For those that think Stay at home moms are lazy I have come up with a list

@Erilyn (3020)
United States
June 5, 2007 8:07am CST
of jobs that SAHM's do every day. In no way is this a comprehansive list, as every day new challanges come up. But I think it is a good example of what we do on a daily basis. And SAHM's if I have left anything out please feel free to add anything I have forgotten. I have tried to remember everything, sometimes things slip through the cracks lol. Alarm clock- Who else will make sure everyone gets up on time? Butler- We have to make sure everyone is dressed apporpriatly. We have to stay on top of these things, after all we don't want one of the kids thinking that today she will wear her tutu and pj pants to school cause it is a cute new fashion statement. Seamstress- Enevtiably one of the kids will tear off a button to one of their favorite shirts, and Lord knows how quickly that can ruin a day. Hunter- Do you know how hard it can be to find a matching sock when they "suspers" or when the dryer monster ate it? Not to mention the under the bed monsters that come out only at night and only mom the monster hunter can get rid of it. Fry cook- In the morning you have to be quick to get breakfast out to the table, other wise they will prolly eat the table. It's a lot cheaper and easier on the funiture just to get breakfast out quick. Refferree- If you have more than one child, you know the she's looking at me fight. It's got to be one of the most fusterating fights, becasue noone ever really wins this one. Judge, jury, Proscuting attorney- these you have to kinda lump together. After all when you have 3 kids and someone knocks over the lamp, it up to you to decide whos guilty, present your case and charge them with their sentance. Crime scene Investigator- See above. It goes right along with that, after all you are the one that has to look at the evidance, take fingerprints, pictures etc. Detective- The kids are going to lie at some point. To get to the bottom of it you have to be able to sniff out the truth. Talk to witnesses, examine evidance, and track down the perpitrator. It most cases it turns out to be one of the kids gave the dog the other kids shoe for a chew toy. Deli- Everyone has to eat lunch. So you take orders, get everything assembled and put in lunch boxes. Then you give them the lunch boxes only to watch for 5 mins while they trade stuff becasue his sisters sandwich looks better than his. Chauffer- Finally you get everyone in the car, and get them off to school. kisses and hugs all around, then the real job begins. Dietian- Going into the grocery store, and deciding whats best to feed the family, keeping in mind everyones likes/dislikes, dietary requirements, dietary ristrictions, so you can make one meal at the end of the day that everyone will enjoy, plus keeping to a budget, thats a job in and of itself. Maid- The bulk of any SAHM's job. Cleaning the house completely, even knowing that as soon as the kids walk in you have to do it all over again. Scrubbing bathtubs, toilets, sinks, mopping floors, doing laundry, etc. Business owner- A lot of SAHM's also work from home. So in between loads of laundry and waiting for the floor to dry we also have the work obgliations as well. Can't call in sick, can't get someone else to do the work, it's all on you. Porter/Bellhop- you know after picking up the kids from school someone has to get the backpacks and stuff out of the car. And of course Mom is the one that is ultimatly responsible for it. Tutor- Homework time is always fun, answering 3 different questions about 3 different subjects and grade levels, at the same time. It's enough some days top drive anyone to drink lol. Events coordinator- After homework time every one whats to go to 3 different places with 3 different people. Only a mom can keep the matrix of times, schedules, what the kids will be doing all straight, It's a complex formula. Unless you are a mom you will get lost. Don't try this at home. Chef- Dinner has to be cooked by someone, and it has to be out on time. Moms have the uncanny ability to time stuff in their head, they know exactly when to start dinner so it is always ready on time. Doctor- someone is going scrap their knee, cut themselves trying to sword fight with a stick, or hit their head thinking they are superman and can fly. When gravity takes over, and blood starts to flow, Moms are there to triage. Kid wrangler- I have no better name for this one. Making sure hands are washed and kids get to the table not looking like a train wreck is moms job. Zoo Keeper- Ever tried to coordinate 3 kids bath times? It is a zoo trying to get baths done, pj's on, wet towels picked up, and clothes to the laundry hamper. Story teller- Moms hop from room to room telling stories and getting everyone in bed. Accountant- The buck stops here, litterally. We budget the money, get bills paid, divy out allowence money, and save for that trip that we know that we can't take till the kids move out. In addition to all of these things we are also a wife, a theripst, party planner, tooth fairy, and santa clause. We do all of these things without getting paid for them, and we do it gladly. One day a year we are shown apperication for everything that we do.
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22 responses
• United States
5 Jun 07
I know it was a hard jump for me. I feel like I run all day long like a chicken with its head cut off. Somedays I wake up not sure if I can get it all done but I know it must. I have never worked this hard at a job or dealt with this kind of stress. Thank you for listing it out so others might give our jobs a second thought.
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
5 Jun 07
I made the list not so much as giving people second thoughts, but to give the ones that think we don't do a whole lot an idea of what we do with our days. I have had people look down on me for being a sahm, when asked what I do and I say I am a sahm, I get the response it must be nice to do nothing all day.
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• Switzerland
5 Jun 07
Hey, that was really a nice post. Just sums up the multiple roles played by mothers and their importance. Maybe, even a book on it will be less to describe all that they do for their kids.
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
5 Jun 07
Thank you. I tried to capture the bulk of a moms day. one day I might expand it to include everything a mother does in a day.
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@kumbarn14 (711)
• Pakistan
5 Jun 07
If, stay at home moms are lazy the whole house will be in disaster, no clean home, no water in the fridge to drink, no cook food for every other thing in the house will be - no - no - no - and as the house is upside down. This stay at home moms would like to runaway from home sometimes.
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
5 Jun 07
Oh I know, in a day everything would fall apart. Thats the main reason I created this discussion. Too often anymore people think stay at homes moms don't do anything but sit around and do nothing all day.
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@lillake (1634)
• United States
5 Jun 07
In some cases we're not just the tutor we're also the teacher. LOL Great list. Being a SAHM means you have to be a jack-of-all-trades and be able to do everything. And you don't get days off, lunch breaks, or vacation time. Heck, I can't even go pee alone! LOL Here's a day in the life of a stay at home mom. http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/128217/a_day_in_the_life_of_a_stay_at_home.html
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
5 Jun 07
Thank you, and I know the feeling not being able to even go into the bathroom without being followed. I don't take showers longer then a few mins and get everything done I need to get done lol. My 14 year old can't understand how i can get in the shower, wash my hair shave and everything in under 10 mins. I told her it is something you learn to do lol.
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@speedy1279 (2667)
• United States
5 Jun 07
I am a sahm and you have hit the nail on the head with this discussion. I am actually going to print this one out and hang it on the wall. My husband sometimes forgets how hard and how much I do around the house. This would be a good reminder to him and the kids. I don't feel that us moms get enough appreciation for all that we do. I wish I could say that you missed a duty, but I can't think of anything you may have missed. You did an awesome job detailing a sahm's job.
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
5 Jun 07
Thank you! I did miss photographer now that I think about it. There are little odds and ends i don't think i included but all and all I think I got the bulk of it. And maybe printing it out will help :). Maybe when they see it they will realize just how much we do everyday :).
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• United States
6 Jun 07
I respect all you stay at home Moms out there, at onetime I was a stay at home dad, and not only was it tough job, it was really hard for me to gain the respect from other males because of the reversal of roles, and double standards, so I may think its even harder for stay at home Dads. unfortunatly I can no longer be a sahdad because i have seperated from my wife and have custody of my kids, so I had to re-enter the workforce, so now Im just a Single Dad, but alot of the times I really miss being at home with the kids... It was a hard job, but I enjoyed every moment that I spent with them caretaking for them...
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
6 Jun 07
I completely respect the fact that you are a single father. I did do a post wishing single dads a happy mothers day, simply because you are both mother and father to your kids every day. So even though it is late let me go ahead and wish you a happy mothers day, and an early Happy Father's day! I have known some SAHD's and it seemed that they got more respect then SAHM's do, thank you for setting that straight.
• United States
8 Jun 07
Thank you very much!!!
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
8 Jun 07
You are very welcome. I was a single parent of 3 for 4 years I know how hard it is. And now thanks to my wonderful fiance I am a stay at home mom.
@emeraldisle (13145)
• United States
5 Jun 07
That was great and very true too. You forgot a couple of things though: Nurse/Physician's assistant: SAHM's have to bandage all those small wounds, kiss them better, treat the colds and determine if they need to go see the doctor if need be. Repairman: When the toilet or sink gets stopped up, the washer jams or the toy gets broken it's mom there to fix them all. And last but not least the Biologist, the person who makes sure all the pets are fed, waters, walked or what have you. Stay at Home Moms could also be called Jills of All Trades. :)
@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
6 Jun 07
I didn't put nurse in there cause I added Doctor, I absolutly did forget the other 2 though thank you for reminding me Emeraldisle! Instead of biologist for the pets, I would prolly use zoologist, and biologist for trying to figure out what the runny stuff is all over the kids hands. LOL
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@emeraldisle (13145)
• United States
6 Jun 07
Oops sorry. I somehow missed the doctor in there. Not sure how but I did. You are right it should be zoologist not to mention shelter worker at times as kids have ones that "follow" them home and you then have to find homes for them or the original owners.
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
7 Jun 07
I forgot about that one lol. My kids have gotten pretty good about not bringing home strays. My oldest used to do it all the time until she was 7. She had brought a kitten home that was too young to leave its momma yet. The momma had been hit by a car and the kitten was on the side of the road crying. She brought it home, we tried to care for it, but I guess it was tramatized by losing its mother. The kitten wouldn't eat or anything. We took it to the vet and the vet said there was nothing we could do for the kitten. We had to take her to the shelter. since then she hadn't brought home another stray. My other 2 kids never did bring home strays for some reason.
• India
10 Jun 07
Hi Erilyn! You have thought about it all. I do not agree with those who says that a housewife has no work. The job of a housewife is equally challenging.
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
11 Jun 07
Thank you Lovelydame. That it is, unfortuantly a lot of people don't see it that way. Maybe someday people will see it differently.
@hotbiatch (276)
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
This is very funny but so true at the same time! LOL we sometimes forget how hard SAHM can be but it is also the most rewarding job especially when those little hands of our children grasp our both sides and gives us a big big hug!
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
11 Jun 07
True true. Right now I am going through the terrible teens with my oldest so most of the time I am the enemy. But I still remember the days when she was sweet. lol
@jeanbug23 (567)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
Congrats for having job done! I'm also a SAHM right now, but before I work full-time for 15 years in a big company. Comparing myself when I was still a working woman to what I am now, the most difficult task I ever done in my whole life is just a plain, STAY-AT-HOME mom. Nothing can compare to this kind of career, no duties undone, no day-offs, no leaves. And most of all, no pay! Can I post this in my blog at friendster or myspace. I'll see to it that it came from you..MYLOT member! Thanks for all! God bless..
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
6 Jun 07
Thank you! And you can most certiantly post it! When i decided to become a SAHM again, my fiance and I sat down and looked at everything and decided that the best thing for the kids, and running the house and everything was for me to be a SAHM. When I was with my ex husband, I didn't want to be a SAHM, it drove me nuts, but I think that's because I couldn't trust him to support the family. My fiance has my full trust, and that makes a HUGE difference.
@dentidle (293)
• Switzerland
6 Jun 07
Even my employed near and dears ask me this..."What you do all day long". How could they ask this. I feel that it wud be better if i get atleast 12 more hours and a spare pair of hands to do things undone. 1. I get up early in the morning and prepare breakfast and send my husband off to work. 2. Wake my son up, guide him to finsish off his usual morning chores, prepare a seperate breakfast for him...as he dislikes to have usual things. 3. Making him eat... that is another big task..as he is a fussy eater, no matter how hard i try to make the food different or interesting each time. 4. Next comes the homeschooling. This the worst part. Making hime write and read is my nightmare. 5. Then comes the lunch time, another innovative cuisine to make him eat. cooking. 6. Making him eat. 7. Putting him to bed for a nap. another difficult task. 8. Spend little time on the internet when my kid sleeps...This is the only spare time that i get. 9. Making the house tidy and a quick shower. 10. By the time my kid gets up, My husband is back home. 11. Tea and snack time. 12. They both go out to have a lit bit of funtime in the park outside, while i start my cooking(dinner) 13. They are back, dinner is not yet ready, such a complicated cooking ( i hail form such a country) takes almost 2and 1/2 hours. 14. Have dinner and shud literally feed my kid as he is very playful when his dad is around. 15. kitchen clean up 16. Back to bed. putting my kid to sleep, needless is to say is another task. This may not sound that difficult, i know, mainly for parents who have more than two kids. But to my capability, this is more than what i can take.
@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
6 Jun 07
No matter how many kids you have it is still a daunting task. I have 3 kids, and I know it wasn't easy with just one. There never seems to be enough time in a day to get everything done that needs to be done. and an extra set of hands would be nice!
@tredale (1313)
• Australia
6 Jun 07
Oh well done someone that has finally drawn the line in the sand. I am going to show my husband, children anyone who will read this.lol After reading this even I think Im amazing hats off to all us stay at home mums we deserve pay increases and six weeks holidays every year. Its 24/7 and no overtime pay no normal human being would do this if it was in a job discription. Maybe anyone planning on starting a family should read this first it may change some minds.
@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
6 Jun 07
It just might! If i had put in here everything that we do every day all of the little things, the post itself would be 3 pages lol. A pay raise and a vacation sound like a really great idea!! Who do we talk to about that? lol. ANd you are right if it were a "normal" job noone would ever apply for it!
@AmbiePam (50081)
• United States
6 Jun 07
Whoever thinks stay at home mom are lazy are sadly pathetic and misinformed. Ignorance is not bliss.
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
6 Jun 07
Oh I know which is what prompted me to make this list. A lot of people don't realize what it takes to take care of a family, and they think there is nothing to it. What's kinda funny is that when I was with my ex husband I couldn't stand being a SAHM It drove me up the wall. Now though I wouldn't trade it for the world!
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@buenavida (8194)
• Sweden
6 Jun 07
Quite an impressing list. Above all you need to be a nurse when your kids(or husband!)are lying sick in bed - no matter if you have influenza or headace yourself. If you want to lie sick in bed, you almost have to have your head under your arm as we say in my country. Some housewives start working to have some place where they can rest..:o)--he--he--
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
6 Jun 07
hehehehhe I did go back to work for 2 weeks for that very reason! lol But Alsas the house fell apart so I decided the best thing to do for the family was to come back home! lol.
@ShawnDay (227)
5 Jun 07
You left "the oldest profession" off the list. ;)
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
6 Jun 07
I put wife on the bottom of that list, that encompasses the "oldest profession" I stuck to mostly what we do during the bulk of the day, which is taking care of the house and kids! lol Thank you for that suggestion though.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
5 Jun 07
ROFLMFAO omg that was WONDERFUL!! LOL I'm so glad you posted that and I will print it off and hang it on the wall as a reminder to my kids and pretty much anyone who enters here that I bust my a$$ all day every day (no weekends off OR holidays)
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
5 Jun 07
I am glad you enjoyed it Ravenladyj. Maybe one of these days I will make it into a poster lol. I think it is something everyone can enjoy! :)
@jennawash (163)
• United States
5 Jun 07
WELL DONE....THAT'S ALL THAT CAN BE SAID. Don't you get tired of the question, "What did you do today?" And these are the things that pop into your head but you know that if you list them, the response will be, "So you didn't get a whole lot done?"
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
5 Jun 07
Thank you thank you. And i know the feeling giving a list of things I have gotten done, or a list of things I have planned for the day and it's ok so that's half a day. lol. Oh well at least we know what we go through even if noone else does.
@Michele21 (3094)
• United States
5 Jun 07
Thanks so much for your list of jobs! I am sure there are a few things that were forgotten but us mom's can't remember everything we do all day every day!! I don't know why but your list made me want to cry....silly mom hormones I guess!! I love being a SAHM and taking care of my kiddos...good job!! And good time management skilld finding the time to write so much =)
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
5 Jun 07
Thank you. Since it is summer vacation the kids were still in bed lol. I wanted to write it so I let them sleep in lol, sometimes you just gotta do things like that lol.It also gave me a chance to get laundry started and everything.
• United States
5 Jun 07
How True, How True!!!! We do ALOT for our family and dont expect anything in the end. Just knowing that my kids are healthy and happy is all that matters. As a SAHM the job never seems to get done. The dishes get done and then there dirty again, the laundry seems to dirty its self, The floor stays clean for 5.6 seconds, ect... But who else is going to do it if I dont?? No one. I wish I could hire a maid so I didnt have to clean up all the time. I swear I clean and then the little nomes come out and make it all a mess again!!! And yes we play all kinds of other rolls as well. I am always being referee. My kids like to hit or throw toys at eachother then blame it on the dog! LOL. Anyway it goes being a SAHM is a tough job but so rewarding in the end!!! I wouldnt change it if I had to!!
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
5 Jun 07
I don't think any of us SAHM's would trade our jobs for the world. I know those gnomes only all too well. It doesn't take but a moment for everything to go to the way it was before we cleaned it lol.
@magikrose (5423)
• United States
5 Jun 07
I wish I could get my husband to understand this. He seems to think that all I do is sit arround and do nothing all day even tho I constantly have the washer and dryer going and the dishes are always done.
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
5 Jun 07
You could always do what the first person who responded plans to do, print it out and put it on the wall! It's a thankless job that's for sure, but we still do it and we do it happily!