What is something your mother told you about love that you will never forget?

@LRB1111 (356)
United States
June 6, 2007 9:31pm CST
Hi to everyone. One thing i will never forget is something my mom said to me back when i was young. I remember i was really upset about a boy i was dating. He was my first boyfriend and well, things did not work out so well being how young and immature we all are in the beginning when it comes to "love", or the illusion of it anyway. I liked him so much (teenage infatuation) and i was so devastated. My mother tried to comfort me by telling me "never put anyone on a pedistal...they will just fall off eventually" It didn't really help matters then but for some reason i remember that saying. It's funny how we remember things out parents have told us when we were young. Some of us end up telling our own children the same things, so as not to repeat the same mistakes we have in life. What is something that you can't forget?
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@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
7 Jun 07
something my mom taught me about love? is to not let myself be blinded too much about it. women tend to be so foolish when inlove. we don't see the mistakes of men when we're already falling too much into them. even if they have already hurt us many times, we just can't let them go... to the point that even if it's their mistake, we are the ones ending up apologizing. through what my mom has told me, i don't only see what's good in my boyfriend but also the things i don't like in him. through this, i don't get blinded. more so, i talk to my boyfriend about things i don't like in him and he is willing always to listen and talk to me about things. it strengthens our relationship from time to time and i am glad that it does. ... anne
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@LRB1111 (356)
• United States
10 Jun 07
All that you said is true for me. It's hard to let go. My past relationship failed and although my ex was wrong in so many ways i still find myself apologizing and feeling guilty. I guess i am just lonely and it's hard remembering how wonderful everything things once felt between us. And to go from that feeling to barely communicating is just heartbreaking. I think if it can happen once it can happen again. I am afraid to find true love and than suddenly we grow apart and i realize it was all in vain. My mother experienced this several time and now she is alone and i know she hurts so much over her past failed relationships. I cry just thinking about her pain and so i feel guilty even wanting love for myself until she finds her own. Since she is getting older of course. Its a terrible feeling.
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@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
10 Jun 07
letting go of someone is never easy. it entails a lot of pain and sacrifice. but we have to do it. sometimes, we don't try and listen to our parents thinking that they don't understand how we feel. but later on, we realize that they are right. we believe in them when we are already experiencing pain. and glad to know that they are always there for us when we are falling... anne
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@MJLami (1173)
• United States
7 Jun 07
My mother told me not to give up on love just because I had a broken heart unless I was at least 35 years old. Funny, but that's when I got the most severe of all broken hearts - at the age of 35. And you know the worst part - she was right. No one has mattered since.
@MJLami (1173)
• United States
10 Jun 07
I'll pray the one you love also loves you :). In my case I do love and am not loved :( What I did have was someone else interfering with the one I love expecting the creep was going to control and manipulate me instead. It wasn't me that was wanted - I was then a homeowner and landlord - the idiot moved next door with his "man" and thought he would hide his true identity and get a free ride too from me after all he told me I work because I want to and he doesn't so he expected to benefit from me ?? Oh yeah, somehow that mortgage I paid didn't exist - I stole the house. This person cost me the love of my life for a house I sold just to finally end living next door to and all that the creep did to me while it was only a neighbor. If there was any purpose in me living that I pray it's for everyone else on earth to love and be loved by the one they love and to not ever have some creep interfering with that and preventing happiness from becoming.
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@butterfly39 (3907)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
I was not very open to my mother when it comes to love. But when i got a serious relationship she always tell me that "okey since you like to do it, then go and just make sure that you can stand still to that". To her love is trust, respect and accept.
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@LRB1111 (356)
• United States
10 Jun 07
I am not too open with my mother about things related to love either. In fact i don't even have many friends that i feel comfortable talking to about relationships either. I think i want them all to think that nothing hurts me (since i have been hurt several times) and that i am always in control of any given situation(which i am complete the opposite.)
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• United States
7 Jun 07
My mom told me "are you sure you want to marry him?" when I was getting ready for my wedding to my now EX husband. LOL If I had only listened!!!! Actually, while everyone was right.. he was SO not for me... we have 3 great kids out of it so I'm glad I did it!
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@LRB1111 (356)
• United States
10 Jun 07
Yes the kids are the blessing! My mom has never liked any of the men i have ever been in relationships with. Mothers intuition?
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@lpetges (3037)
• United States
7 Jun 07
That "time heals everything" its the absolute truth. and "never go to bed mad at eachother" another good bit of advice.
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@LRB1111 (356)
• United States
10 Jun 07
Very good advice. Time does heal things slowly but the memory remains.
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@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
7 Jun 07
My mom was worried about me when she saw no sign of me getting married. She always nag me and ask me when I will get married or whether I am seeing someone or not. She even gave an idea one day for me to tackle my own best friend. I found it really funny. I have been friend to him for the last 10 years and never have a special feelings for him. One day, when the topic came out again, I told my mom not to worried too much as I can take care of myself and I just made a joke with her; I told her that it doesn't matter if I have to live alone and end up in an old folks' home one day. Unbelievable, I MADE her cried. She told me this, "You must know one thing. Do not compare your mother's love with your sister's love. A mother will be with you no matter what happen to you but it will not be the same with your siblings. I am here and that's why you don't feel anything but when I am gone, then only you will realize how hard your life will be without someone who really cares for you!" I was just DUMBFOUNDED! *btw, I am happily married now!
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@LRB1111 (356)
• United States
10 Jun 07
Congratulations that you found your true love! The thing your mom said about not realizing what it would be like when she is not around is so true. My mother still tells me the same thing all the time. I think it is because i have made a lot of wrong decisions in the past and she was always there to help me pick up the pieces. I always joke too that i don't mind ending up alone with 50 cats. She has never pushed me to marry because most of my ex boyfriends were not exactly the responsible types. She is still searching for love as well and it makes me feel guilty to be happy with anyone when i think she should be happy first. She has dealt with much pain from her past.
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@kareng (7986)
• United States
7 Jun 07
My mom's classic advice was to never go to bed mad at one another. This didn't really work for us since we worked opposite shifts for almost 20 years! It's very important to talk and keep communications open!
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
7 Jun 07
my boyfriend and i talked about it to never sleep when we're mad at each other. we should talk about issues first so we can sleep well and not mad against each other. and open communication is necessary for a relationship to work and last a lifetime. without it, there's no sense in keeping the relationship together. ...anne
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@LRB1111 (356)
• United States
10 Jun 07
Yes communication is very important along with trust and respect. I had an ex who would avoid conflict at all costs. Like most guys that would rather walk away or change the subject instead of having an open, honest and mature discussion so that these feelings don't build up over time.
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• United States
11 Jun 07
My mom and dad had a great marriage and I will never forget her saying to me when I got married that if there is a argument don't go to bed mad at each other. She said because you never know whether or not they still will be alive in the morning so you can make up then. The time do make up is before you go to bed at night. I have listened to that advice and think it is very sound advice. She always treated Dad very special and did little things to let him know how much she thought of him. She told me to never take my relationship for granted. She always put little notes for dad to let him know she loved him. I have followed her advice and through the rough times also. We will be married 35 years in August and moms advice has helped us more than she knows.
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@LRB1111 (356)
• United States
11 Jun 07
Hi sunshinelady :-) Your response was touching. A mother is wise and that is beautiful advice. It's important to let others now how special they are. I can't wait to be in that situation and share that kind of love with someone.
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@ieiuio (1)
• China
7 Jun 07
love is like a apple you look and choose the best one after this you eat and some times they are not good but some times they are the better apple that in your life but they finish one day =)
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@LRB1111 (356)
• United States
10 Jun 07
Good advice. What if the apple does not look too good on the outside but inside it is just the right one? This is sort of the situation that i am going through right now. The one that i chose because it seemed the best is probably rotten to the core. Only time will tell.
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• India
7 Jun 07
the one thing i wont forget what my mother told was to think twice in what ever we do,especially in money matters.
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@LRB1111 (356)
• United States
10 Jun 07
Yes when dealing with finances that is good advice to take. Although sometimes i think i would rather be penniless with someone i love rather than rich and all alone.
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@abrarr (1246)
• Pakistan
7 Jun 07
well i think i agree with u. v don't care about opur parents for what they r saying until and unless v get experience just for once by ourselves and after that we will always obey them.!!
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@LRB1111 (356)
• United States
10 Jun 07
I sometimes don't take advice that i get from mom because i think i am trying to prove everyone wrong. But time and time again.. i think i may be starting to understand her advice.
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@Foxxee (3654)
• United States
7 Jun 07
When I was having problems with a certain man, I remember my mom telling me "anything with a peeeeenniiisss between their legs are as$holes." But that is my mom for you. LOL! Be lucky your mom put it to you so nicely. :)
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@LRB1111 (356)
• United States
10 Jun 07
Haha that is funny (but also sometimes so true!)
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• Philippines
7 Jun 07
Im always wanting and wishing to have my own boyfriend..who will love me truly and be with me always and comfrot me when im down but as expected my parents didnt allow me to have one since i was so young..i couldnt then forget my mom said to me.."Dear let Love be the one to knock at ur door in God's time for Love never runs out."
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@LRB1111 (356)
• United States
10 Jun 07
Yes that is good motherly advice for someone at a young age. I made a lot of mistakes when i was younger because my mother was not as strict as she could have been. I may be older know but i guess i am still waiting for love to knock on my door. I'd be happy if it just peeked in the window.
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@tala91285 (1080)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
The one thing that I remember my mom telling me about love isn't really about the boyfriend/girlfriend stuff... She told me that nobody can ever love me the way my parents do, especially my mom, because a mother's love is unconditional no matter what I do or what I become.
@LRB1111 (356)
• United States
10 Jun 07
This is so true. A mothers love is eternal. Even if there is no communication it's there deep inside somewhere. We are a part of our mothers so this connection will always be there no matter what happens. I think we carry a piece of our mothers spirit inside of ourselves wherever we go throughout life.
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@tala91285 (1080)
• Philippines
11 Jun 07
Also, without my mother's love, I wouldn't be the person I am today ^_^