learning from my patients..

@maribea (2366)
Italy
June 6, 2007 7:02am CST
It is a fact that my patients can often teach me a lot and can do for me more than I can do for them..so yesterday I went and visited a patient: end-stage multiple sclerosis, she could move only her right arm and her head, she lives in her bed..when I first saw her, i felt so little and useful. I visited her and then, I spent all the time I had to stay there and speak with her..and I was left with such a richness and a gift! She is a writer, she is an artist, she uses the computer to communicate with a world she is not allowed to see anymore. People are surprised when they met her. They think she is a bit strange, maybe a little mad, maybe it is because of the disease..they cannot see her greatness because they are too little!!!! When I lfet, I was not feeling useless anymore. Even my own little life has a meaning if I can go on with my profession and do something for each patient..I was left with a great enthusiasm, new energy for keep on with my research and my study..she game me so much and I gave her only my time, my listening and my inner understanding..and all the professional care that I could...
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11 responses
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
7 Jun 07
good things happen to good ppl and i am glad that you have met someone great like her. it's amazing how ppl even with utter sickness can actually live life so gracefully and productively!! and look at me, healthy and with all parts fine, living a life of futility!! i have all my love and thoughtfulness for someone like her, who has been inspiring others. i really appreciate your thoughfulness aswell. its kind of mutual learning process. thanx for sharing. thanx for elevating us. God bless you two and all.
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@maribea (2366)
• Italy
7 Jun 07
it is incredible how much we can learn from others!!! suffering people can give us the best teaching in life because their lives itself are a teaching and a miracle of love and patience and understanding..I am happy to be so lucky to share my feelings with so lovely people like you and the others here..thanks your being...you!!
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@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
7 Jun 07
i am lucky, we are lucky, maribea. you are a beautiful doctor - all set to heal.. thanx dear.
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@Woodpigeon (3710)
• Ireland
6 Jun 07
What a wonderful doctor you must be! I don't suppose yo might want to move your practice to Ireland, do you? Not that I am a doctor, but I had a Grandpa Bill, who was in fact no way related to me. He and his wife were neighbours I foisted myself on when I was four years old, and they and my parents became friends. Eventually, they became like part of the family, and I spent a lot of time with them when I was young. Gradpa Bill had had a stoke and had his leg amputated at the knee. He had an artficial leg but for whatever reason wouldn't use it and it was the same with his chair, he very, very rarely went outside of the house and often stayed in his recliner. It didn't stop him from being a better grandfather than my able bodied grandfather. HIs mind was so alive, and he was full of stories (he told me the leg was bitten off by a lion). He had a huge impacts on how I view the world and I am so grateful to have known him.
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@maribea (2366)
• Italy
6 Jun 07
ilove my work very much..it is a part of me and I call myself blessed for entering the misteries of others' lives,,,there are so many patients I will never forget for what they left me,...maybe one day I will write a book about her..now they are in the book of my life and help me to find the will to go on with my beloved but difficult profession. by the way, I am in love with Ireland and I was deciding whether moving to Scotland or Ireland this summer..and I also applied to a position at teh University of Dublin...got no reply, but who knows?? he he
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• Ireland
6 Jun 07
Ireland is crying out for more medical staff. I would love to have you for a doctor if you turned up here. I wonder if the working conditions might be not so nice here though? The Health Care Crisis is constantly in the news.
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@Debs_place (10528)
• United States
6 Jun 07
I work with adults that are developmentally disabled, it is amazing how much I they have added to my life, a few are verbal and high functioning, but for the most part, they are non-verbal and are severely mentally disabled. But each of them has been able to add to my life, one man is non-verbal and needs assistance to do the simplest things, yet he is happy, no matter where he does or what he is doing. He has shown me that I can find happiness all of the time Another one, who is a bit more functioning is just amazing, this man loves to fold laundry and empty the dishwasher. He can set the table and make a nice salad. And he takes such great pride in doing these tasks. He has taught me to take pride in everything I do, no matter how simple or small. Another man, is not a happy man, but he does have a simple vocabulary and when he wants something, he will ask for it and ask for it. He has shown me that being persistent will help me get things done. My list of wonderful DD people that I know is much longer, but I think it shows that we can learn from anyone, no matter their capabilities or limitations.
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@maribea (2366)
• Italy
7 Jun 07
wonderfulr reading what you said..this is just the same point as mine...we can be changed by others when we let them touch our lives..
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• United States
6 Jun 07
It is amazing what you can learn when you just take the time to observe and listen to people. It takes a good person to be able to be around people that's body it failing them and still see the beauty of their mind. It must be a rich experience to learn about her and her life. Congratulations on having the gift of others and giving the gift of yourself.
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@maribea (2366)
• Italy
7 Jun 07
yes...sometimes we don't listen and don't take the trouble to look at others..so we undervaluate them..but the fact is that we don't see them!!!
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• United States
6 Jun 07
My dearest Maribea, you gave her as great a gift as she gave you; these unfortunate people who are confined to the bed or house because of their state of health are grateful that someone as sensible and educated as you spend time with them to speak but more importantly listen. Elder folks have so much to say, so much to pass on but often they don;t have anyone who will take the time and listen - so, yes, you did get enriched by her knowledge and grace but you too have contributed and made her day. Often, these type of people (which sadly are at every step if we take the time to notice) make you realize how lucky you are to simply be able to walk, talk and go about doing normal, trivial things that we take for granted everyday... Best wishes, Magdalena
@maribea (2366)
• Italy
6 Jun 07
I think that sick people can teach us the meaning and the importance of life..and I am happy to do something for them if I can..I am used to saying that there is always a therapy, even if it is only a smile or a caress
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@Lydia1901 (16354)
• United States
10 Jun 07
Yep, that is so true. You always learn alot from people that are around you. I think that is always a good think in my book.
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@maribea (2366)
• Italy
10 Jun 07
i call myself lucky to be with them and to have the opportunity to do something however small for people around me..and I keep in my heart all the things they are teaching me...
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@polachicago (19077)
• United States
6 Jun 07
This is the simple different between doctors in Europe and doctors in USA...in here you can see doctor for 5 seconds, because nurse is taking care for everything... I wish I will never be sick, but if I am, I am going to fly to Rome...and see the real doctor... You are the best my friend...
@maribea (2366)
• Italy
7 Jun 07
i prefer rather being your friend that your doctor but of course I am here for you if you ever need me
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@AmbiePam (47872)
• United States
6 Jun 07
Isn't it amazing that we start to help people, and they end up helping us? It truly is a blessed gift.
@maribea (2366)
• Italy
7 Jun 07
yes this is exactly the point!!! being helped when we were supposed to be there to help...wonderful sensation
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@navtech (1776)
• India
11 Jun 07
Hi, maribea, I am really glad to learn from your discussion you are a Doctor. I am really happy that one of mylot friends is a Doctor. What you have expressed in your discussion is something I feel happy to read. Great Doctor, keep it up. Thanks
@maribea (2366)
• Italy
12 Jun 07
thank you very much for your kind words
• United States
11 Jun 07
You embody the essence of the "caring profession" which is called "Doctor." Your "little life" has more meaning than you will ever know -- on this plane of existence, anyway. May you receive many more gifts like this!!!
@maribea (2366)
• Italy
12 Jun 07
oh thanks for your kind words..I hope your blessing comes true because these gifts make my profession special and add a special meaning to my life
• United States
10 Jun 07
So often people forget that even though a person's life is nearing its end, that it doesn't mean that they have little or nothing to offer. Giving our time to listen, talk, or just hold the hand of a person is worth its weight in gold.
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@maribea (2366)
• Italy
10 Jun 07
i completely agree with you my friend....there are moments that are worth a life!!!