Friends?

United States
June 6, 2007 3:18pm CST
Recently, I received a friend's request from someone who had never responded to any of my posts or to any post to which I had responded. In fact, this person only had a posting score of 1 when I received the friend's request. By itself this is not that big of a deal, but when I checked this person's profile page I found that they already had 178 friends! Imagine a posting score of 1 and 178 friends. What does anyone think could be going on when a person has only responded one time to any posting and already has 178 friends?
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@nicolec (2673)
• United States
6 Jun 07
I often wonder how they decide who to ask for friends. if they have only one post, who told them it's important to have friends? I didn't figure that out until probably my second week. And do they just sit there for hours and request a friend randomly?
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• United States
6 Jun 07
Maybe they spent a lot of time reading other people's posts. So out of curiousity, why is it important to have friends here? I imagine that you are right and they are requesting friends randomly. Sad way to make friends.
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@nicolec (2673)
• United States
6 Jun 07
Friends will respond to your dicussions. It gets you more notice. And if you chose your friends wiseley, you will always have great discussions to respond to.
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• United States
7 Jun 07
"And if you chose your friends wiseley, you will always have great discussions to respond to." Exactly right! I'd rather have good friends and discussions than a high star rating. LOL :-)
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@Lindalinda (4112)
• Canada
6 Jun 07
I think some people just want to make a lot of friends. I get a lot of requests from people who have very few discussions and have never responded to any of mine. Maybe they are new and under the impression that the more friends you have the more you will earn or they plan to approach you later with a referral request. Who knows. I usually leave these requests in pending and check out their posts and responses after a few weeks. Sometimes they are already inactive.
• United States
7 Jun 07
I had not thought of leaving the request pending. I just like to tidy stuff up and not leave things open. Maybe I'll try your idea next time.
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@happymom1 (1179)
• United States
6 Jun 07
Its ok to me redyellowblackdog maybe he just want to have lots of friends. I am shy to send a friends request sometime that i just wait for someone to do that and its wrong. I must do that for myself too. I answer lots of discussions that i am interested to answer from anybody. There are discussions from my friends but not all i like so i look to new discussions and find something interesting.
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• United States
7 Jun 07
You give good advise. I am just too suspecious, I guess.
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@friendship (2085)
• Canada
7 Jun 07
How long has this person joined in myLot? There are number things that I can think of. If this person is a newbie here, he may want to have more friends first before participating on discussions. However, if this person has joined myLot for a quite some time. Hmmmm....this is rather weird. Perhaps, his purpose to come here is not money. Without participating, he won't get earnings at all. I think he may want to sell something here. OR he only participates on myLot because his friends invited him. He is actually not interested in myLot but he can't refuse his friend's requests. You know what I mean.....
• United States
7 Jun 07
I did not think to look how long he had been at myLot. I'll be sure to check that next time. Thanks.
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@Debs_place (10524)
• United States
7 Jun 07
I have received requests like that, I usually turn people down like that, my guess is that they will just send me some spam or something as personal mail. I received a request from someone about 2 weeks ago, had 300 friends, had answered 8 questions, posted no questions in I think it was 6 months they had been members. I don't think so!
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• United States
7 Jun 07
I would not think so, either!
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@Calais (10900)
• Australia
6 Jun 07
Very very strange. It makes you think what they are up to. Whats the deal with them. That would be a reject straight away.
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• United States
7 Jun 07
Yes, I did what you say.
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• United States
6 Jun 07
I have received some requests from people who haven't responded to discussions nor started their own. I know that we all started out from scratch when we first signed on to MyLot, but how about actually responding to some articles before you request to be a friend.
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• United States
7 Jun 07
You make sense to me. I agree.
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@surveygrrl (1270)
• United States
6 Jun 07
I don't think I have any friends. I guess I am pretty picky when it comes to that. I have a myspace and only have about 40 friends. They are all peope I really know. I personally think you should get to know the perrson a little first not just pick random people as friends just to say you have friends. That is completely my opinion though.
• United States
7 Jun 07
When you get ready to have friends at myLot, they will be lining up to get on your friend's list.
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
6 Jun 07
Everyone has to start somewhere though. Maybe this person just started collecting friends before they became active. I know I did this when I first joined. I aqquired 55 friends before I started posting and or responding. Someone has to accept newbies. Just my thoughts HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
• United States
7 Jun 07
Wow, I never would have done that. Proves people really are different.
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6 Jun 07
They could be just after friends? But I suspect it has more to do with sending friends spam, I mean I've had this happen to myself. I once used to be a very higher poster within a day and that got a lot of attention from people who thought they could earn from me. (sending other paid sites like mylot) yet ones with no proof.. Personally I only accept members who have over 500 posts or if their post count as increased by a fair amount. (otherwise I kindly reject them) Kudos, ~Joey
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• United States
7 Jun 07
A possible spammer is a definite option for an answer. (Kindly reject them?) I gotta learn how to do that! :-)
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• Kottayam, India
7 Jun 07
We discuss subject not persons, as per guidelines,and you have ultimate choice of selecting friends.
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• United States
7 Jun 07
Can't argue with that. Good point.
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• Kottayam, India
7 Jun 07
I thought you will be angry but you answered diplomatically thank you dear thanks for responding like this
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@gardengrrl (1445)
• United States
7 Jun 07
A guy who gets a huge response to his discussions, RonReyes is his username, I think, posted a discussion last week telling his secret to having such popular discussions. One of the first tips was to accumulate as many friends as possible. He suggested that the very ambitious might want to send a request to every person in each of their interests. Perhaps this person saw the discussion and is working diligently to build his list. Who knows, but it is definitely a red flag!
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• United States
7 Jun 07
Red flag or a hard working myloter? How to tell? Who knows?
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• United States
7 Jun 07
This RonReyes request to be my friend 4 time and I denied it each time. I think he only had about 500 points at that time. He does get an average of 150 to 200 responses to his discussions but unless he comments to a lot of the responses and keeps the threads going it is not going to increase his earnings.
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@estherlou (5017)
• United States
7 Jun 07
First I would wonder how new they were to mylots. It took me awhile to start accumulating friends. I learned to post and discuss first. Sounds weird to say the least. But many times I put in friend requests because I was impressed by an answer they made to a post that I was reading. Then, I'd go to their profile and check them out and then put in a request.
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• United States
7 Jun 07
I'm with you on wanting to have discussions with who I become friends with.
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• Singapore
7 Jun 07
Hi Friend : May be he felt lazy or simply too busy to respond to the discussion. But I guess his discussion he started that he started must be interesting to garner that many request to become his/her friend. Yours Truly, Tony Chai a disabled trader http://options4u.blogspot.com
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• United States
7 Jun 07
Howdy, Tony! The 1 point the person had was for responding to someone. I think he sent out friend requests as opposed to being asked. How would anyone ever hear of him otherwise? That one response was not anything special that I could tell. Good trading, Tony.
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• Singapore
7 Jun 07
Hi Pal : So far I've not sent any request for friends but in the first place I didn't really know how to make that request :) Your discussion really garnered lots of responses. You must be popular :) Take care mate, and send my greetings to your wife :) Yours Truly, Tony Chai a disabled trader http://options4u.blogspot.com
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• United States
7 Jun 07
Tony, This is the first time I've ever had a thread be this popular. I was quite surprised. I guess topics of a general interest to everyone do better than others.
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@cher913 (25884)
• Canada
7 Jun 07
yes i agree...i have about 18 pending requests that i havent answered because i dont know who they are lol and i havent answered their discussions or they havent answered mine......
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• United States
7 Jun 07
18 pending requests? Sounds like you need some encouragement. So, here it is. Go ahead make your day, DELETE'EM!
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@MJLami (1173)
• United States
7 Jun 07
I'd say they were a fast learner with mylot. There've been many discussions about how increasing your friends increases your earnings. I guess they wanted to start off as quick as possible.
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• United States
7 Jun 07
That could be it. Really a go getter!
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
7 Jun 07
I know that is strange and something doesnt add up. When I get them I dont accept them as friends. I need to see that they have started some discussions so I could see if I have anything in common with them.
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@sarah22 (3981)
• United States
7 Jun 07
your so right, and that what i do too
@tredale (1313)
• Australia
7 Jun 07
Oh I found this interesting I never really thought about why people want to be on your friends list but spam is a reason I never considered. When I first got on here I had read a posting that said get as many friends as you can and I went and added everybody and anybody I now have a lot of people who havent excepted my invite I wonder if this is one of those reasons though now Im over 100 discussions you would think they might add me soon. lol
• United States
7 Jun 07
I'm sure there are lot's of people who would add you to their friends list, now that you have been here awhile.
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• India
7 Jun 07
i think he is trying 2 make money,,,,n thatz all,,,,,u should not accept his frends request
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• United States
7 Jun 07
Okay, I won't. Good advice!
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@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
7 Jun 07
I get requests all the time from people who have never replied to my discussions or I theirs. I deny their request.
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• United States
7 Jun 07
Good for you! Of course, you look real cute in your avatar and lot's of people are naturally going to send friend requests to you. Hmmm... looking at my avatar makes me wonder. Maybe I'm getting requests from dog lovers?
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