember, it happened once and it can happen again. Just be very careful. Don't stay with him just because you don't think you can find better, there are always other men out there.
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• Switzerland
5 Jun 07
I assume that you love him a lot. Also, if he does love you a lot, then, you should forgive him. You do not gain anything by moving out. It will just give the other girl a better chance to get closer to him. Try to talk to him and give him one more chance. Also, if he fails again, then, make yourself stronger and move out. You should be strong in love to face the problems, but, not weak to suffer in silence.
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@maryannemax (12173)
• Sweden
5 Jun 07
it's all up to you sajila if you will still trust him. only you can decide for youself. your heart knows what is best for you... so, listen to it and think well. i had been dumped before by an ex boyfriend. i later knew that he dumped me because he was having a relationship with an ex girlfriend of one of our common friends. well, i accepted the fact that he's out of my life and i moved on. after a year, he came back to me trying to win my love back. after some time, i trusted him again and hoped that he will be worth of my trust. but he proved me wrong. after some months, he went back to his cheating attitude and had some other relationships behind my back. it hurt a lot since he did it to me many times. and so, it's hard to trust a man who once dumped me. as for you, think about the whole situation and decide later. i am sure you know what you really want to do with the situation.
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@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
well, if you really love him that much...then you'll find it in your heart to give him a chance. I know its gonna be hard to give your whole trust again...and its just normal. Take your time. If he really loves you then he'll wait. I'm gonna tell you what my mom told me earlier on...she said that...I shouldn't really conclude that my boyfriend now is the one that I'll be marrying..because, no one really knows what will happen in the future, right? And it will hurt so much...if things don't work out like we expect it to be.
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@avea3399 (59)
• United States
5 Jun 07
You should trust him. He kissed you infront of the girl that he proposed for and i dont think any girl can stand up for that.
• United States
5 Jun 07
I would not trust him, and neither should she!
@neo1985 (11)
• India
6 Jun 07
think about some facts that do he really love u ? was it a mistake or he is doing intentionally if its a mistake or something happend unknowlingly then only u can trust him or else u know what to do. again in this case give some time for ur relationship again to attend level for comfortness in ur relation but this time have a look on him i am not saying to keep constant watch but give some attention over the fact what happend but according to me it might happend my mistake you can forgive him forget what happend and start ur relationship again with new colours n new passion
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
I can relate to you 100% girl! after 5 years of relationship with my boyfriend I found out that he's cheating on me and I was so shocked because i never thought that he could do that to me, i'm so angry and he also did cry and ask for forgiveness and everything, but I asked him to stay away for a while because I really can't take it so we did part until we could recover and ready to patch things up, it also gave us the opportunity to think and reflect on ourselves as well. now were together again after months of being separated and happier than ever. Now i could really feel his love care and concern and I feel that I love him more now than before and we're loving each other more and more each day. godbless girl, I know you'll make it.
• Nigeria
6 Jun 07
well when you said proposing i was a little bit confused about what it means to you. For me it means asking a girls' hand in marriage and not the normal asking a girl out for a relationship. Either way i don't think your boyfriends been faithful to you. Assuming you had not stumbled across the text what would have happened? I also find it belated that you said you can't marry anyone else except him cause i think you should not look down on yourself. I trust that there are better people out there who would cherish you more than he does. You had better sit down and think it over, if he's worth staying with or if he has the tendency to do it again. The answer lies in your heart
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
it would really be difficult to trust someone who has cheated on you once... though everybody deserves a second chance, you'll have to be very careful in trusting that person again. if you truly love him and believe that he won't do it again, then forgive him for what he has done and move on together. however, if you think that he is not sincere, then you have to start moving on, on your own.. whatever your decision will be, i wish you luck and happiness! ^^,)
• Pakistan
6 Jun 07
Trust is the main foundation in a relationship and once broken it takes a long time to build that trust and it is not the same as for the first time as the foundation will still have scars on it. Now if this is the first time your BF has cheated on you and if he does sincerely regret it then by all means go ahead, sometimes even the very best among us make mistakes but we have to learn to forgive them. Your BF did the right thing by kissing you in front of the other girl and I am sure that she would get a hint as well. So if this is the first time that he has strayed then do forgive him for that but if this has happened more than once in the past then I think it is better if you think about moving on.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
6 Jun 07
its a sensitive matter i think. First you need to think urself what you feel right.I myself believe if he had done this, there can be any reason. either he is not liking you that much nowadys or he is much more attracted by that girl. Look into the exact reason and then take decision.
• United States
6 Jun 07
If this is the first time he has cheated, and he is willing to get some help, like counciling, then I would give him a second chance. But if this just the first time he got caught, then it is time to break up.
@larenjan (18)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
If you were to ask me, i dont want to waste my time on a cheater like him..i mean C'mon! there are lot of faithful boys out there (that includes me!). come to thinks of this, what if yo havent read the sms? i sure he will pursue his lust...Wake up girl!
@golfproo (1841)
• Canada
5 Jun 07
I think it all really depends upon his track record. If this is something which has been done before...and is a pattern then it may not be something you want to pursue. However, if it was a onetime mistake you may want to give him another chance. Follow your hear on this one. What does your heart tell you? cheers,