If you had it to do over would you still have kids?

@wahmoftwo (1298)
United States
June 7, 2007 2:17pm CST
I heard once that an anonymous survey was done and 80% said no. I was amazed at that figure. I really think I would. I admit it is much harder than I thought it would be but the payoff is much better than I thought too. It is incredible how much I love them. I also love watching them expericence and learn about the world. So what about you. Knowing what you know after you have had them would you do it over again?
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48 responses
@TriciaW (2441)
• United States
8 Jun 07
Yes I would do it again. I love my daughters very much and as hard as some of the days can be it is all worth it in the long run. I hadn't realized even until I have been going through a wedding with my daughter how emotional I am over my girls. They are not calling me their emotional mommy. I get so happy for her and you know when you think you have been the happiest you could ever be for your child more comes along and the joy you feel for them is more then you have ever felt for yourself. I am so proud of my girls and I want the best for all of them.
@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
8 Jun 07
I am blessed to have 7 Wonderful soon to be 8 children and I would for sure do it all over again and again and again lol No Questions again, Best wishes and Happy posting =) Stacy
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@Sherry12 (2475)
• United States
8 Jun 07
That is a surprisingly high number that said no. I would definately have mine. That is what I always wanted when I was little was a big family and I've been blessed with 5 children and 3 grandchildren. My kids are my life, I'd be lost without them.
• United States
8 Jun 07
In my opinion the people that would not have children if they could go back and do it over, perhaps should not have them at all? As for me, my favorite reply is to tell people this : While I was in labor delivering my 2nd child my then husband (now ex) had the gall to ask me if I still wanted more children. Well .. those that know me, and know that I have three children now, always laugh at that. ( I told him in no uncertain terms at that point even that yes I did ) Would I change things if I could go back? Probably, but I would still have kids, they are my life, and I wouldn't change that for the world. ~Rachel (I am a homeschooling single SAHM of three wonderful boys)
• United States
8 Jun 07
Yes, having children does have its ups and downs, but I could not imagine my life without my son in it, or my daughter who we only had in this life for almost 4 months. I have always loved children, and always wanted to be a parent. I know there are people out there who chose not to become parents, and that is their right. But, for me, yes I would do it all over again if I could. I think that children bring so much light into your world, mine would be very dull without my son.
@archer1811 (1099)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
i only had one son, and he is 5yrs old, and looking forward to have another baby girl soon if God give us that gift, and about your question, for me no regret at all, at least God gifted me this very wonderful gift that makes my family complete and brings happiness in our house, a joy that any amount of money cant buy. That all your tiredness for the whole day in work will change to an overwhelming feeling once you got home and have your son welcomes you with open arms. And most of all there are other people around us that doing all their best just to have kids. So why should i exchange my happiness to nothing..My son and my husband are my greatest achievement. And no matter what i would still do it over and over again with no regret.
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
Well, for me, Id still have kids! I am a single mother of a 3 year old boy..and i asked for him..i always wanted to have one at the age of 23 for a U-turn in my life..something for me to go on living, because thats the time in my life where i didnt know my reason for existance..stayed home and doing nothing, but now that i have him, it make me work harder and give him the best of life, and i can really get the best happiness any mother can feel. :)
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@magikrose (5424)
• United States
8 Jun 07
This is a no-brainer for me. I would definately do it all over again. The only thing I would change is that I would have stayed with my husband way back in high school when we dated. Then I wouldent have the problems I currently have with 2 of my kids considering they have 2 diffrent fathers and my 2 youngest are by my husband. If I had stayed with my husband when we dated back in high school all of my kids would be his and I woul prefer that over what I have now. But I would definately have kids all over again. They are my life and each one of them brings something diffrent to my life to make it better.
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@squaretile (3833)
• Singapore
8 Jun 07
well, amongst mylotters the percentage is quite the opposite. I read through all our replies and 90% said yes. So the conclusion is that it's still worthwhile to have kids, all the trials notwithstanding. thanks for the thread, it's helped me a bit in my thinking of whether or not to have children.
@crazynurse (7489)
• United States
8 Jun 07
One hundred percent, no questions asked...YES! In fact, I might have more! Ha! I dearly love children and have so much enjoyed raising them and helping them to become the best people/citizens that they can. I actually feel that having children has 'kept me young' so-to-speak. I am ready for a house full of grandkids!
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@carlaabt (3506)
• United States
7 Jun 07
My son is only 16 months old, but he's definitely the best part of my life. Life is a lot harder with him. We don't have money for all the extras like we did before, and we have to stop and consider him before we do certain things. Even if I'm sick, I have to get up and face the day, but I still wouldn't trade him for anything. It's just so much fun being a mom. It's so great when he says "Elliott wubs Mama!" or when he cries, how he always wants mama, not someone else. When his eyes light up when he learns something new I am always so amazed and so inspired. I'm so glad I have him.
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@drummell (66)
• United States
7 Jun 07
Definitely! My life without them would be more of a mess than it already is or should I say was! Kids add flavor and excitement. I would never change it.
@HighReed1 (1126)
• United States
7 Jun 07
I would definitely do it all over again. I wouldn't trade my kids for the world and can't imagine my life without them.
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@golfproo (1841)
• Canada
9 Jun 07
This is an easy one for me. 100% YES. I love my kids. I love to watch them grow up, I love being with them. Now if I was asked if I could do it all over again would I get married again...the answer would be a big NO! cheers,
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@DIDDYDEE (73)
9 Jun 07
once upon a time i would have said if i had my time over i would do without the children, but i must be truthful they are now 16 & 12 yrs old and i would go through it all again. as they become older they become your friends and now all i want is to see what they make of their lifes...will they have children....will they have good careers.....
• Netherlands
9 Jun 07
Yes, I would do it over again. I enjoyed the whole process of my pregnancy and also the labouring process. I cherish every moment of it, and the feeling was just incredible and children are wonder !!!
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@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
9 Jun 07
Yes i do have them because i love kids and i enloy the parenting and a single thought of being without kids makes me sad and see everywhere just the dark end in my life.
@daycarepal (1998)
• United States
9 Jun 07
Yes I most definetly would do it again. The only change I would make is that I would have had more children. We only have 2 children. We have a girl and a boy. We thought, great, we have one of each, that's all for us. But then later as the kids got older we did wish we had more.
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@Ravenladyj (22940)
• United States
8 Jun 07
I most certainly would do it all over again but the second time around I would have more LOL I ABSOLUTELY LOVE being a mom and I have the whole time...sure it gets hard at times but ya know what, just seeing their smiles, hearing them laugh and watching them grow up to be amazing adults totally over-rides the hard times ;-)
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• United States
8 Jun 07
Yes, but I think we would stop at one child because we were only planning on having two and we had twins. We love our kids a lot though so if it was possible to go back and do it all over again we wouldn't change anything when it comes to kids. I have so many great conversations with my oldest son and he always has a great and unique opinion about things in the world and how they work and how they should be.