Would you change your guy for you?

@maean_19 (4662)
Philippines
June 7, 2007 12:48am CST
You have a boyfriend who smokes and you are a non smoker person, how would you tell him to quit smoking? Your boyfriend drinks even when there's no occasion, would you ask him to minimize it or quit? His mom talks a lot and loves to mingle to your personal life, how would you tell your guy about it? His friends are bad influence to your boyfriend, would you ask him to quit seeing his friends? He has no work. How would you tell him to find one? There are things that you don't like aabout your boyfriend, would you ask him to change t for you?
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6 responses
@joimarquez (1840)
• United States
7 Jun 07
my boyfriend is a smoker and i am trying to change him to be a non smoker...i want him to quit because its not healthy for him. Its tough though coz we always end up fighting but now i gave him a deal that he doesnt smoke infront of me or inside the house...its been 2 months since we started the deal and its working fine. so yes i would change my guy if it benefits him.
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@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
That's good. In a way, you made a compromise to lessen the argument.
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• United States
7 Jun 07
thats true, but im also trying to lessen the times that he smokes...coz before when he was allowed to smoke infront of me he can finish a pack a day but now he only smoke half a pack a day hehehe....he's changing slowly and he doesnt even know it hehehehe.
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
yes... if he loves me... he will do that with out i telling him...
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@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
How far can you change him?
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@butterfly39 (3907)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
Hey! What's that?... If you find it hard to tell him those things, break him up! Don't commit yourself to a guy whose jobless, and full of vices and doesn't care your feelings.
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@tinamwhite (3255)
• United States
7 Jun 07
To go into a realtionship thinking that you need to change this person in order for the two of you to make a lasting realtionship is unrealistic and unfair to this other person.....would you want a man who says I will love you only if....you change these things....I think not... We all change and grow as we mature....but in order to have a truly happy, healthy, mutually respectful relationship is to find a person that you care about...who care about you and give them the space to grow into whomever they will become....to expect to change them is unrealistic... I fear if these are things that you are feeling about your boyfriend then you are probably setting yourself up for failure and heartache... Please do not get mad at me....I am trying to be helpful...Trying to give you the benfit of all of my years of life that you have yet to experience....
• United States
7 Jun 07
So sorry about the double post...it was an accident...oooppsss!!!
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
I would love him the way he are. And i will respect him whatever he might be. Love defines to be no reason, so whatever might he will be i will still love him despite of his indifference as long as he might not hurt me.
@tinamwhite (3255)
• United States
7 Jun 07
To go into a realtionship thinking that you need to change this person in order for the two of you to make a lasting realtionship is unrealistic and unfair to this other person.....would you want a man who says I will love you only if....you change these things....I think not... We all change and grow as we mature....but in order to have a truly happy, healthy, mutually respectful relationship is to find a person that you care about...who care about you and give them the space to grow into whomever they will become....to expect to change them is unrealistic... I fear if these are things that you are feeling about your boyfriend then you are probably setting yourself up for failure and heartache... Please do not get mad at me....I am trying to be helpful...Trying to give you the benfit of all of my years of life that you have yet to experience....