if you can not get understanding from your boyfriend's family ,what will you do?
By Luckywuyan
@Luckywuyan (360)
China
June 6, 2007 8:18am CST
my best friend got an aborticide yesterday ,that was the third time for her to do it.she was so weak that she wanted to have a rest for a week ,but her bf's sister didn't agree,and just gave her 3 days,and asked her to work immediatly after the rest.
no matter how well my friend does,she still can not get the love from her bf's family ,she is usually sneered at by her bf's sister,and is often asked to do those hard work .
her bf can not help her ,because he is afraid of his family,my friend loves her bf so much that she can not live without him.
on seeing this ,and being her best friend,i really don't know how to help her.
hey ,my friend, when you meet this ,what will you do?
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6 responses
@sreevasu (2717)
• India
6 Jun 07
You could talk to her boy friend and tell him to be more courageous if he loves her very much. Can he stand on his own or is he a dependent of his family in earnings? Anyway it is too hard and cruel for a man to do this to his lover. Again it is too cruel for a woman to do this to another woman.
If you are in good terms with his sister you can talk to her openly. Sometimes she may turn her head but you can give a try. Or you can find another place for them to live.. and find a source of earning to him.
Thank you Wuyan.
@Luckywuyan (360)
• China
6 Jun 07
thank you my friend.
you know ,they are in Beijing ,and i am in another place which is far away from them.we just chat from the phone and computer.
her bf can not leave his family ,becuse he will be
@Luckywuyan (360)
• China
6 Jun 07
thank you ,my friend
you know ,now ,we are in the different place,very far away from each other ,we just chat by phone and computer.
her bf can not leave his family ,because he will be a pauper,his family will not give his any coin.
i don't know his sister ,and never saw her.
meanwhile ,i have no good salary,so i really can not support her with money,.and where i live now is only a small town ,she won't come here even though i can find a place for them.they can not get used to the life here.
you see, difficult ,right?
anyway ,thank you very much ,my friend.
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@aries_0325 (3060)
• Philippines
12 Jan 08
I think that is a stupid lady. She need a good advice to someone like you to enlighten her life. She need to have a new life and she need a beautiful life. Just tell her not to waste her wonderful life to her boyfriend and there is someone better than her boyfriend.
@pramodthakur (2365)
• India
7 Jun 07
This seems family problem. There is difference of opinion in the family and disrespect for the girl. Your friend should leave the house and settle down. His wife is being tortured by sister. Sister has no right to behave like that. Your friend must oppose this otherwise this will be a habit of his family members. This time sister is misbehaving, after sometime all family members will do the same. Your friend and his wife must oppose this. There is a limit of tolerance of everyone and it is our duty to protect at least ourselves.
@Cathzsmile (171)
• Philippines
9 Jun 07
Based on my personal opinion your best friend's boyfriend doesn't really love her. Why??? It's because if that guy really loves your friend he will face the responsibility of being a righteous man and as a future father of those innocent souls that has been aborted. How many women today has experience an unwanted pregnancy? Let's be realistic that 8 out 10 women got pregnant without taking esponsibilities of both parties. As a woman we all know that it is not easy to become mother because it takes time, love, effort, concern, respect and a good role model of a new youngster.
If I were your friend I'll keep my baby safe from harm. The fact that she already lost 3 little souls because she doen't feel secure for the future of the her baby. If ever she got pregnant again... tell her to keep the child eventhough the father doesn't want to take the responsibility. I think she must love herself first before anything else... I should say that I'm saying these things because I was been there once and I don't want to happened again. It is hard to fight with your own conscience.
@toe_ster (770)
• United States
6 Jun 07
This is a hard one. There is not really much you can do I don't think. You can voice your concerns to your friend in a nice way so it does not sound like you are judging her. Just suppoert her. Be a good friend. So if anything happens she will always have you to turn to. It sounds like she is in a toug situation. If ever they marry itmight get easier I don't know. Sorry your friend has to go through this.
@sheenblood78 (188)
• China
9 Jun 07
Hi Lucky tell your friend find another bf...if her bf really loves her he should fight for her....hes not worth at all too many boys out there ......tell her not to make it difficult for herself.......
